Anne N.

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Deanna_K 21 years, 2 months ago

Anne...Chin up sweetie!!! You keep going for it and they will realize just how serious you are and will step up to the plate...especially if you are knowledgeable and confident in your decision. DON'T WAIVER and NEVER GIVE UP HOPE!!!

toolio 21 years, 2 months ago

Hi Anne, You will get through this. No one can tell you to get this surgery, but we can tell you to research and keep on; regardless of the naysayers. Your husband will come around, once he is further educated on WLS. I think that sometimes our closest friends and family are negative about this because inside, whether they know it or not, they are scared about the new you. As for the negative comments, there is SO MUCH AMMO on this site. You can tell your husband that you all have a better chance of dying each time you get in the car that you do from weight loss surgery. Oh yeah- and more people die of morbid obesity than they do from WLS. There are so many stats you can quote and experinces you can share. Yes- there are very scary cases as well. Just like there are horrific car accidents. Maybe your husband will go to a support group or meeting with a doctor - even if it's just to prove you wrong - and he'll end up understanding this a lot more. Good Luck! Stay positive and on track! Juliet in WA.

Linda T. 21 years, 2 months ago

Just how bad do you want this surgery? I thought so. So, chin up and go forward. Don't look back and don't let anyone pull you back. You can do this. Your family is probably used to you looking after them, helping them, doing for them and by having this surgery, it will be all about you. They will have to be on the "giving" end this time. All those snide comments are selfish. My family thinks I'm outta my mind but I for ONCE am gonna think about ME and only ME. I dont' need their support, as I want this badly enought to be my own support. I have an angel from Florida and a local angel. (I live in WV)and will do fine without the rest of them. They are also scared to death but by having this surgery, if I die on the table, I will be prepared and I will not die of a heart attack, long suffering with cancer, etc. etc. (all those long suffering diseases). I would rather go now, knowing that I did my best to be healthy and stopped living a miserable existance, waiting for the time bomb to hit. So be it. It was'nt meant to be. There is a greater purpose for me elsewhere. I'm paying my life insurance up and writing a letter to each of my loved ones, getting a living will and all the necessary stuff, in case i don't make it through surgery. And in their letters, I'm letting all them know that I would do it all over again. I have lived all my life as a heavy person and am so tired of being treated like a second rate citizen. I'm changing all that......come what may. What's riskier is continuing with this weight. They will come around. Don't concern yourself with how they feel. Concentrate on YOU and things will eventually fall into place.My husband and I eat out several times a week. I'm the one having the surgery. He can still eat out. I'll go with him and talk to him and each place will have something I can take a bite of. The comments your hubby is making sounds like he has other insecure issues he will have to deal with. THIS IS ONLY MY OPPINION. I DON'T KNOW YOUR FAMILY-- THIS IS ONLY MY OPPINION AS TO WHAT IS GOING ON INSIDE THEIR HEADS.

Carol H. 21 years, 2 months ago

Hi Anne, My husband wasn't to anxious about me having the surgery either. He would make remarks like "we can never go out to eat again- you like sweets too much-we can do it if we follow a good diet( it never worked before- and its so dangerous, I'm afraid you'll die." I kept researching about wls and encouraged him to go to meetings and an orientation with me. He is now supporting me. If your husband won't co-operate with you then think of your own well being and go through with it. I told mine I have to get my health back so I can take care of him in his old age. With or with out support think of yourself for once and go thru with it. Good luck and may the Good Lord watch over you. Carol

Cynthia D. 21 years, 2 months ago

Anne, You will get through all off this! It may be very discourging in the beggining, but you keep your head up and smile. You have made a wonderful choice, although I still havent had surgery yet I am just awaiting for my day to just as you are! Know that the Amos family is here for you and will support you! Smile through your journey and journal your thoughts! WE are here for you! Love from Diva Girl

Sharon Neva 21 years, 2 months ago

ANNE~~BEST WISHES ON YOUR WLS JOURNEY~~ May the world hug you today with its warmth, and love.....Pray it whispers a joyful tun e in your heart.....And may the wind carry a voice that tells you there is a friend sitting in another corner of the world wishing you well!~

MommaAngel 21 years, 2 months ago

HI ANNE I just want you to know that I am praying that everything will go smooth as you journey to the losing side. LORD BLESS