People in my life stressing me out!!

May 13, 2011

My Boss is number one on my hit list today.

Yes I realize its budget crunch time, but really.....she needs to learn how to read an excel spreadsheet and not call me every 5 seconds in a panic because she doesnt understand what's written down right in front of her. Can you imagine she actually suggested that I cancel my appointments the other day because she needed me to be there at a meeting just to explain the worksheets to her-again??  Isn't that what your assistant gets paid for??

and the reality is, they dont pay me enough to care between the hours of 4pm and 8am, so she might as well stop sending me emails while I am at the gym trying to get me to come in early....cuz its just not happening.

Interestingly enough, a few years ago I would have totally skipped my workout and run to my boss whenever she called. I used to work for a woman that must have been bi-polar or something, but she would seriously fly into a kind of rage if I had forgotten to open her blinds in the morning!!

Well I refuse to let this new one run all over me like that. I refuse to let my health take a back seat just because she needs a course in excel. The last time, my boss drove me (literally) bonkers and I ended up on BP meds due to my BP getting so stressfully high.....I wont let that happen again. She has not yet managed to make my supposed weekly bi-lateral meetings with her a priority since she started here in January!! Not once, has she met with me, unless it was an urgent basis related to the budget! She doesnt even know that I am off on leave for the whole summer...and has no time to talk to me about it either!

I know it sounds like she is a very busy woman, which she is...however its not like she is some bigwig here. She is only a Director...I have worked for Director Generals, Associate Deputies and a Rear-Admiral....I'm not impressed.

To add to my chaotic work schedule, my daughter's birthday party is tomorrow and I have been running around trying to get everything done for that. It just seems like I dont have enough spare time without cutting into my "me" time! We are having a Tea Party, complete with scones and preserves, finger sandwiches, white gloves and tiaras. I have ordered a Red Velvet cake with strawberries and cream filling in the shape of a teapot and it comes with 10 red velvet teacup shaped cupcakes! Its going to be fantastic!!! But ten 8yr olds girls???? GAH!!!! WTF was I thinking??????

And then.....much more mildly irritating is my honey. *sigh*
He is still out of work, which in and of itself is slightly stressful - but he has picked up the odd shift here and there as a diner cook which brings in enough to cover anything extra, like his smoking habit, which I refuse to pay for and his golf-with-the-boys....things like party supplies and the cake and her new bike...stuff like that. Otherwise, he is at home, being Mr. Mom.

Now I can understand that being home all day can be boring, but trust me there is lots to do!! And the kids are in school so he has nothing but peace and quiet all day! He putters around the yard, plays on the computer, bakes and cooks and does a bit of housework, etc. He says he is really enjoying it...HOWEVER...

He told me the other night that its not ok for me to be gone every night of the week.

Interesting.

First of all....I am not gone every night of the week. I am gone on Tuesday and Thursday after work because I have an AQUA FIT class! I am home by 8pm!! The comment came up because I said I was going to try a new class on Friday with my GFs.

It's not like I am out drinking and partying for pete's sakes!!

I can totally understand that I may be taking advantage of the situation since he is home; I dont have to worry about the kids and can go and do things after work if I want to. Normally, I would not have the luxury because when we both worked in town, it was always rush rush rush to get home, rush to get the kids to do homework and then rush to drive them to whatever activity they had that night and was generally not a pleasant way to spend the evenings. Now, I come home, supper is done, the kids homework is done, they have time to play outside before bed, housework is done and its so much more peaceful and relaxing....which is exactly why we made the decision when he lost his job that he would stay home for a while.

I guess it just kind of hurt a bit for him to say that he wanted me to come home instead of going to my fitness class. I can understand I suppose, but I still didnt like it.

I am just venting a bit just because I am already stressed out about my boss. I love him dearly and wouldnt trade him for the world. It's just that sometimes, I think maybe he just doesn't "get it".

Does that make sense??

Have a great weekend everyone!!

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