OT...Way off topic Really Hard Week

Thanks Ruthie. You gave me a chuckle with the weapons comment!! I was trained to use all kinds of weapons in the Army and now wish that I had one. I never wanted one in the house when my children were small but, now I think it may be time. I'm tired of feeling like the victim!

The place we would go would be a hotel at least for the first couple of days. She still won't budge. I could make sure she doesn't know where we were, but I'm not sure that hubby would believe her. And I don't doubt that he would transfer his anger and frustration to my Mom if I'm not available. I can't have her hurt because of me.

Well now, girl you are talkin' my language!  I didn't know you were in the Service.  Good job!  I'm an Army Brat.  What was your MOS?  It's high time to to get you what you feel most comfortable with as far as personal protection goes ... and a refresher course in self defense and/or concealed carry.  Proper training removes the fear factor.  :-)

Like our billboard?  (Hoping I did the upload/copy/paste correctly)  :-)

***Edit*** Nope, didn't work.  Check the last pic in my profile in the the album "Quading in the Desert"  or maybe this link will take you to it?

www.obesityhelp.com/myoh/photos/767403/Quading-in-the-Desert /Guns-Save-Lives/

I was a 91W aka the health care specialist aka combat medic. I went on to be a nurse. I definitely need to get to a shooting range for some refreshers and practice before I purchase a weapon. I love the billboard!!! Thanks for the chuckle!!!

I recommend getting a concealed carry permit, because they are required to teach you the laws so you know 'zactly what you can and can't do in your state.  They usually will rent you a weapon to take the course. Here, I think to qualify with the weapon we had to hit the target 3 times at 10 feet and 3 times at 25 and we had 10 rounds for each distance in which to accomplish the goal.  Cake.  Took 7 rounds.  ha!

What's nice about the permit is that so many states have reciprocal agreements with other states.  My AZ CCW is accepted in 30 states, and the others I've removed from my ever want to visit list.  ROFL!

I'll tell you what's nice... with the WLS... I have options for holsters that were not available to me as long as my belly and boobles were so big. 

Hope you've had a better day today.  I'll check if there's an update to be found on this thread.  Take care.

Listen! New locks will not keep someone out that wants in bad enough. New locks will not keep him from your vehicle. New locks will not keep him from anything!!! New locks will not make you safe! You need to remove you, your son and your mother. You are not placing your mother in more danger if you leave her. You are placing her in more danger if you stay.

I would also report the officer. Go to the office and file a complaint and, I am sure, someone will file the charges that you need there.

Thanks, Fran, for your concern. We agree that the locks won't keep him out. Hopefully it will slow him down enough for the police to get here. I don't believe that me leaving will keep her out of danger. If he shows up here raging and drunk, she would be in serious danger by not telling him what he wants to know. He won't come back here in that state for anything but me and the furry babies.If we aren't here he would expect her to tell him where we are. I know that the police would come but my mom is almost 70 years old. He could do major damage before they got here. If she stays, I stay!

I did file a complaint against the reporting officer. I spoke to his supervisor and it will be investigated. That may take some time so the supervisor said he would start riding with the officer to make sure he is doing what he should be doing in cases of domestic abuse because it was obvious to the supervisor that in this case, he didn't. At least if we have to call the police again the supervisor will come too if we get lucky enough to get the first officer again.

Julie, please please make sure you and your mom are safe- you may need to insist she leaves with you. Please call hotlines and shelters to find out what your options are. I can't stress this strongly enough. It sounds like your husband may not stop at anything- do not expect him to or hope that he sees the light and changes. His behavior is escalating, and that is dangerous. It is not something you can control, and you're not getting any help from the law.

DO NOT BELIEVE ANYTHING HE SAYS ABOUT CHANGING OR LISTEN TO ANY APOLOGIES! It will only be part of his strategy to control you.

GET YOU AND YOUR MOM SAFE PRONTO! Deadbolts are not enough to stop anyone determined!

Hugs to you, grrlfriend. Please listen to all of us.

I can insist all I want that my Mother leave with me, but she is a grown woman. I can't make her leave anymore than I can make my hubby act like a normal human again! I already have contacts with a domestic abuse advocacy group. If at any time I need to leave, I have someone to call once I get to a safe public place. I'm not expecting him to change and no amount of apologizing and promises to change can unring the bell. Once you lay your hand on me in anger, I will NEVER trust you to not do it again someday!!! Game over. That is one bell that cannot be unrung.

Thank you so much for your support. I appreciate you.

Be safe Julie.  Take care of your family and yourself too. I hope things turn around for you soon.
Sheri

Thanks Sheri. I appreciate the well wishes. I hope things turn around soon too.