Take my husband, PLEASE!

I am absolutely flamed! I was banded June 16, 2005. Went in today for my third fill. I've lost a total of 32 pounds. Not out of this world fantastic. I have lost a lot more faster on my own. Difference this time is that I didn't diet. I'm not starving myself. Anyway, I come home and I announce to my husband that I have lost 32 pounds so far. He just said, "hmmm." I said, "is that all you can say?" He said, "well, 32 pounds for $15,000 isn't much to get excited about." I am almost in tears. He actually went on to declare that, "if someone gave him $15,000 he would stop eating and lose 100 pounds in no time." HOW INSENSITIVE. I am sickened by his remarks. He met me when I was at my thinnest, 150 pounds. Now I am at 267. He has seen me go up and down several times. Sometimes I just want to scream at him that, "maybe my weight problem has more to do with him than he thinks!" I love him to death but sometimes he just doesn't get it. Thanks for listening. Cheryl

Sorry husband is being such a pain. For what its worth I am proud of you. 32 pounds is great. We had surgery around the same time and your kicking my butt! Amy

Does that moron of a man of yours grocery shop with you? Then next time you are in the store, hit the produce section first, grab 3 of those 10 pound bags of potatoes, and tossed in 2 pound bags of onions for good measure. Then, remind him of how much weight you lost. At that point, if you had the cahonges like I do, I would walk away, taking the wagon, and leave him standing there holding it all for that to sink in. Let him try running after you with that! But before you do had him over "the package," if he's wearing a baseball cap, take if off his head and loosen the strap in back of it to let the blood flow back up into his brain. Now, if you'll excuse me, my numnuts of the past 32 years has his head in his toolcase. I have to go and grab a screw driver to tighten up the bolts on both sides of his neck. Halina

Cheryl...I'm sorry. They (MEN) are just not as tuned in as we are. When we decided for this surgery...we read,read and read more. Then we come here to OH...and we think our spouses/loved ones will be as supportive and try to help with sticky answers. My husband has done similar...."Have you stopped losing?" Thanks..a bunch big guy! Instead of ..is there anything I can do to help? Can I watch the kids an extra time so you can get another walk in? OK --Now I'm dreaming....but I feel your hurt! Just keep coming here for your loving and inspiration! {{{HUGS}}}Joan

Actually, Joan, I think your generalization of men is unfair. I've given plenty of thought and care into my decision to be banded, I can relate and feel for many others on this site who are struggling and I consider myself to be sensitive to the needs of others. Please refrain from letting your experiences with some men lead you to be unfair and unkind to other men. My 2 pennies. gg

Hmmmm Northwest Washington? Sure sounds like my ex!!! I lost all my weight and was a size 5, and he would say "Aren't those pants getting too tight in the a**?" So trust me I know how you feel. Look for your support here, from people who understand. And in the mirror, and on the scales. YOU are the only one that really matters in the journey. 32 pounds, lost the healthy way as you are doing - is AWESOME! And about the $15,000? A sensitivity chip would cost 10 times that amount!!! Chelle 291/261/145

Cheryl! I'm biting my tongue. I won't Husband bash. Instead, I'll tell you that I spent $17,500 and have lost a grand total of 34 ponds in 5 months time! And believe it or not, am fairly proud of myself. This is weight that will not come back! I see so many of newly banded (within 3 months) saying "only" 30 pounds, etc. WOW! don't you know you are WAY above the curve on this???? You deserve an "attagirl"!!!!! Stand proud! those of us fighting the good fight are very impressed and in awe! Marti 314/280/150

Okay, i have no problem Husband bashing! HE SUCKS!!! Don't let ANYONE deflate your spirit or confidence! I know you love him, but you can't change his attitude, he can't relate to us. People like him like to stay within their ignorance! You dont need approval from him. You are doing a fabulous job on your weightloss and it takes time to lose weight! If we wanted to look deflated, malnourished and chopped up your digestive system you would have done RNY..NO WAY, you made the BEST choice. YOUR BAND is teaching you how to learn new habits with food and this messageboard is the ONLY one that truly understand your pain and triumphs! GOODLUCK and CONGRATS! -Rubina

For what it's worth, I like Halina's idea. lol Seriously... I'm sorry your husband acted like such a jackass. If it was me, I would tell him if he can't say something positive, he should shut his pie hole. Pun intended! Keep up the good work. You are doing well and no on and nothing can take that away from you.

Hmmmm... sounds like my ex-husband too. How many times HAS he been married? Kidding! You've done very well and he just doesn't understand. Have you shown him information about the surgery so he understands how well you're doing? Maybe you should! I'm going to give my hubby an extra squeeze tonight because he wouldn't think of making a comment like that. He met me at my heaviest, so of course this is all very fun for him! Wishing you well, Lori 245/223/loose size 8