I can completely relate to this post, I've shared similar sentiments in the past, I MISS the coffee gatherings and all.  I tried very hard to keep the Maple Grove group going, but after so many Saturday  mornings spent by myself or with just one other person, I gave up.  It felt futile, and was more than a little sad.  I don't feel guilty for letting go of it, there were a great many people who let go of it long before I ever did.

I know I used to be one of the 'ring-leaders' - organizing overnights, out-of-town or centrally located coffee get togethers that just about everyone could easily get to, Swapkins, yada yada yada...  Well, I burned out.  I got too personally involved in too many intimate issues, and felt like I was being relied on too much to keep boosting everyone else up.  Some here may even have been privy to when I essentially foiled a suicide attempt by one of our former members.  Too much pressure.   Add to that my husband losing his job, a teenage daughter that has caused me an enormous amount of anger, frustration, anxiety and heartache,  having to take on a hobby job that leaves me with only one or two days off per month, and you could say I'm toast.

I don't mean to create any drama or ill will, but I have to say I resent the comment...

'so sad that some decided they were better then the rest.....now they can't get anyone to come to the group...gee I wonder why???'

I can't help but suspect that may have had something to do with me.  Perhaps not, but regardless - unless you know exactly what the extenuating cir****tances are behind a person withdrawing from their former social behaviors, judge not.  Could very well be that the person you believe is arrogant, is actually really hurting inside.

thanks! Its good to meet some locals

i have medical assistance through the state, they do cover WLS, but i was just wondering what steps you had to take? What did your Dr require? Im hoping to have Dr. Thomas Jones at Park Nicollette do mine...

Starting weight: 362

last week 226

this week 230...water weight

Not sure why you got the ulcers maybe the doctors will, I know I had my RNY in may and I have had about 9 kidney stones since, which I never had before and they hurt like hell!  I hope you get some answers soon and best of luck!  Keep us posted!