My husband's surgery is two and a half weeks away and I'm feeling scared ... about the surgery, the recovery, the phases.  While I've read lots and lots about the whole process and completely support my husband's decision (the best alternative for his medical condition), I'm still worried about the first few days/weeks after surgery and the MAJOR LIFESTYLE CHANGE in front of us.  My head's on straight about this, it's my heart that's kind of breaking.  I've told him I'm scared, but I also know I've got to be (and want to be) his biggest fan.  I'm afraid the days/weeks after surgery will be worse than he expects.  Can you help?

You sound like a great wife!  I bet you husband is so thankful for you.  I can't really help with the scared feelings because I'm feeling scared about my own upcoming surgery, but I hope that someone who has already been through this will respond.