Dating after WLS???

Aug 21, 2011

I try not to talk too much about surgery to my Honey because...well because I dont want to drive him crazy with my obsession:) I come here instead  ;)

I was reading a blog about someone going to a restaurant and their significant other not sharing a plate with them. At first I thought, "how insensitive!". I should have been a Gemini though because I am always of 2 minds about everything. My second thought was...ok well maybe they didnt want to have to order something different to acccommodate the person, or maybe they didnt want them to eat something they shouldnt....ok, not so bad after all.

I brought this scenario up to my Honey and as I mentioned, I rarely do....so his answer was very surprising.

He said (paraphrased):
You know Babygirl, this is going to be hard on you in a lot of ways but dont forget its going to be hard on me too. I love our date nights where we go out to dinner, just the 2 of us and we wont be able to do that for a long time. I am not going to sit there and watch you eat one meatball while I scarf down something I know you like, but can't have! I will feel so guilty! So ya, I am going to miss you.

Awww....*sniff*

We discussed how I will eventually be able to get in more than a half cup of soup and life will return to a "new" normal after a while but he certainly had a point. And I totally missed it.

I was so focused on myself, it never occured to me to think about how it would affect him. I mean, I did in some ways....we discussed the whole cooking thing since he is the one primarily responsible for feeding the hoarde......he has been researching new ways of fat-free cooking and searching out sugar-free recipes for me.....but aside from that, I guess I never really thought about it.

Does that make me a bad person?

I always said that if anything were to happen to put me in a situation where I was single again, I would stay that way because there was no way in HELL I was ever going to date again!! I just dont have the energy, patience, or motivation to go through that kind of torture. But now....here I am!!! This is almost the same thing!! Trying to come up with new ideas for dating my own Honey that do not involve going out to dinner!!

Any suggestions??
(keep in mind that my Honey is a very large man so anything exercise that is more than a moonlit walk along the canal is out of the question - or ice skating; he loves that. Actually he doesnt mind a bike ride either....) We actually went to make beer one time as our "date" . That was kind of fun.

So ya.....here I am, nearly 40 and trying to figure out what to do on a date. I never thought I would be in this position again!! LOL!!! Very interesting side effect of WLS!!!

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