Has anyone decided to be a secret bandster?

I only told my husband, my sister (she told her dh), my kids, and my best friend.  My parents don't know.  My mom tends to obsess and there is no reason that should be directed at me.  I don't regret that decision at all.  Even with the few that know it's sometimes annoying my bil told my dh he was suprised at some of the things i was able to eat on the latest trip.  My best friend asks how many pounds I'm down.  I don't need the scrutiny and I haven't had a fill yet.  At least they live far away, I couldn't imagine everyone judging everything I put in my mouth. 

I decided to tell only my family and close friends. My decision was reinforced when one of my relatives said "before you do something so drastic, you should try (fill in the blank)..." She was totally well meaning, only concerned about me and my health, but at this point the decision is made and I don't want anyone trying to convince me to try something else. And besides, it's none of their business. They don't understand like we do.

PS I totally think Krista and others who are vocal about their decision are brave and awesome and to be commended. And I plan on being so as well, just after I have lost the weight. I don't want anyone breaking my stride on my journey :)

I only told my immediate family and boy am I glad I left it at that.  I have been a VERY slow loser - sometimes going months with no loss.  I have lost 45 pounds in 11 months and if I had told people about the surgery they would be thinking that I am screwing up big time.  This way it is gradual and everyone just thinks I am working hard at taking care of myself (which I am).  Wish I could lose faster, but it isn't happening.   Shirley 219/174/150

I went into it trying to be discreet about it.. I told my immediate family, my best friend and his wife, and my boss, who is like a father figure to me. Well my boss didn't get the point that it was to be kept quiet. So the week after surgery, a sales guy comes walking into my office asking me how i felt, and asking questions about the surgery! Then the same day, I get home, and my wife tells me that she told her mom!! So at this point I am kind of feeling like any chance I had to keep it secret is gone. So now people will see me lose weight, and think it was so easy, and the surgery did all the work. They won't understand how much willpower it still takes! That upsets me, but I am starting to get over it. It's the end result that matters, not what people think about getting to the end result.

Hi there, I agree with you completely.  I have only told my husband and kids.  No one else needs to know.  I cant even tell my best friend cuz her husband has a big mouth and the whole town will know.  The great thing about the band is that you wont lose it so fast.  We are only expected to lose 1-2 lbs a week.  So that is doable with diet and exercise.  You are doing for you and for the right reasons.  They are yours and noone elses.  Good Luck.   Mumma

Personally I am not in hiding... I told my family and close friends and if someone asks I won't lie....but I won't offer the information either.

Lost,        The only person that knows about my Band is my wife I told everyone else I need to have my gallballder taken out including work. and the weight loss I explain as dieting  :)  Eddie

I say follow your instincts.  You don't sound like someone who wants to discuss this with many people so I think you are making the right decision for yourself.  It is your business.  I told very few people and I know it was the right decision for me.  It is like Pandora's box, once the word is out, you can't take it back!!!! Good luck with your surgery.

Yes, I am a secret bandster!  I was banded about 2 months ago.  i told everyone that I was going to Scotland for the weekend.  When I was doing my liquid and muxshies stage, I was just telling people that work is just so manic that I cannot go out to eat!  So far everyone has fallen for it.  Here in the UK, WLS is still a bit of a taboo.  It is not nearly as common or as accepted as it is in the USA.  Most pewople do not even notice that I am not eating all my food, and if they notice that I have lost weight, i just tell them that I am being careful.  I do not like haing people policing or watching me, so that is why i have decided not to say anything.  i am happy with my decision.  If nobody knows about it, then there is less chance of gossip!  Best of luck Janine