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Topic: RE: Let's Untwist Our Panties for Just One Day!
Maureen,
I just don't know what to say so I'm going to say it. I look at your picture and I see beautiful eyes, beautiful smile, a single well-defined chin that we all would have died for 5 years ago and a strong, beautifully well defined collar and shoulder area that I would kill for now. I know you don't see it.
I don't know what Jillian looks like, I'm sure she's beautiful. What I know for sure is that she has not yet inherited her mother's beauty and generosity of spirit. She may one day, but what I've gathered so far is that she has a long way to go.
A few weeks ago, my step-mother went on one of her insane e-mail attacks. Every once in a while, without provocation, my step-mother will launch an all out written assault on my sister and copy everyone in the extended family. We've all learned, my sister included, that to respond will only prolong the insanity. These are the rantings of a drunken, very ill woman. There is no reasoning with her. No matter how many times my sister is unjustly attacked, she always asks herself what she can learn from it and if she owns any of it. I so admire her rational and introspective response. My step-mother on the other hand, sees no fault or guilt on her side.
So Maureen, I have two thoughts on this.
1. Think about what you can learn from all of this and if you own any of it. It's not about blame and it's not about accepting responsibility for someone else's behavior. It's about learning about yourself and decidng whether you have responded in exactly the way you wanted or if you'd like to do something different if there is a next time.
2. Sometimes you can give too much of yourself and invite people to take you for granted and treat you badly. Sometimes you need to act as if you deserve to be treated better, even if you don't believe it in your heart.
Be good to you and as Karen says, fly.
Hugs and love,
C.
I just don't know what to say so I'm going to say it. I look at your picture and I see beautiful eyes, beautiful smile, a single well-defined chin that we all would have died for 5 years ago and a strong, beautifully well defined collar and shoulder area that I would kill for now. I know you don't see it.
I don't know what Jillian looks like, I'm sure she's beautiful. What I know for sure is that she has not yet inherited her mother's beauty and generosity of spirit. She may one day, but what I've gathered so far is that she has a long way to go.
A few weeks ago, my step-mother went on one of her insane e-mail attacks. Every once in a while, without provocation, my step-mother will launch an all out written assault on my sister and copy everyone in the extended family. We've all learned, my sister included, that to respond will only prolong the insanity. These are the rantings of a drunken, very ill woman. There is no reasoning with her. No matter how many times my sister is unjustly attacked, she always asks herself what she can learn from it and if she owns any of it. I so admire her rational and introspective response. My step-mother on the other hand, sees no fault or guilt on her side.
So Maureen, I have two thoughts on this.
1. Think about what you can learn from all of this and if you own any of it. It's not about blame and it's not about accepting responsibility for someone else's behavior. It's about learning about yourself and decidng whether you have responded in exactly the way you wanted or if you'd like to do something different if there is a next time.
2. Sometimes you can give too much of yourself and invite people to take you for granted and treat you badly. Sometimes you need to act as if you deserve to be treated better, even if you don't believe it in your heart.
Be good to you and as Karen says, fly.
Hugs and love,
C.
Topic: RE: Let's Untwist Our Panties for Just One Day!
Thank you so much for this post. I don't even know where to begin or where to end with the list fo things I'm grateful for. I know ya'll don't want to hear the whole list so I'll keep it to the top 90 or so. No really...
My father got a brand new kidney a week ago. OK, not brand new, but new to him. I am so incredibly grateful that through all of their pain and grief, a wonderful and caring family had the generosity and presence of mind to share the organs of their loved one. Please, please consider being organ donors. My father will now get to watch all of his grandchildren grow up and they will have the joy of building memories with their grandfather.
The Man in my life loves me enough to yell at me when I am overdoing it and takes care of me as much as I will let him. He makes me laugh and mst of all, makes me laugh at myself.
My son makes me so proud that I can't stand myself. It was a VERY rough road and a brutal couple of years. I thought time and time again that I would lose him, but we all pulled through. Lose him? Hell, I thought I'd kill him. At 22 he bought his own home. At 24, he bought his own business and the kid I couldn't get up to go to school now works his butt off.
Last but not least, I'm grateful for my pain. I'm grateful that I have pain that I can work through. Pain that can be managed. Pain that can be medicated. How many people are absolutely beyond being helped? There are so many people who are suffering with advanced cancer that is beyond pain management. Ho many people live in third world countries or even our own country and don't have insurance to help with their insufferable pain? Would I like for the pain to be gone tomorrow? Absolutely. Do I wi**** were less? You betcha. Am I grateful that I don't suffer as much as others and consider myself lucky? Beyond a shadow of a doubt. It can always be worse.
I'm grateful for a board like this that puts up with my endless ranting and raving. I'm grateful that you've all hung in here for almost 6 years and you all make me feel that you understand me whether my blathering is weight loss related or not.
Many, many hugs for your fabulous post, Karen
Conne
My father got a brand new kidney a week ago. OK, not brand new, but new to him. I am so incredibly grateful that through all of their pain and grief, a wonderful and caring family had the generosity and presence of mind to share the organs of their loved one. Please, please consider being organ donors. My father will now get to watch all of his grandchildren grow up and they will have the joy of building memories with their grandfather.
The Man in my life loves me enough to yell at me when I am overdoing it and takes care of me as much as I will let him. He makes me laugh and mst of all, makes me laugh at myself.
My son makes me so proud that I can't stand myself. It was a VERY rough road and a brutal couple of years. I thought time and time again that I would lose him, but we all pulled through. Lose him? Hell, I thought I'd kill him. At 22 he bought his own home. At 24, he bought his own business and the kid I couldn't get up to go to school now works his butt off.
Last but not least, I'm grateful for my pain. I'm grateful that I have pain that I can work through. Pain that can be managed. Pain that can be medicated. How many people are absolutely beyond being helped? There are so many people who are suffering with advanced cancer that is beyond pain management. Ho many people live in third world countries or even our own country and don't have insurance to help with their insufferable pain? Would I like for the pain to be gone tomorrow? Absolutely. Do I wi**** were less? You betcha. Am I grateful that I don't suffer as much as others and consider myself lucky? Beyond a shadow of a doubt. It can always be worse.
I'm grateful for a board like this that puts up with my endless ranting and raving. I'm grateful that you've all hung in here for almost 6 years and you all make me feel that you understand me whether my blathering is weight loss related or not.
Many, many hugs for your fabulous post, Karen
Conne
Topic: RE: sore arms
Doesn't it feel great to do your own work? You would not believe how much I miss that. I miss it so much that I'm willing to risk my life having surgery to be able to do it again.
I think you are going to have a wonderfully fabulous month!
I think you are going to have a wonderfully fabulous month!
Topic: RE: Words from the West Side
I can use every last prayer you want to send up. I'll let you know what happens next week but in the meantime, everytime my head spins, I'm just going to pretend I'm drunk. At least I think that's the way it feels to be drunk. I don't think I've been drunk in at least 10 years so I'm going on old memories.
Many Hugs,
Connie
Many Hugs,
Connie
Topic: RE: Words from the West Side
Judy,
When the doctor's office called and said I was anemic, I thought for sure it was from low iron and I'd get a transfusion like you did or pills. I never thought I'd have internal bleeding. I think I remember you telling us about your cousin. How scary was that? His surgeon should have told him to stop taking the baby aspirin, but 110 pounds in 5 months is fabulous.
I'll let you know how it goes next week. If nothing else, I hope you guys learn from my trials and tribulations.
Much love and hugs,
Connie
When the doctor's office called and said I was anemic, I thought for sure it was from low iron and I'd get a transfusion like you did or pills. I never thought I'd have internal bleeding. I think I remember you telling us about your cousin. How scary was that? His surgeon should have told him to stop taking the baby aspirin, but 110 pounds in 5 months is fabulous.
I'll let you know how it goes next week. If nothing else, I hope you guys learn from my trials and tribulations.
Much love and hugs,
Connie
Topic: RE: Words from the West Side
Marilyn,
Please, please, please stop taking the Advil. I don't have any symptoms at all (ok, dead tired, numb forehead, dizzy as hell), but all signs point to a bleeding ulcer. I don't have stomach pain or discoloration or anything that I would have thought would be intenal bleeding. I only found out because I had my normal annual checkup. I thought I was exhausted because of all the work I do and how little sleep I get. There have been times in the past that I've taken Advil once in a great while, but never on a regular basis. I took Celebrex for a month and with an antacid to coat my stomach. Celebrex is much easier on the tummy than Advil so I can't imagine what long-term use of Advil would do.
See if you can see a specialist. because if you are having pain, there's probably something else going on. Osteopenia almost never exhibits any symptoms including pain. If you're having pain, it must be from something else, perhaps arthritis.
Many thanks for the love and prayers and right back atcha.
Connie
Please, please, please stop taking the Advil. I don't have any symptoms at all (ok, dead tired, numb forehead, dizzy as hell), but all signs point to a bleeding ulcer. I don't have stomach pain or discoloration or anything that I would have thought would be intenal bleeding. I only found out because I had my normal annual checkup. I thought I was exhausted because of all the work I do and how little sleep I get. There have been times in the past that I've taken Advil once in a great while, but never on a regular basis. I took Celebrex for a month and with an antacid to coat my stomach. Celebrex is much easier on the tummy than Advil so I can't imagine what long-term use of Advil would do.
See if you can see a specialist. because if you are having pain, there's probably something else going on. Osteopenia almost never exhibits any symptoms including pain. If you're having pain, it must be from something else, perhaps arthritis.
Many thanks for the love and prayers and right back atcha.
Connie
Topic: RE: Tomorrow is a new day!
Here at my Walmart & Smith's they have a low-carb bread that is half the carbs then
the regular stuff & only 45 calories.(pretty darn good, too) Aunt Hatties makes it!!
I have been eating that so I don't get so deprived
on the bread thing. Don't beat yourself up too bad, as, you are still stayibng away from
the candy cake & sugar. That is a big one for me, as well.
Hang in there, you will be fine. I know the fried chicken is loaded with bad stuff, but, it's
also protein under that coating. So it wasn't as bad as you are thinking.
the regular stuff & only 45 calories.(pretty darn good, too) Aunt Hatties makes it!!
I have been eating that so I don't get so deprived
on the bread thing. Don't beat yourself up too bad, as, you are still stayibng away from
the candy cake & sugar. That is a big one for me, as well.
Hang in there, you will be fine. I know the fried chicken is loaded with bad stuff, but, it's
also protein under that coating. So it wasn't as bad as you are thinking.
Marilyn C (Bearlady)
Topic: RE: Words from the West Side
Ya know Connie, you sure did not need anymore problems then you already had. I am glad you have someone checking into it soon. I take advil quite a bit for my back pain & now know why I have some of the pain. (Osteopenia) Will most likely be on
meds now for life. If it can be reversed or stopped at this point. Don;'t know yet.
Anyway, I have taken advil for quite some time & have not had any problems that
I know of. I know we are not suppose to, but, its the only thing that works these days.
Tylenol crap just does nothing. Hope you feel better soon & I will keep an eye out
for any stomach problems or discoloring in anything from now on.
Thanks for your information!! Take Care of You & glad you had a restful stay in
Vegas. Very Nice of that MAN of yours!! I'd say keep him around. Someone needs
to take care of you, cause you sure don't do a very good job with all the working you
do.
Lots of Love & prayers for you!!
meds now for life. If it can be reversed or stopped at this point. Don;'t know yet.
Anyway, I have taken advil for quite some time & have not had any problems that
I know of. I know we are not suppose to, but, its the only thing that works these days.
Tylenol crap just does nothing. Hope you feel better soon & I will keep an eye out
for any stomach problems or discoloring in anything from now on.
Thanks for your information!! Take Care of You & glad you had a restful stay in
Vegas. Very Nice of that MAN of yours!! I'd say keep him around. Someone needs
to take care of you, cause you sure don't do a very good job with all the working you
do.
Lots of Love & prayers for you!!
Marilyn C (Bearlady)
Topic: Very Frustrating Day!!
HI There
Started my day with I thought going to Church, when I got down stairs found
that
I had 3 flat tires. Apparently someone thought it was quite funny to let the
air out of them.
Never made it to Church today, way too late after all of this garbage to fix
So after getting help with getting them back inflated. (Thank God they were
not slashed)
I could not afford new tires right now. They seem to be doing O.K now. I
have managed
to get through the stress without too much bad eating. Amazing for me!! I
have only had
4 peanut butter crackers, 3 1/2 oz burger on low-carb bread, slice of cheese
mustard
no mayo. 4 cups coffee( 1/2 caffeine) & only about 30 oz. of water. I am
still drinking so that should go up tonight. I am a lot happier tonight
that my car is fixed without too much
money & back on the road & I did not use it as an excuse to crazy on the
carb monster.
Started my day with I thought going to Church, when I got down stairs found
that
I had 3 flat tires. Apparently someone thought it was quite funny to let the
air out of them.
Never made it to Church today, way too late after all of this garbage to fix
So after getting help with getting them back inflated. (Thank God they were
not slashed)
I could not afford new tires right now. They seem to be doing O.K now. I
have managed
to get through the stress without too much bad eating. Amazing for me!! I
have only had
4 peanut butter crackers, 3 1/2 oz burger on low-carb bread, slice of cheese
mustard
no mayo. 4 cups coffee( 1/2 caffeine) & only about 30 oz. of water. I am
still drinking so that should go up tonight. I am a lot happier tonight
that my car is fixed without too much
money & back on the road & I did not use it as an excuse to crazy on the
carb monster.
Marilyn C (Bearlady)
Topic: RE: Tomorrow is a new day!
nno one is perfect. we all fall off the wagon for a bit but your back with it right now.
I need you to be good cause your my inspiration! I tell myself that if Judy can d it thatn I can do it.
so we are back with it right now.
i am so tired tonight. i ripped up the rest of the living room carpet. what a mess anddirty job that was. my little dog is afriad of the floor right now. she's such a baby and does not like wood floors she is afraid that she is going to slide and fall. what a silly creature. she'd much rather have the carpet to walk on.
while i love nice thick deep carpeting i can not afford it. plus with the animals is just a dirty job to keep clean.
and the dust it keep is not good for my allergies.
i'm so excited and just can not wait til the end of this week when my neighbors husband puts my new laminate wood flooring down.
i love doing home improvements but don't ahve alot of money to do them.
i'm hoping that the next thing he;ll do for me is my kitchen counter!!!!! but first things first got to get the living room done first!
good luck and god bless all, pam
I need you to be good cause your my inspiration! I tell myself that if Judy can d it thatn I can do it.
so we are back with it right now.
i am so tired tonight. i ripped up the rest of the living room carpet. what a mess anddirty job that was. my little dog is afriad of the floor right now. she's such a baby and does not like wood floors she is afraid that she is going to slide and fall. what a silly creature. she'd much rather have the carpet to walk on.
while i love nice thick deep carpeting i can not afford it. plus with the animals is just a dirty job to keep clean.
and the dust it keep is not good for my allergies.
i'm so excited and just can not wait til the end of this week when my neighbors husband puts my new laminate wood flooring down.
i love doing home improvements but don't ahve alot of money to do them.
i'm hoping that the next thing he;ll do for me is my kitchen counter!!!!! but first things first got to get the living room done first!
good luck and god bless all, pam
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