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Surgeon TestimonialMarc Zare M.D., F.A.C.S.Ah, first impressions! Dr. Zare' came across as sincerely wanting to help "me". He made me feel so comfortable. The office staff were very pleasant too. Can't find any cons about the good doc. Dr. Zare' personally called me for an initial phone contact, which impressed me beyond reason. I expected some office staff person to do that. Surprise, the good docs are still out there! I've only had initial contact...one office visit so far and that was a very good experience. This is my personal impression of them so far. 2/23/10
At my most recent visit, Dr. Zare' gave me all necessary information for my surgery, pre-op items/procedures and I'm ready. He was very thorough with his approach to me about the whole surgery. We went over everything we needed to and more. He is such a good man, ah, doctor! I'm feeling very confident in my choice for him to do my surgery. March 17th is my day! 3/8/10
- Business & Career - I want to further my career and enjoy learning new things!
- Family & Friends - Raised my 2 kids grown, 3 nephews/working on last nephew
- Dogs - The old lady-Chijuajua&Datsun//The middle one-Chi/Baby-Chi
- Theater - I love going to the movies
- Writing - I love to write....its a dream of mine to write my life story
- Cooking & Baking - Love to cook, bake on holidays
- Education - I have an AA in business computer programs
- Horses - Blackie and Prancer
- BMI over 50 - My BMI is currently 47.1
- Ceramic Painting - Love to draw freehand...I'm okay at it...have a few pieces I treasure
Update on the "new" me! on April 20, 2011 11:02 am
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Wow.....can't believe it's been 13 months since I started this journey! It's been one hellofa ride believe me. Can't say I've had anything in particular that's been extremely adverse up to now. My doctor, Dr. Zare has performed since my surgery...surgery on 3 people that I've sent his way....and one more in the process as we speak. The good doc is such a wonderful person. I thank God everyday for finding him for me, and all the others that will benefit from his expertise! If anyone in the San Jose area, or even Monterey County is looking into this surgery.....this is the man to see! Okay, enough on the good doc.....back to me. I'm so happy with my life these days. I'm hopeful and am striving to remain on this journey on a permanent basis. I don't ever want to go back to the old me. I'm just blown away when I look at all my old pics and see the transformation, for that matter see, really see what I looked like back then. Why is it that I never saw the morbidly obese person staring back at me? Why did I never see her in the full length mirrors I looked into back then? I can't figure that one out! It blows my mind about that aspect of my obesity previously. At any rate....I am an all new person these days and I for one am so grateful for all that I've achieved thus far. I still have 35 more pounds I'd like to have gone, but, I'm taking it one day at a time. I'm eating healthy, taking my vits and drinking tons of fluids! Exercising has become a way of life. Can't say I'm obsessed with it, cause I love walking (at least 3 miles a day at home), but, hate the lunges, and squats that I've learned to do. I get so sore from it. Wondering when the soreness will stop?! I've just started doing the lunges and squats and man oh man, I know why I haven't ever done them up to now! So, if any of you newbies take a gander at this post....know this; Life is what you make it. If you go down this journey, try to make it the best you can, one day at a time! Don't sweat the small stuff, don't stress on numbers, take your vitamins, eat right, sleep right, and exercise right! I love my children so much for supporting me on this journey, they really haven't a clue what their support and pats on the back have meant to me. Thank you to my husband for loving me any way I am.....that means more to me than anything my husband can ever give me....cause I can be a terrible bitch at times!
Officially 10 months out on January 18, 2011 3:14 pm
I can't believe it's been 10 months already! Time sure has flown by. I can honestly say, I love myself these days. I like what I see in the mirror, but, have to admit looking back, I don't recall seeing that morbidly obese person that's in my previous pics ever staring back at me! Life sure has drastically changed for me. I have tons of self-confidence, that I "thought" I've always had. But, I was actually an empty shell of a person inside. My lack of self-confidence hid behind humorous remarks I would say about myself to others. How sad, looking back, I made myself the but of many "fat" remarks that I find so offensive nowadays! Just the other week, I was at a gathering with friends, and one of my very good friends made a comment that took me totally by surprise. It was like this: I was talking to about 4 guys (all younger than I), and as I turned to walk away, one of them says; HEY....and I turn around and said "Hey is for horses"....almost without a second thought those words came out of me.... and my friends husband who wasn't even part of our conversation, yells across the way...."No Hey is for cows". I don't even know why I got so offended by that, but, I turned around and I commented back; "hmmmm, I don't think I even come close to looking like a cow these days, and I don't think you want to mess with me verbally, cause I will chew you up and spit you out!" Well, that didn't sit well with him and he basically called me a cow, again. So, I turn back to the guys I was conversing with and I told them; "that's ok, I'd rather be referred to as a cow, than a skunk!" At that remark everyone was in hysterics... and my friends husband turned red as a beet and turned around and walked away, mumbling something or other.... Needless to say, it was a wonderful feeling to put him in his place. But, most of all, in the past I probably would have gotten so upset by his remark, it would have brought me to tears. Not anymore. It's a new day baby! I'm not just looking good, I'm feeling good! Life is so great for me. I don't have to feel any shame about how I look these days. I don't have much more to go to meet my goal, and I don't care if it takes another 6 months, but, I will get there! I am planning on a longer and healthier me for the rest of my life!
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Onederland never felt so good! on January 7, 2011 2:54 pm
January 7th, 2011, almost 10 months out and loving life!
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Yep...finally...reality has kicked in and I'm definately in onederland! I'm actually weighing 187lbs and loving it. I weigh 18 more lbs than my hubby....that in itself is soooo amazing to me! Yet, when I look into the mirror, I still still see this obese person staring back at me! I know, I know, I weigh less, I wear smaller clothes, and when people who haven't seen me in awhile see me, they are quite frankly amazed. Just having someone say hi gives me such a thrill when they say my name with a question in their voice when they say; Mary is that you?! Yet, I feel I still have a long ways to go to be able to see myself in the mirror and see and feel thin. Will I ever achieve that? That's a good question for me. One I've yet to conquer. Other than that, life is just so great! I actually feel so confident about myself. I feel comfortable in my own skin. Been told quite a few times that I'm beautiful, and quite frankly am loving it!
Coming to Terms with the New Me! on November 10, 2010 4:04 pm
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It's been an amazing almost eight months! I can't begin to explain how wonderful I feel. Being able to go day in and day out without being so obessed with food in itself is so awesome! Lately I've been having a hard time with my appetitie, I'm really not hungry much, and I can now eat about 3/4 cup of food at a sitting....it's just that there is nothing I really truly enjoy enough to want much of. So, I try to drink my protein shakes, drink my water, take my vits and plug along. Hair is still falling out, yet, not as much as it was. There are times I wonder how this will all pan out....will I really get down to where I want to.... I can't imagine being thin. It's so surreal for me where I'm at now, and people all around say how great I look, why is it I still see that horribly obese person lurking inside of me? My outward appearance is not so dramatic to me as it is to people who haven't seen me in awhile. I still have catching up to do mentally.
I broke my ankle last month....wore an air cast black boot during that time, and just got to take it off last week. Now my low back is outta whack....gotta go to the chiro for a few times to get it back in shape.....so, I haven't been able to walk or do much of exercising this past month, yet.....I'm 2 lbs away from reaching my 100 lb mark! I'm just tickled about it. Such a big number! Who knew? Well, I'm sure my good doc, Dr. Zare' knew this would be happening! He's so wonderful! And thank you to the continuing support of my family....I couldn't have been this successful without them!
Just the other day when my daughter did some glamor shots for me (you can see them in my pic's in here), she sent a copy to my son, and my grandson who is 5 years was asked who is that? He said it was his tia (aunt - my daughter)! He didn't recognize his grandma! That was a defining moment for me to a strong degree. That said, gotta admit, I am so happy with this whole process. God bless everyone involved in my life!
6 Months out....Onerderland looking soooo close! on September 29, 2010 3:19 pm
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Well, it's officially 6 months out as of September 17th! I can't believe how much my life has changed. I'm down approximately 88 lbs! Onederland is looking closer and closer!
Here's a brief overview of how life's changed for me:
First of all ~ Food is not all encompassing in my daily thoughts ~ who would've thought? I've spent a lifetime obsessing on my snacks, meals, desserts, etc..... only those of you who've been there and done that can truly relate to just how miraculously wonderful this revelation is for me! I actually am a picky eater these days and I do not have any complaints about it, believe me! Matter of a fact, I have very few complaints these days...and when I do complain, I take it in stride. Compared to where I was 6 months ago, believe me, I'm not complaining much!
Second of all ~ I'm pretty darn light on my feet these days. I'm walking approximately 3 miles at least every other day and all the in-between times, i.e., breaks at work, after work at the gym, I'm walking here and there during those times and doing exercises I could only watch someone else do prior to this surgery!. I can bend over comfortably, I can tie my shoes effortlessly, I can even exercise and swim for great lengths of time....this in itself is just so wonderful! But more than that, I want to do these things! Lord, thank you for sending Dr. Marc Zare' my way! You have truly blessed me. The good doc has provided the essential tools that I have needed to make a better life (via Lap RNY) for myself and I'm running with them!
Thirdly ~ I can wake up daily and feel like getting up and moving around! I would have never imagined feeling this way 6 months ago! Yes, my life has taken on new meaning.
Lastly ~ Just the other day I went to the doc, and just happened to be walking up to the office when low and behold there stands my doc getting out of her car. When I approach her to say hello, she looks at me incrediously and states; I barely recognized you! Wow, that was a defining moment. After all, I truly haven't noticed that much of an alteration in my looks....but, others certainly have and it feels wonderful, because the good Doc was quick to say how great I looked! Definatley a WOW moment!
Just an additional comment and I'll make this brief...wouldn't want to bore anyone....Everyday is given to me by God and I thank him daily for it, but, just as importantly is that these days I look forward to each day, even if I'm losing my hair, even if my teeth have started to go bad sooner than I'd like them to, even if I have to take in vitamins, calcium, protein that I really don't enjoy taking, I am still so delighted to wake up in this ever changing body with the increasingly sagging skin! I've just learned different ways to tuck it all in! (By the way, Dr. Rey, from Hollywood 90210 ~ you know the breast doc ~ makes these wonderful bras! I just love the one I just bought recently....down from 48 around to 40 around....life is good!
Good luck to all you newcomers and if you're where I'm at these days, give me a holler! I try to come in here as often as I can, it just seems it's never often enough! God Bless!
My name is Mary. I am officially morbidly obese. I am 52 years old, 5'2 and 1/2 and weighed at my first weigh in at the doc's 290lbs. I have never looked at myself as being morbidly obese, but, according to the numbers, I am.
So, let's go back to how I got to be so; I was a chubby child, a fat teen, a "fat" adult and now a morbidly obese middle aged woman. As a young teenager I used to dread school clothes shopping. My mom would berate me, (she was 4'10 and weighed around 125lbs. She berated me so much during those trips to get clothes, that I would cry while we would be picking out my clothes in the "adult" section. Back then, the clothes actually had quite the "old lady" look to them. Thus, when I went to school the first day, I always felt out of sorts. Never had trouble making friends, since I used my heavyness to my advantage and would joke about how "if I got into the desk, I might not get out!"...just to give you an idea.
At home, all I ever got from my family was teased about being fat from 3 brothers, my mother, cousins, and then there was my dad who never really had much to say. Dad remarried when I was 11 years old. His wife was the closest I have ever felt to having a mother figure who was a friend too. She understood me and my insecurities, since she was an overweight kid growing up too. I wanted her to take me school clothes shopping when I was around 14 years old, and my mom would be so jealous, she wouldn't want me to go....yet, money was tight, so she let me. Mom didn't know how to deal with my obesity, and her constant belittling of me just enforced and ensured I would remain overweight. Those days were nice with my step-mom. Good memories. To this day, she has a special place in my heart for always making me feel good at being me. Thank you, Kathy
Still the stigma of being overweight was a large part of me and has remained so to this day. I look in the mirror and I see this woman who is overweight, not morbidly obese! Yet, I know now that I have Diabetes, and all the other things that occupany this illness are frightening, I need to do something to make a change in my life. I've been through a divorce, 22 years ago, and I got lucky 3 months after we filed and I found a man who has loved me as I am, the whole package, even if he is not without flaws, he has always been there for me, thank you, Lupe. He understands my need for this surgery. My children even understand the need. So, with God's help, I am going to look at this chapter in my life as my saving grace. I am going to give it my all to do the best I can and try to be the best that I can be. My faith in God is strong and my faith in myself to be able to follow this through as a life long journey is tremendous. I look forward to a new me, a new future and for once in my life, I am going to be proud to be me, completely. I thank Dr. Zare' for giving me this opportunity. I thank my family for supporting me in this journey. It is going to be tough going, but, I'm ready.