I have been lurking around these boards for a while now.  There are a few questions that get asked hundreds of times over and they are:

I'm only three weeks out and I have stopped losing.. what am I doing wrong!??!  -  NOTHING!  This is only the first of MANY stalls that you will encounter on your journey.  The weight loss is so rapid, your body needs to take a breather sometimes, ya know?   Also, start taking measurements.  I only seemed to lose inches when I WASN'T losing pounds.  I lost 3 lbs a day for the first nine days after surgery and then nothing until day 27.    At 8 months out, I stalled at 174 lbs for like THREE MONTHS.  I thought I might be done losing, but at the time of this writing I am 17 months out and have held steady at a size 4 for the last six months or so.  
  I am not sure what we expect from our surgery, but it seems that most of us thought we'd wake up 2 weeks after surgery at our goal weight.  (Ok, maybe we didn't EXPECT it... but,  a lot of us certainly HOPED for it).  You didn't put on the weight in a month.. it will take time to get it off.   

How long will my hair fall out?  Will I be bald?!  - No, you won't be bald. At least, it's not likely.  If you make sure you take your supplements and get enough protein, your hair will probably stop falling out around 4 - 6 months out or so.  

I can't seem to get back on track because I'm eating stuff I shouldn't and not getting what I should.  What do I do?  - Well, you just sort of answered your own question.  I assume, that since you KNOW what you are doing wrong, the reason you posted was because you either 1. wanted to be beat up a bit for getting off track (won't happen.. because it happens to everyone) or 2. you want support.  Everyone gets off track.  Grab the literature that you were given when you started your journey and reread it.  Attend a support group.  Get excited about your surgery again!  Realize that this is a LIFE CHANGE and not a diet you can just stop doing when you feel like it.  (At least, not if you want it to work).  Find a weight loss buddy to be accountable to.  You CAN do this!

Well I think that is from being intubated.  It hurt me for about 10 days.  The problem was, that I was drinking fluids and it felt like it got stuck half way down.  My surgeon prescribed reglan to help my esophgus contract so that things will go down smoothly.  Talk to your surgeon and see what they say.  I was having to vomit because things wouldn't go down.  Not even the protein shakes.  Good luck and I hope you feel better.  I am doing better one day at a time.

Nope, sorry I cant let you do that. Your battle may be taking longer than you would like but hang in there. Remember you are not alone in your efforts to lose weight. There are many of us out here who are not happy with our results. I am going to continue to make efforts to lose weight and improve my health. I would like for you to do the same.

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it, but I think I posted to you before that you can end the pity party if you're willing to stand up for yourself and fight the medically unnecessary pre-op weight loss requirement. At least, I think you're the one I replied to, I could be wrong, because you aren't the only person struggling with this.
     You can file a grievance with Kaiser. They will issue a denial, BUT once you exhaust your internal appeals (30 days) you can file with the DMHC, and you can WIN. Here is the DMHC document on this very subject:
http://www.dmhc.ca.gov/aboutTheDMHC/org/boards/cap/Bariatric REV.pdf

You might even be able to do both at the same time, though I'm not sure about that. A phone call by you to the DMHC would sort that out. Bottom line, you are seeking medically necessary health care and this requirement is preventing you from getting the care you need. You can choose to take action or you can continue the pity party. Your decision.

Larra

You need to not be so hard on yourself :( if it was easy you wouldn't need the surgery but you do have to get back up and dust yourself off :) and try try again.  You can do this.  Don't give up.