That is a big decision for you! So are you having the RNY laproscopicaly? How small are your kids? I just know that even with laproscopic surgery they say not lifting over 10 for at least 4 weeks. Where is Dr. Huang located?
My children are 12 and 10 and they have been a big help around the house. It has been hard to bend over and pick things up, but it is getting better every day. Good luck!