Friend says...you can do this without surgery...just do the same type diet

Man I love you guys!! I should have been on this site long ago, just for the understanding part not to mention all the bonus support benifits from you all!! Thank you so much. I do hope to pay it forward on here! I know that many of you understand what a sacrafice financially this is for alot of us...especially since insurance wont cover the sleeve. But though it is going to be  tough, it will so be worth the price of a new life and extending this one. Shoot I spend 350 a month in meds! That is almost a payment in itself!!! Thank you once again for your support and caring...I swear I will calm down soon and not be so panic stricken and so confused.....If not then feel free to kick me off and on to bring me back to reality ok? Love you guys!   Sherry

I have a friend like that also. I've been doing the low/no carb and my blood sugars have dropped - but I don,t have a good track record for keeping this up. You are the only one who can make the decision to have WLS. I have other friends who support my decision. I go through crazy questions and doubt all the time plus guilt that I'm not strong enough to lose weight on my own. Just hang in there and keep listening to Rita and Ruth and Kim and Denise and all the others who have gone through what we will. donna

You know I have done a lot of the diets.  Dr Phil, Atkins, Eades (which I still think their dietary lemonade is awesome), South Beach, a local doctors own program, Alli (liquid grease poop), and a few others.  They worked for a while.  Then you get sick of them, quit cause you have lost a good amount, cheat, etc etc etc.  We have all done it.  Then BOOM the weight is back plus extra.  Something that cracks me up about weight loss infomercials, books, etc etc is they use the same people for YEARS.  Its cause as stated above only 5% of dieters SUCCEED.  Friends mean their best but often a lot of people are ill-informed and just make "guesses" about things...especially health issues it seems.  Well I heard this, I heard that....yadda yadda yadda.  Show your friend the facts, talk to them about it, and say plain and simply, I AM DOING THIS.  True friends will support your decision and back you up all the way.  I dont know you personally, but you, and so many others here, are my true friends.  And girl, I got your back.

Hi,  I know just what you are saying! Just today my mom said to me well you have lost 10lbs on this 10 day diet why don't you just  stay on it. and not have the surgery. I said because I am not going to stay on liquids the rest of my life!! Besides that I am tired of this yo yo stuff! And if anyone thinks this is the easy way out I got news for them they might just not like what I have to say! Sorry I guess its the 10 day diet but I am getting sick of defending my decison too! You hang in there and pray for peace! Thinking of you and sending prayers your way God Bless and I wish you the best of luck!                                                                                               Karla

Personally, I did not want to hear any more advice from anyone. I have to say that prior to the surgery I told Dr. B. that felt ashamed because I could not do it on my own and that my work place has Weigh****chers come in for sessions at work. Anyway, none of my family, not even my children know I had the surgery, (May 7th). All of them have stated in the past that they were against WLS. I do have 2 friends that know and they have both been supportive. I am happier with others not knowing, it says me from everyone else's opinions and ridicule.

The only opinion here that really matters is your own.  I have been a diabetic for 15 years.  I could lose the weight with crash diets, but as soon as i stopped the weight came back with friends.  There is a reason that the FDA is looking into WLS as a CURE for type II diabetes.  I went through all these same situations, and the only thing that made me finally decide to have the sleeve, my daughter.  I got to the point that i couldnt get in the floor and play with her.  And that broke my heart.  The last straw, was when she got in my purse, pulled out my needles, and stabbed herself in the stomach (thats what she saw mommy doing)  I was devastated.  I said enough is enough, if I could have done it by myself, i would have done it before then.

Thank you guys. It feels so good to know I'm not crazy or a failure. You have experienced the words from others too. Those same words that stab so deep. I don't want to hear them anymore. Thank you guys!!   Sherry