"i hardly eat nothing at all."

Unless you are tracking, you really do not know how much you are eating. Start tracking every bite. Stop having that cheat meal until you are at goal.

Looking at your stats, it looks like you have lost around 50% of your excess weight which is pretty average at your stage. Buckle down to reach your goal.

You're only 5 months out, why are you having a cheat day? Cut out the cheat meal and make sure you are getting 60-80g of protein (on the higher end during a stall), 600-800 calories or less per day, 64oz or more of water/calorie free liquid and that you're weighing and tracking every single bite.

So here's the thing. You've posted complaining about your weight loss, but you're unwilling to change any of your poor habits. Soon you're going to start gaining weight instead of just losing 2 pounds.

Get yourself to a therapist, figure out why you're being too stubborn to do what you need to do.

It is easy to throw a match onto a pile of dry wood and start a fire. It takes a lot more effort to put that fire out.

For people who have stuck to their plan, let this be an example of what happens when you do something like having a cheat meal once a week.

Your weight loss slows and your chances of getting to goal become less and less possible.

Stopping that cheating will be a big job and then one that you will have to work on for life. Malabsorption will let you continue to cheat without regain for a while, but it will disappear and the weight will come back with a vengeance.

There is only one way to be successful with weight loss surgery. That is by changing your old habits and learning to eat healthy for the rest of your life. I don't have a cheat day once a week, or once a month or once a year.

If I ever started, I don't think I would ever be able to stop.

Please post a log of what you have been eating. All of it.

Have you ever read the "What are you eating today" threads? The VSG board has one, but the RNY thread is bigger, and gets both RNY and VSG people. Post your menus there, and see what others are eating. Having that kind of support can really help.

it is not a stall. You are ingetting into maintenance calories. You are likely eating more calories than your body needs and your body is stopping burning your stored fat, which produces weight loss.

You are likely to start gaining so, as your one cheat meal a week is likely to increase to twice a week, then every day and you are going to stay obese.

THIS.

You've already gotten wonderful advice, so I won't repeat it.

As others have said, at four months out you really shouldn't be having "cheat" days or meals. I am 3.9 years out and still do not do that.

Consider posting what you eat so that people can help you figure out if it's just the cheat days or your overall menu that is keeping you from reaching your goals. You really don't want to waste your honeymoon period. This is your opportunity!

1) Eat less per meal-ALL meals ALL the time

2) Get moving-start exercising. Take a 30 minute walk EVERY day. No eating back the calories

3) Stop cheating. Only pro-body builders get cheat days. They are Adonis's. We are mere mortals.

If it's important to you not to track your food then you need to be really strict with yourself in order to keep losing weight.

1. Eat ONLY meat, fish, and eggs
2. Eat ONLY 3 times per day, no snacks

If you want to eat more types of food or more times per day it is really important that you at least try to track most of the time.