Weird visit

Sep 01, 2014

My in laws were here for Labor Day and my husband's birthday. They are dear people and I love them, but they drive me insane. I didn't tell them about the surgery but was going to in person. So when they saw me I thought they would comment on the 45  lb weight loss (I mean, it's noticeable at this point), but they never did. So I didn't bring it up because we had to have some other difficult talks with them (about their health, etc.) and I didn't want to add to it. I used to have good relationship with my MIL but it's gotten awkward over the past few years. I think she may be going deaf and won't admit it, and it's negatively impacting our communication.

So I spent the weekend pretending to eat food. I am a 44 year old woman with a child, husband, Ph.D., full time job, and all that other grown up stuff. Why the hell am I play acting? So awkward and uncomfortable. Now I'm not sure I want to tell them at all, but I can't keep eating weird stuff and almost no food with them, when they visit (I cook the big meals). In order to look "normal" I had to take a few extra bites I didn't want or need and was uncomfortable for a while. I am usually have a very upfront nature. I think this surgery is messing with my sense of identity.

Why are ding dang human relationships so flipping hard 

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