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pammy157
on 6/15/09 9:06 am - colchester, CT
RNY on 03/30/04 with
pammy157
on 6/15/09 9:06 am - colchester, CT
RNY on 03/30/04 with
Topic: RE: They are not just animals.....
Oh yes you and everyone does make sense Reenie.
KimberlyH
on 6/15/09 8:48 am
Topic: RE: Results
Hi Reenie...the decision was mainly Bill's....he would reather take the 5% then raise it to maybe 8%...he said he would reather live like this then to risk living with a stroke or worse...the doctor agreed and said  youve got to live your life, be careful dont overdue it, moniter you BP  anything above 130/70 is criticial for you, they want it between 105-115 over 50-65, he's on all kinds of BP meds right now and seems so tired but I know thats him adjusting to it all, and he shuffles like a little old man its heartbreaking but I try not to show it. The surgeon says by waiting  to operate it makes the chance for developing scar tissue and he said like a glue like barrier between the artery walls might develop as well in two of the areas but not the third area which gave me the impression it would be better to operate with that then how he is now. But then also he can develop an anuresym, which he probably will if this isnt done eventually. Its hard to explain...but we all agreed waiting is the least of two evils though not much for now...but he will need the operation eventually, he said as for time frame we have no clue, we just got to moniter him closely with monthly cat scans and watch the BP like a hawk and NO STRESS. I thought they would just open his chest but the doctor said they would cut all around his back, across his groin then up his chest, they would graft the top area of his artery where its ripped and not the lower tear( the top cause the dont want it to reach his heart), he said it was a  very risky operation that they would have to lower his body temp and then stop the blood flow to his brain. Im scared to death...I know Bill is worried too but he doesnt show it but he's got to be...he has never even been in the hospital before, not a day in his life, and now this. I just dont know..I keep telling myself one day at a time...its all I can do.

"To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe"  ----"Anatole France"

"Joyously grasp the ties that bind you, for they lead straight to the heart"---"Wm."


Kimberly...

reenieb
on 6/15/09 3:48 am
RNY on 03/08/04 with
Topic: RE: Results
Hi Kim, hugs to you and Steve. Did the doctor advise waiting for surgery? Or did he/she let you two make the decision and then went along with whatever you wanted to do? I don't understand why the chances of dying with the surgery are greater than the chances of dying without the surgery.  Of course, there is the complications factor so I suppose that must be what this is about. It seems the risk factor percentages are pretty low - I think even our WLSies were at around the 2%-8% chance of dying, and look at all of us thriving more than 5 years later! I wish you both healing and health and the courage to work through this together. Please keep us posted. Love to you, Maureen
KimberlyH
on 6/15/09 1:55 am
Topic: Results
Goodmorning...spoke with the surgeon this morning...5% chance of dying with no surgery...5-8% with surgery ( graft on the aeorta), I am absolutly terrified. We and the doctor decided to hold off for now on the surgery...the tear has not gotten worse but definalty could or even (probably),develop and anuresym over time. They were worried about the chest pain but said though its not good at least his body gives him a signal when to stop...most dont get that signal.There is just no easy answer....we all thought waiting  at this point is the best option for now. Longer we wait more chance of developing scar tissue...he will definatly need surgery eventually but Im not ready to loose him...they have to stop the blood to his brain and he can stroke or die or anything, its not good. So thats it...I just got to pray real hard thats all I can do...that and cry...its just not fair.

"To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe"  ----"Anatole France"

"Joyously grasp the ties that bind you, for they lead straight to the heart"---"Wm."


Kimberly...

reenieb
on 6/14/09 10:42 pm
RNY on 03/08/04 with
Topic: Monday's Fresh Start

Join me if you like:
Breakfast - protein shake (this was the best ever, with protein powder, lite yogurt and 3 strawberries - so good!)

Snack - if I need one, I'll have a stalk of celery w/1 tsp. PB

Lunch: small chef salad, w/fresh greens, 1 hb egg, 2 oz. sliced ham

Dinner: 1 Muscle Milk drink, 1/2 C. cantaloupe

Workout: lunch hour, probably 2 mile walk

NO CHOCOLATE, all my H2O, vitamins...

I'm not feeling well, very low energy, very weak feeling. Have a good day, friends. Maureen
 

reenieb
on 6/14/09 10:39 pm
RNY on 03/08/04 with
Topic: RE: Angels
My angel was a woman named Denise from Dr. A's group, she was wonderful. In fact, she was on the 4th floor at precisely the same time I was having my surgery - but she was having her tummy tuck and abdominoplasty. We stayed in touch for the 1st three years but lost contact after that. Denise started experiencing weight gain and withdrew - your post has prompted me to get back in touch with her. I'll keep you posted. Maureen
reenieb
on 6/14/09 10:36 pm
RNY on 03/08/04 with
Topic: RE: They are not just animals.....
Pam, I didn't mean for any of my posts to dismiss what you must be feeling about your current boyfriend. I know there is sadness for you in thinking it's time to let this relationship go. Of course, living life with a partner who is supportive and loving is preferable to living life alone. But sometimes the lonliness felt in a relationship without support and without "healthy" love can be much more painful than the lonliness felt without a partner. I don't know if I'm making sense - just want you to know that you have friends here. Take care, Maureen
pammy157
on 6/14/09 11:41 am - colchester, CT
RNY on 03/30/04 with
Topic: RE: They are not just animals.....
I rememvber when Sophie passed away that was terrible.
the older i get the more i realize just how much i enjoy my independence.
i think if i had met someone right after my divorce i'd be married right now but that didn't happen until after i'd lost the weight.
now after all this time i'm extremely careful and more in tune with what is important to me.
ahhh with age comes knowledge!
doesn't make it any easier to have though.
i enjoy a man in my life and i hope that someday i will find that person who will let me be me.
reenieb
on 6/14/09 10:25 am
RNY on 03/08/04 with
Topic: RE: They are not just animals.....
I think about what will happen to Laela when something happens to me a lot. Jim can't take care of her, he doesn't know a thing about horses (but he's a pretty darn good pooper-scooper-upper). Laela and I have such a bond and I am so happy I got her out of that boarding situation and brought her home. All the time I was thinking I couldn't take good enough care of her on my own, I don't know enough, she's still so young and spooky at times (baby-headed horse brains) that I was afraid I would get very hurt. Horses take all their cues from what their human is feeling; the only way Laela can become a confident horse in her work and on the trails is sensing that I am confident, that I'm not going to let anything bad happen to her. Horses are instinctive animals, they think about two things constantly: what to eat, and how to avoid being eaten. Just those two things dictate their every thinking moment. So Laela has to believe that I won't let anything eat her up when we're out on the trails together. We have come so far in these last three weeks, my confidence level is soaring so guess what - so is Laela's! And she knows when my car is coming down the road, she breaks into a trot to the end of the pasture fence and whinny's her hello to me. And I get out of my car and do my sing-songy greeting, 'LAE-LA!' And she calls right back to me. That's the way it used to be with Sophie when I came home from work. She'd bound up to my car and wait for me to step out, and then she would start howling and I'd start howling and we were both howling our, "Hello my lovely, how was your day, I'm so glad to be home with you!" together. I talk better to animals than to people. I offend people although I never intend to. But somehow I do. Animals love me. And I them. I'm with Connie, I can live without a man easily, but not without my animal loves. They are a part of me. It's why I still ache so much, even though Sophie died over two years ago. Love you guys, Maureen
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