Has anyone decided to be a secret bandster?

My surgery is next week and I have only told a few family members the "real" reason I am going to Mexico.  Everyone else who knows I am going south of the border thinks its for a vacation with the girls. My husband is very supportive of me and so are the 3 people who have the "real skinny" on the situation.  After hopefully dramatic weigh loss I plan to say that is was from eating less and exercising more which will be true. I am a private person, you know the type that didnt want anyone in the delivery room when giving birth, (my husband was barely allowed admission). I am not ashamed of my decision to get banded at all. I just dont want to have to discuss it with everybody.  I have seen people that have lost a large amount of weight who do not really want to discuss it.  Has anyone had a boundry in this area? If you did have people respected it?

I tell people on a need to know basis.  Most don't need to know.  When someone who's not a close friend or relative asks me about my weight loss I tell them "I'm eating less and exercising more".  That's pretty much it in a nutshell.  They don't have to know I had WLS also. Beth

Just a wannabe here but I'm going to shout it from the rooftops. I intend to share my journey with others so they can see how this surgery can change lives. To each their own  -- I'm going to be a poster child :)

I think thats great Krista (plus you are probably a nicer person than I am) lol.

I tell people on a need to know basis, and most people don't need to know.  My 3 best girlfriends, my parents and all my buddies here on the board know and that's it.  I haven't even told my brother.  Good Luck next week. 

I havent told many people at all and they have all been sworn to secrecy:  my husband who has been a wonderful support, my two "fat" friends who I've shared my weight ups and downs for many many years, my friend (and his wife) a physician who works with WLS patients and one other close friend (who I probably didnt need to tell). I also have been up and down so much with my weight I didnt want to deal with all the noise.  You can never "untell" someone.  Maybe I'll change my mind in a couple of years. 

I'm a closet bandster. 4 people in my life know about it and I am questioning whether I should have left it at 2. LOL. I didn't want to deal with the negative tones, questions, harassment, analysis, ridicule, speculation, inquisitions, interventions, ignorance, jealousy, expectations, disappointments, stupidity, rudeness, second guessing, etc... and I still don't ! This is a very personal journey for me. Unless you are pb-ing right beside me, I may never tell you (even then, i'd have to think about it ) zippi

Zippi....I'm with you.....only 5 people know about my journey.  I've been successful, but this is my journey and I feel absolutely no need to tell anyone.   God bless you,

I  agree  with  all  these  Posts..  ! Except  Krista's  ..although  I  think  she  is  Brave..!  Girl  yo u may  have  to go to  the  rooftops  to  avoid  some  people  but  I  Give  you  Credit ~!! Let  us  Know  how  yo umake  out..) I  totally  am  on  Zippi's  pattern  of  thought  and  am  Very Very Private  told  only a  few ~  I  do  Not  wish  to  deal  with  any negative stuff  while  I  am  healing  before  during  or  after..!  It's  My  Choice  decesion and  I  do  not  want/wish  to  spend time  defending myself ..esp.  to  those  who  blurt  out  things  w/o  even  being  considerate  enuf  to  "think"  first or  who  Have  NO IDEA  what  they  are  talking  about  to  begin  with~~  that  would'nt  work  for me  as  I  KNOW  i  would  have  to  put  them  in  their place (  you  get  th e  Idea..~)  I  truly  thought  about  this  and it's  yr  choice  whether  to  Tell  or  Not  but  I  recommend really  thinking  Over  the  End  Result..~  and  asking  yrself  "Is  It  Worth  It??? " 

I told some people and I wish I hadn't told any. When I decided to get the surgery I really didn't believe the band weight loss. I was even with my sister, at the doctors, and he said you loose a pound a week. I turned around to her and said, oh that's not true. Well, it is and who ever you tell is going to think you had RNY and be wondering why you are not 100 lbs. down in a month. Tell only your close peeps.