Feeling hopeless...

Hello, It has been a long time since I have been on this site, I had my surgery in 2006

I did lose a lot of weight, But I lost EVERYTHING in that time....

I lost my family and I am living with my parents for now

My ex-husband didn't like the weight loss so I was ashamed

I am reaching out because I feel so alone!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Thanks.......

Hi BD,

You didn't say if you were having issue with regain or not?  

Sounds like you didn't lose anything of value. If your ex didn't cherish and support you as the special person you are then it's his loss.  

You are not alone and we are here of you. How can we help?

Regards,

Kathy

Hi there, 

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I don't know what you are going through, but I'd like to sendout a virtual hug to you.

I would say stay strong. I'm sure you did the wls to better yourself for whatever reason. I'm sorry that you and your husband aren't together anymore due to the surgery. But if he loved you for you he would stay with you. Sometimes men like big women as a form of control. Now that you've lost the weight,  he's lost that and realized you are "your own person". I could be totally wrong here and forgive me if I am. 

To have your parents, I'm sure some  friends and us here on OH to lean on. Try and see if you can think of the positives you have in your life and what really matters. 

t     

Good for you for reaching out. Keep posting and making new pals online and in the real world. Talking and sharing helps... I'd advise adding a professional to your support system... therapist. Probably time for some labs? Make sure you are good in that area. 

As far as your ex-husband goes... people often fear the status quo changing and weight loss is a huge change...  but IMHO strong relationships grow when faced with changes... weak relationships grow apart... in love, in friends, in family. Cherish those in your life that support you and make you feel awesome... that is love.

Look forward... make some plans... baby step this new life... sending you good wishes that it will be full of awesome. 

Best to you! 

I hope you have a therapist you can talk to. Life is wonderful and then it sucks and then it is wonderful again. We just have to survive the crappy parts to get to the good parts again.

I see your profile says you are in Houston. Are you still in Houston? I am in Houston and know a lot of bariatric support groups inn the area, if you are interested in going to any support group meetings.

You should never feel or be made to feel ashamed for taking control of your health.

Hugs

Thank u......