Mind playing tricks on me and so is everyone else's?

I have my VSG in 2 days and depression and confusion are setting in. I have always carried my weight well so what I always get when people find out about my WLS is "you weigh enough for that?" "Just work out more and eat less" "you don't eat much, this surgery isn't going to work"...

And now my mom let me know today that she's not coming to stay next week as we had discussed. I know she doesn't totally agree with the surgery but I am so hurt. She came up with a "good" excuse but this hurts so bad.

As I go through my pre op diet, I've lost weight and now I'm asking myself can I do this without WLS. Hell no, if I could, I would have already!! Ok, I guess I've just talked myself through that. Pre diabetic, hypertension, back, neck and knee pain are all reinforcing my decision!

Thanks for listening OH family...and thank God for my supportive husband (he's skinny so he can't understand what I truly feels but he tries)

You can do this!  Sometimes (heck, most of the time) it's a solitary journey, and only you truly know why you're on it.  Keep your chin up!

Thanks Sandy!

Hey your husband is by your side that's all you need . go girl do your thing.

 

Awe, thanks for the encouragement!

Some people will never get it.  They either fear for you or fear you looking better than them or fear losing their eating buddy...  In the end, you have to do what is right for you.  They will come around once they see that it really was right for you.  

So glad that your husband is supportive - even if he can't quite get it, his support will be invaluable!

Hugs and happy thoughts are headed your way!

A supportive spouse is your biggest tool. Mine has been freaking amazing. Without him, I KNOW there's no way I would have been able to be successful, he's been amazing.

You'll be fine. We all, for the most part, got jitters at first. Feel it, acknowledge it, talk yourself through it and own it. HUGS!

The biggest thing hubby did for me is stand by me when we decided to change ALL of our horrible eating habits. The whole family has. I have noticed lately more and more crap food coming into the house, so I think we'll have to talk about that again and readjust, but it's all about being along for the ride and learning process.

Keep your head up. They are right a supportive spouse is a great thing to have even though he is skinny and doesn't know the feel we get.I went through all of the thoughts you did too. I got worried so much. And as i laid in the hospital afterward i wondered for what? It is so worth it. I am still in the healing stage but I am so glad i was sleeved. I can't wait to go back to full exercise. Keep your head up.

You'll probably be fine and won't need help from your mom. As for the hurt, unfortunately that will take longer to stop feeling bad. But when your weight starts coming off, I bet your mom might become more enthusiastic and supportive.

You are way ahead of the game in having your husband in your corner. Believe in the good decision you've made for yourself! You deserve this change.