What do you say?

Rjoy
on 4/26/16 1:40 pm

I've lost 100 lbs since my RNY on March 2015.  I've been getting a lot of compliments from people telling me I look great and I thank them.  Then theres others that tell me, YOU've lost a ton of weight!!  Which to me isn't flattering but I know (or think) they mean well.  What do you say in those situations?  How much is a ton of weight anyway??  :D  

  

      

Heather P.
on 4/26/16 1:45 pm

LOL....a ton is 2000 lbs....you haven't lost THAT much weight....

I do think they mean well though.  Sometimes I say "I have a ton of weight to lose".

Most people never know what to say or how to say it when commenting on other people's weight, which it why I NEVER comment on someone else's weight unless they bring it up.  

 

Ht 5'7" HW 406, SW 361

RNY 3/28/16

H.A.L.A B.
on 4/26/16 6:29 pm

Complement that is really not....some of my lines are

"Excuse me? it you meant that as a compliment- it is not...."

or.."a ton? hardly.. you know a ton is over 2,000 lbs , right?" (usually leaves them speechless...as I walk away..

Or look at them with a confused face and say " thank you? you meant that as a compliment, right?"

and for people who I know are mean and are making fan of me...I can turn that around on them.:

"a ton? hardly... BTW - how many lbs did you lose?" then depends on their answer - either ask them "only xxx?" or any other mean response...

BTW: next weekend I am going to a social gathering - and I do expect I would need some of my nice  "responses" and  some sarcastic, or even mean...like "I see you found some of them? .."" 

 

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"

"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."

supershopper
on 4/26/16 6:45 pm

I've lost 100 also- starting to get a lot of comments.

I mostly just say thanks and that I feel great. Sometimes I say I have 40 left and then I get comments about where is it going to come from?

Evert once in a while people ask me how I did it. If I'm close to them I tell the truth, otherwise I say healthy eating and exercise.

 

HW 305 SW 278 Surgery weight 225 GW 160 LW: 118.8

RNY 12/15/2015,

GB removal 09/2016,

Twisted bowel/hernia repair 08/2017

M1 Dec 2015-13.0, M2-7.0, M3-14.5, M4-9.4, M5-7.1, M6 9.8, M7-7.6 ,M8- 7.6, M-9 5.5, M10-6.4, M11- 2.2, M12 Dec 2016- 5.8

killinmesmalls77
on 4/27/16 6:58 am - MN
RNY on 05/07/15

The majority of the people who say that do mean well and are giving you a compliment. My response when I hear that is to just say thank you or sometimes I'll say "thank you, I have a ways to go yet". I also have people tell me that they want to say "you look great, but that would imply you didn't look great before"... I just smile and say thank you, because I know it is true. I didn't look great before, outside of my "pretty face" or "beautiful hair"....   I try to always assume people are being nice so I respond in kind. 

HW: 276 SW: 254.1 GW: 125 CW: 154.5

 

chulbert
on 4/27/16 8:25 am - Rochester, NY
RNY on 01/21/13

I say, "Thank you."

RNY_elizabeth
on 4/27/16 10:11 am - TX
RNY on 10/06/15

I say, "Thank you very much.  I've been working hard at it. I feel really great." If they get too judgy sounding about weight and looks then I really get specific about things by saying, "I loved the way I looked before but now I am healthier and my heart is doing great.  I miss my bust and bum but I suppose living longer will make up for the loss."  That usually confuses them sufficiently to let me walk away.

~Elizabeth

Consultation weight: 265, Surgery date: 10/6/15, Goal: 150, Current weight: 129; 5'5, 46 years old

"I am basically food's creepy ex-girlfriend. I know we can't be together anymore but I just want to spend time hanging out" ~me, about why I love cooking so much post WLS

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