San Diego Lunches

First off I will start by saying this is some what of a rant. I dont want nasty replies and PMs, just my opinion, 2 cents, whatever.
If there are going to be San Diego Lunches I wont be doing them. I have been MIA for months, only one person noticed or cared enough to PM me. I learned a few months ago on this board that there is a click to be in to get support. I am not part of that click because of who my friends are. I needed support and posted and no one replied. Talk about taking all the wind out of my OH sails. I found no support here any longer and left, only lurking now and then. Then I see the post about the San Diego lunches, there hasnt been one since July and no one noticied until now, hmmmm. If you want to take over Dawn have at it. I gave it many years and am more than happy to pass it on to someone else.
As for Diane and your comment, why on earth would I have a "secret" lunch. I have always supported anyone/everyone. It never mattered to me if they were considered "cool" or "in". This is what OH is suppose to be about supporting everyone. Not to mention there are "in" people in San Diego that would tell you if I was planning a "secret" lunch. I mean come on now, sheesh.
I have lost all faith in me getting any support here. Heck even people who were suppose to be good friends I never here from because I am not "in", but hey that is ok. I enjoy learning new things and these last few months have been full of that. I still wish newbies could have been here years back with the way things were back then. Unconditional support.
Despite my request for no nasty replies I am sure there will be some if anyone replies, so flame on.........

OMG....what the hell is all the DRAMA about?  Nikki, everyone gets busy, just knew you hadn't been here, there was absolutely NOTHING intended to upset you or anyone with the comment.  You made an entire mountain over nothing.  Why would it upset so badly? All you had to do was say you weren't going to do the lunches and someone else would taken care of it.  The girl that asked was a newbie and wanted know...there was nothing meant?  Sorry,, take care and good luck....I don't get why the anger?  Bye

I think you miss took my post. I was hoping that we could have one. Yes I know it has been since July. I was there. I am sorry if me asking struck a nerve with you. I thought we were friends and I was just concerned about you. I have been lurking but I needed support. I guess I will just drive to the LB coffee when I have money as it is $30.00 for the round trip plus whatever I spend there.

Hugs,
Dawn

Dawn,

We would love to have you join us at the LB Coffee (now named the "So Cal Coffee Group".  Everyone is welcome and we have such a great time.

There is however the way too funny group "Jean, Rhonda, Naomi, Diane, Doug". 

Regardless if you are married or not, I am sure that I can manage to find you another husband, just ask Rhonda.  LOL

Come on up, and have a blast with us all.

Annette

Nikki - you were very kind to me at my first and only lunch with the gang back in July.  I haven't been around long enough to be in any clique so I guess I'm on the outside looking in.  I have been anxiously awaiting the next one, but knew you had been busy supporting your mom so I knew there would be some time go by.

I have nothing nasty to say to you.  I'm hopeful to still see you around here and maybe some day at a lunch and get the pleasure from learning more about this journey from you as you look amazing!

I'm sorry that I missed your post when you needed support.  I'm not always consistant about reading this board; but have decided I need to more as people from here are closer geographically to me and I'm very hopeful to not only receive support but give it!

I'm sorry things here feel so sour...I hope it all gets better soon.

Hugs!

Hi Nikki, I am so sorry that I haven't PM'd you. I have taken to pretty much lurking as well. People who I thought were friends, am realizing they aren't. And I agree there are cliques on the boards. I so feel like I did in high school. Wanting to be with the cool kids, but not being "cool" enough for them. I am starting to come out of my shell again, thanx to a few people. Namely Jen, Rick and Diane.

We don't all have to be friends, but this board is for support and that's something I think we all have failed at. I have become an OH support group leader and hope to have my Inaugural Meeting next month. I am also setting up the Tom's Farms event in November and I hope you'll come, and bring mom and dad too. Sending you big hugs hun...XOXOXO

I am sorry you are not going to do the lunches anylonger. I went to 1 or two and had a grand time.  You did a great job organizing them all.  I don't pm many people from here myself and I have kind of converted over to Facebook as it is easier.  I hope you find the support you are looking for in your area, you were always positive on the boards and I wish you only the best. 

Rhonda

Hey darlin Nikki (I always wanted to say that as I love Prince but don't have any Nikki friends)

But I digress, if you are reading this just know you remain in my prayers!!

Ms Shell

Nikki,

I am sorry you feel as though you are not getting the support. This is a hard journey we are on and it seems that the road will never end. I know we have never met, but I have wanted to come to some of the lunches and I am sad that I won't get a chance to meetup with you. I think people go through a cycle of being good at posting, then something happens at they suddenly only become lurkers with once in awhile posting. I, too have become one of those. I want you to know that you are supported by many people out here. I don't think Diane mean't anything personal with the comment about the "Secret Lunches." I went back and read that thread and personally, I took it as she was just kidding. Sometimes, things come across differently on written words. The emotion behind the written word is often mistaken. Just remember people come and go on these boards, it doesn't mean we don't care. Atleast for myself, I can say I have been super busy with my life & things going on it, for which I come to the boards to read the posts & think about what is being talked about. It's like when your in therapy and all you want to do is sit back & listen, that is what some people need right now in their life. They just want to sit back, listen & think about life. We all have problems we don't share, I have a very sick sister that I don't usually talk about. I am 33 years old & having to face the fact, that if something happen to my parents I am the only one who will take care of her. We all have alot on our plates right now, with this weight loss struggle & then there is the stupid maintaining struggle. Life freakin sucks sometimes, but you can't give up and you are supported unconditionally!!

Sincerely,

Julie

Hi Nikki
I son't think that I have ever met you and I am in the dark because I have no idea who is in what click; therefore, I can only say that I so wished that I had written the post that Julie wrote to you.  Julie's and some of the other post says it all.  We all just have so much on our plates between work, family, social life and etc and sometimes forget to respond to those *****ally could use support.  Although I like reading the post and responding, I sometimes just lurk here and there reading without responding because I don't have a lot of time at work and I feel guilty typing post at work. 
Wishing you a great day!
Terry