depressed about thanksgiving

Don't feel bad for having a moment of sadness about food. I feel sad about it sometimes too. Mourn the loss and then pick yourself up off the floor and remember why you did this surgery. Think about where your life is going to go. And I don't feel that you should be blasted for venting either. SO come vent about how you feel, if your in the bathroom crying about food, come vent to us! That is why we should be here, to help pick you up when your having a moment of weakness. :)

I sat down and ate a few bites of turkey with butternut squash on the turkey, a tsp of cranberry sauce, 1 tiny piece of sweet potato, and that was it. I felt full and satisfied though. I've realized that the key to surviving the holidays is sitting down with my family and eating even if I can't eat much because if I feel satisfied, I don't even want to look at food.

You can do this. Keep your head up! :)

 

Hopefully you will learn, as time goes on, that holidays are supposed to be about the event, sharing time with our families etc ...  The food really should be incidental and once you are further out you will find that you can eat a little of everything you want, but that your life will no longer revolve around how much food you can eat  ...

I just got back from my son's and probably ate a quarter of what everyone else did - they commented that I wasn't wearing Thanksgiving pants (I had on skinny jeans) and I was the only one not huffing and puffing afterwards.   I had a great visit, got to spend time with the people I love the most and haven't even felt like an "old lady nap" that was pretty much guaranteed when I used to eat a full holiday meal ...

Happy Thanksgiving - give thanks for your family and the surgery that will help you live longer and spend more years with them!

I am almost 11 mths out and I get that feeling too!  Trust me....this is normal.  Glad that you are able to verbalize it!!  Things will get better over time. Trust me.  HUGS!

This was my first holiday post RNY. It was very hard for me too. I tried not to let it get to me, but I ended up overeating. Then I felt guilty and miserable. Hang in there. I pray it get easier for us!!

 

MY HUSBAND AND I also went to our son's house for dinner.  It was a wonderful feeling to see him and his family finally take over the Thanksgiving tradition and be the host.  It didn't bother me at all to taste and not over indulge.  It really is just about the taste, the family, and being together.  By this time next year you will probably be thrilled to be thin and energetic and leave the table feeling lighter and healthier.  Make that a goal and focus on the positive rather than the negative. Count your blessings and enjoy your journey.

 

You are very lucky to get to spend the holiday with your family. It is not all about the food, but about the ones you love. I spent the first half of the day in the ER and the second half of the day in bed or in the bathroom vomiting. I WISH I could have been with family not eating rather than home not eating and throwing up. I had to stay away from everyone so I did not get them sick. I would have been thankful to just of been around my family. I did not even get a phone call from them asking if I was home from the ER. So, please be thankful that you can be with your family and do not spend the time mourning food, but be grateful that you can be with them.

I am sorry you felt this way. This was my first holiday after my surgery and I enjoyed the day of cooking all the foods I have always cooked for Holidays. We had our three daughters and great friends over.  I enjoyed watching them all enjoy my cooking as I ate very little. I had a nibble of the foods I wanted and maybe two nibbles of other things.

The fellowship and laughs around the table would have been something I would have missed more than the eating of the food.

I just wanted to clarify that I know I'm extremely lucky to have this surgery and I know many people who want it will never have the ability to get it.  I also know I'm blessed to be able to spend my holiday with family.  I believe I would have been better if I would have been able to spend it with my mom and brothers and sisters as opposed to with my in laws.  They are my family too, but it's not the same.  As the day went on I did get better and realized that I have so much to be thankful for.  Many mistook my sadness as being ungrateful, which I am not.  I simply had a down moment and wanted to post something since it's hard for anyone who hasn't gone through this surgery to understand these types of feelings.  Food is not everything in life and I'm learning this, but on a day where overindulgence in food is the norm and the celebration is all about food it struck me off guard. 

I cry more because my Mother and Grandmother are dead rather then if I can eat something, enjoy your family they are way more important then the **** you put in your mouth that got you so fat you needed surgery to cure.  Really.

You are not the only person who has lost someone. That doesn't give you the right to be a ***** about it. You have no clue as to what I'm going through. So I would appreciate you not posting anything if you're going to be rude and mean.