Question:
HELP ME PLEASE! I am finally approved and I think I am changing my mind about having
— cheriv (posted on November 19, 2006)
November 19, 2006
Hi I am 11 and half week spost op. & I too got scared & wanted to
back out but this is th ebest thing i could have done I am down 103 pounds
down & feel greta But just os you know its alot of work & can get
hard at times ,,,but if ya want to chat ya can email me & try not to
worry... best of luck Barbara.......
— babs810
November 19, 2006
i think you are absolutely normal. i changed my mind several times. i am 16
months out, and have lost 200 pounds! i am at a normal weight for the first
tome in 40 years. it's not an easy experience, though, and i struggled with
physical problems, depression, deswperation, and my partner of 14 years
left me because she could not deal with her own eating issues and my
changes.
despite all this, i am glad i went ahead. if i were you i would sit quietly
for a while an tune into the inner voice that tells the truth. don't have
the surgery until that voice says "do it!"
Good luck with your decision.
margo
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— MargoS
November 19, 2006
Cheri, I've read on this site that the insurance approval is good for a
year. You might check the letter you got/get from the insurance company
for the 'expiration' date. If you've got time, stop, breathe, continue
researching, join any local support groups you can, read online sites like
this and post questions.
You should have WLS only if and when you feel you're willing to take the
risks that are involved. I understand many folks get 'cold feet' when
their insurance approves their surgery. Hopefully, your insurance approval
is good for a year so you can take a few months to think things through
without feeling any great pressure. :-)
Sue
— crimsoncrystal2
November 19, 2006
I think that having second thoughts is normal. I know I had them! I'm now 5
months out, 70 post op pounds lighter and 130 total loss lbs lighter. I am
glad I went through with it. I feel better, have better control of my
health issues, and get more compliments than I can handle!
You've gotten the worst part done and that's approval. Many would give
anything for what you've gotten. Do your soul searching but in the end
realise you are lucky that you can have it done and are being given a
chance to start your life over. Go for it. Feel free to email if you want
any more info.
— oceanrayne
November 19, 2006
I think everybody has some degree of hesitation when finally seeing their
operation approaching. I remember how scared I was 15 years ago when I had
to get on a plane and fly to a strange city and have my surgery. Since then
I had banding then a revision to By Pass and I can only say how happy I am
that I went the distance, I had a tummy tuck and a great job done on my
breasts and finally a leg lift. The result, at 65 I live up those years I
missed out on by being fat and sick all my life. Now I am neither and I can
dance, do exercise and do all sorts of things I never would have dreamed
possible.
If you have a support group get a buddy o stick by your side and be your
cheer leader. Go on, you can do it and have a wonderfull life.
Congratulations on getting this far. I hope to read more posts from you
after your successfull surgery.
Lise
— Lise K.
November 19, 2006
Hi Cheri... first of all congrats on being approved. This is a wonderful
surgery that gives you back your life (mentally and physically!). I am not
sure if you are posting this because you want someone to convince you that
you should have it. Well I think that this has to be a very personal
decision an dif you are not ready than postpone it (if you already have a
date). Nothing wrong with that. Very normal to feel doubt. I want to tell
you eveyrthing will be ok but I cannot do that because the truth is that
there are complications... they are not overly common but they are there. I
think that many MO people myself included thought that the risk of not
doing the surg was worse than the risk of doing it. Thank long and hard.
Make a pro's and con's list. But do some thinking and don't make any
decison until you are 100% sure it is for you. Best of luck to you whatever
you decide!!!
— SteffieBear15
November 19, 2006
I went thru this over 5 years ago. So scary but the BEST DECISION I ever
made in my entire life! I would jump back on that table in a instant!!
— bob-haller
November 19, 2006
I was a selfpay, from the date that I was approved by my surgeon, to the
time I was approved by Pshyc, I asked myself if it was the right thing to
do. Then once I had the approval from pshyc, whic was a Friday evening, on
Monday I called to get a date....never in a million years did I think I
would be having surgery in a few days, but mine went so fast, I did not
have time to think about it. I am very thankful for that. I know now, 2
week post op, when I went to put on a pair of jeans that used to be SKIN
TIIGHT, and they were comfortable. I knew it was the right thing to do.
Doubt it normal, just ride the wave, if you need to put it off a few
months, do that. It is a very persoanl decission for you. But the results
are truly life changing.
— Marie B.
November 19, 2006
Hi! I think it is normal to question your decision, unlike all the others
above, my experiece has not been so great. I wish I would have thought it
over longer and actually changed my mind. I have not had severe
complications, but I suffered from dehydration and malnutrion for the first
year after my surgery, I had such horrible nausea 24 hours a day that I
quit eating and drinking all together, I felt sicker anywhere near food,
smell, taste, etc....my doc says he has about one a year that this happens
to and it just happened to be me. The last one he had he reversed her
surgery and it did not solve her nausea. The farther I got out from
surgery I was starting to get further without phenergan and able to start
eating and drinking again, I still have many days of on and off nausea and
cannot leave the house without phenegan, which I hate to take because of
the sedating effects. Because of all the problems I had, I have reuined by
metabolism and only ended up losing 55 lbs, I still have about 40 to go. I
was a lightweight to start. I maintain my weight of 185 lbs on only 800
calories a day, my body now refuses to lose (afraid of starving
again??)...my point is not to say don't do it, just be sure you are ready
to handle any and all of the surgical effects you may have, I almost lost
my job because of all the time I missed.....Good luck and if you have any
questions, please email me.....oh, by the way, I am now 15 mos post op
Teresa
— teresagrooms
November 20, 2006
Did you know many folks die from health troubles caused by weight that
could of been solved by WLS? things like type 2 diabetes, high BP, high
cholestrol, etc etc. WLS is the best thing I ever did!
— bob-haller
November 20, 2006
I too was about to back out after one year of waiting before approval. I am
so glad that I did not. I am one year past my surgery date and have lost
120 pounds. I feel so much better and have done things I never would have
dreamed of at my heaviest weight of 285. It is normal to be afraid. Talk to
your doctor and his staff. My doctors nurse was a real help and talked me
through my jitters. Good luck, I will pray for you.
— Vera B.
November 20, 2006
I completely understand how you feel. I had surgery on November 7, 2006.
When I got to the hospital & put the gown, cap and stockings on, they
let my mother and son come in the room. I told my mother that we should
just leave, she said we shouldn't. I asked her if she was sure before they
took me up to the floor where surgey was, and she told me she was sure.
When they moved me from the bed I was on to the surgey bed, the nurse told
me she had given me something to relax me, I told her she could stop it
because had changed my mind and was going to go ahead and get up and go.
The nurse put her hand on mine and told me I would be fine. . I do not
remember anything else until I woke up in the recovery room. If I had known
it was going to be as easy and painless as it was, I would have done it a
long time ago, and I am the biggest wimp anyone has ever met.
— Veronika
November 21, 2006
I felt the same way, off and on between my approval and surgery...Now, I am
soooo glad I went through with it. It is the best thing I ever did for
myself...I am almost 3 months out and have lost about 45+ pounds and feel
great!!! Keep your date and you'll be glad....
— andrealej
November 23, 2006
I felt the same way about a week before my surgery and defintely I felt
like this only an hour before my surgery. I wanted to jump up and go
running. Right before I was placed under anesthesia, I started crying and
didn't want to do it (especially since it was an ordeal even getting to
that point that specific day). I am very glad that I did it and I would do
it again in a heart beat. You do what's best for you, but know that you
are definetely not the first to feel that way. Blessings to you ...
— Nicki F.
December 4, 2006
Cheri..I just got approval for my WLS which is going to be on 1-12-07...I'm
scared too....but I'm more afraid of not being able to live the rest of my
life living it...or just exisiting in it....My weight has taken all of the
enjoyment away....I'm here to talk to...we can support each other. Brenda
— bosslady4b
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