How do you begin to believe you could reach goal?
any suggestions?
There are a couple things I notice in your post. First, you say you always go off your diet. Well, we're not supposed to be on a diet. We are supposed to eating a healthy but normal diet. This is supposed to be a lifestyle, not a diet. Maybe viewing it as a diet, or trying to stay on a diet, is part of the problem.
I'm wondering if believing that you won't be able to get to goal is part of why you always go off your diet. Like, if you believe you won't get to goal anyway, why not eat a cookie? Why bother to work really hard if you think you still won't get there?
I know not everyone gets as low as they want to, but I think for most of us, if we have a reasonable goal, we can make it. I don't see any reason most people should not be able to make it. Again, the goal has to be reasonable. And what's reasonable for one person might not be reasonable for another, for whatever reason. But why wouldn't you be able to get to goal?
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
My "thinking" about eating was really screwed up.
The RNY was a "new beginning" for me. I drew a line in the sand. In the beginning, I had to exist on full liquids & then puree food. For 2 months I made it without my old "comfort foods." I began keeping a food log and "knowing" what I was eating because it was in "black and white" on my journal. I discovered the correct "portion" of food for every stage of my journey. I measured and when it was gone - I stopped.
Changing my thinking to be accountable for every bite. Changing my thinking to eat for health and energy and not for "enjoyment, entertainment or therapy" has been huge.
I credit my changing thought process to prayer, coming on OH daily for more than 2 years, keeping a daily food log (I total calories, gms protein, gms carbs and oz fluid) for more than 2 years, I have a lengthly list of books I've read, I attend monthly support groups. Food is no longer my crutch or my entertainment.
Each day is a challenge. I find the longer I eat "clean" (organic, raw, less processed, chemicals, hormones, etc.) I feel so much better. The cravings - at least for me- are under control. It only takes a day of eating white flour (my downfall) to make me crave more. I don't bring 'trigger" foods into the house. I pack my lunch with what I can have in the correct portion size.
I have made nutrition very important. It is a matter of life and death for me.
I can send you my reading list if you PM me. Best wishes.
I have gotten back on OH, been accountable every day as far as my weight and calories and protein. I track everything I eat on an app on my phone so I can literally add it in immediately so I dont forget. I am taking my vitamins and I have started exercising ever so slightly. And do you know what??? I feel way better than I did 9 days ago!!! I actually didn't think about it until last night when I got home from work and still had energy to cook and clean and do laundry without even thinking about it. I just felt like doing it!!! That was huge for me cause its been so hot at work and at home!!!
So, lets do this!!! Let meet our goal once and for all!!!!!! WHY???? CAUSE WE CAN!!!!!
Amanda, I just had to tell you that I LOVE your hairstyle! I am going to take the plunge in a couple of weeks and cut my long hair short, and I.... AM...... SCARED! My hair is a mess since RNY and is very thin and damaged, so I know cutting it will help tremendouly. And I know I need a change! Thank you for inspiring me!
Michelle (OH member since 2004 - new user name)
HW 285 / SW 270 / GW 140 / LW 135 / CW 185
RNY 6/8/2009
Starting size 26/28, now size 12/14
"Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." -Hebrews 13:8
Although it sounds like the primary issue is the "I always go off my diet" statement, I would just encourage you to make sure that the weight that you WANT to be is a REALISTIC weight for you (not just based on what other people your height have as their goal weights or what some chart says). We all have VERY different builds, so not only do you need to take into consideration your bone structure (and even people who are the same height with a "medium" bone structure may be built vastly differently and therefore have vastly different realistic goal weights), but also your age, your inherited physical traits, how heavy you were to start with and for how long, any medical (e.g., metaboilic) considerations, etc.... because all of these impact what is a realistic weight for YOU. If you have a goal that is simply not realistic for YOU, you could drive yourself crazy trying to force your body down to that weight.
For someone my height, for example, "normal" BMI is anywhere from 115 to 145 pounds. I am almost 49 years old (surgery at 45), had been overweight/obese/SMO (starting BMI of 57!) of my entire adult life (SMO for over 10 years prior to surgery), have medium to small bones in the upper portion of my body but have much heavier bones in my torso and legs, have always had big boobs (still a 36DDD) and very muscular thighs, and had done a LOT of yo-yo dieting ovebr the years. There is no way I could EVER be below 130 pounds without cutting off body parts. With just my build taken into account (not even considering age, metabolism, and weight history), even 140 is "pushing it" (so 145... just barely a normal BMI... was what my PCP felt was realistic. I got down to 142.5 VERY briefly and then, almost immediately, popped back up almost 5 pounds. I really wanted to be 135 pounds... or at least something below 140... so I tried to be very strict about what I ate, tried exercising like a fiend (as much as my knees would permit, and then even beyond), and I gained 6 pounds (muscle, because my body fat % dropped by 3%)... and did additional damage to my bad knee. My body just does not want to be less than 145 pounds (and I can maintain that without starving myself or having to track every morsel I eat).
You did not post stats, but perhaps your body is just where it is comfortable being even if it is not where you WANT it to be comfortable. If you still really have some signficant excess weight to lose and a realistic goal weight, then we are back to the falling off the "diet" issue again. I ahve just seen some people torture themselves trying to get to a weight that, even if they get there, they will not be able to maintain without starving themselves and being unhealthy nutritionally.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
Michelle (OH member since 2004 - new user name)
HW 285 / SW 270 / GW 140 / LW 135 / CW 185
RNY 6/8/2009
Starting size 26/28, now size 12/14
"Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." -Hebrews 13:8