Warning...I'm apparently having a bad day...bad mood...

Thanks Nancy!  We need an outgoing person to join our little walking group and help us get out of our shells!  lol  I don't mind the Saturday at 8am when I've gotten enough rest during the week.  I just need to protect my sleep time better so I'm not tempted to skip.  I'm glad you didn't go either so I don't have to feel like I stood you up!  Some people walk rain or shine.  I don't really want to get rained on or struck by lightning!!!!  It would be great to walk during the week too!  My better nights would most likely be Tuesday or Thursday because my M, W, F at work is crazy!!!   Let me know if you want to walk in the evening sometime. I'm open to any night really as long as I haven't worked too late. Soon you are going to have your surgery!!!  9 days now? Then you can let me know when you are up for walking...at first you'll just walk around your house and then around your block... 

Let's figure something out as soon as I am up to it. I would even be willing to do both Tuesdays and Thursdays.

 

Nancy

The liquid diet does suck.  But think about the reward to come and you'll get through it!  When I needed to crunch I would chew ice.  It is bad for your teeth but short term I don't think it's going to hurt them too much and you can crunch away and it turns into liquid!!  You could go to Sonic and buy the good ice...perfect for crunching!  Yummy!  After surgery I crunched SO many sugar free popsicles that it was unbelievable.  I still love them.  Some people can't handle the cold on their post op pouchies but mine LOVES the cold!!!  You have some really awesome people in your neck of the woods on OH...you should try to connect with them.  It is really great to have others to talk to as you go through the many stages of this journey.  Good luck!!!!  It is so worth it....really it is...but it isn't always easy....that's why we get so mad when someone says we took the "easy" way out.  There are some definate trade offs that are not so easy...and there are a lot of emotions to work through on the journey.  Best wishes for a speedy recovery!!!

Do you have family that live nearby?   Do you have any co-worker friends?  I read all of the reply posts to Diana's post, but yours had me concerned.  I think we all go through some pretty blue times with preparing for the surgery and then dealing with having had it afterwards.  It's not easy by any means.  I hope you're not truly alone.  I don't live anywhere near Broken Arrow (I live in NW OKC) but I would gladly drive out there or maybe meet you halfway and go to a movie or something if you want.  This whole process is hard enough to go through when you have people, I can't imagine doing it myself.  I think you must be a very brave and strong person.  I know that I've gone through a few "blue" weeks from about 6 weeks after surgery on.  It's been a tremendous help to me to have my family and my friends, old and new from the WLS support group and this website.  Even with them though, I still feel lonely sometimes and it's hard to go connect to others because noone really shares the exact same experience.  Feel free to send me a PM and we can talk.  But I totally agree with the advice the others were posting about finding activities you enjoy.  That's especially important after WLS because you need to fill both the void you origonally might have filled with eating before,, and the void  of time leftover that you aren't spending eating.  Best of luck to you on Monday!  Please post and let us all know how you're doing.  I don't post a whole lot on here, but I think all of these people are really great and really care!  Diana B.

I think you should do something fun like join a bowling league or take some art classes some type of a hobby and you will make friends!  Once you became a wife and a mom it changed things, but now is the time to focus on you, I have made friends at my gym, the women there are very encouraging.

AB

rlcolsten I live in Jenks so not to far aay.  I sent you a message, mybe we can get together and hangout.

Sherri

Diana, I so smell what your steppin in.  In other words I can so relate. I purposefuly stayed isolated for so long due to being MO. I have no one to blame, but myself. This day and time every one is so busy and self absorbed just trying to take care of their everyday life and family. One day I woke up and discovered that the wall I was building around me to keep out the sadness was also keeping out the joy.

Over the years and esprcially recently I have learnt to love and care for myself, because know one else was gonna do that. You sound like you were in a marriage just like I was. I too spent 20  long years in a controlling and verbally abusive marriage.

There comes a point in life when you realize *****ally matters, who never did and who always will. I have not dated one time since my divorce 14 years ago. I think for the most part I am okay with that. Mainly because I don't need a man (or woman, lol) to complete me.

I think basically I am just rambling, but my real point is to tell you that If you ever want to go do something together give me a shout. I think like myself you have spent most of your years trying to take care of others and not yourself. This is our time now. Find some new hobbies, go back to school as we have discussed before. Mainly, just get out there and it will all come together. When life gives you 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.

You have done really well on your weight loss journey. The best is yet to come. Love ya like I used to love cake, Rita

Rita,  You are RIGHT!!  You do smell what I'm stepping in!!!  Sounds like you stepped in it too!!!  I have often felt the same way about the walls of protection we build...they do keep out pain but also joy.  I have never put myself first...I was taught that was wrong.  But, if you don't take care of yourself you have nothing left to give anyone else in your life.  You are right that nobody needs anyone else to COMPLETE them.  That line in the movie Jerry McGuire is a load of crap!  But it is nice to have others to share the journey with.  When Vince and I went through the open heart surgery scare, I knew if he didn't make it I would not date again.  Vince and my ex are like night and day...thank God!!!  After being loved and adored by Vince, no man could ever live up to that.  I do have SO many reasons to smile!  You are one of them!  I am so glad that you are here with your wisdom and encouragment for all of us!!!   Love you like I used to love FROSTING!!!  Diana

Hey, some Sunday when Vince is out of town we can get together and share recipes and different eating strategies. I have a ton of them.

That sounds great!  I think he will be home next weekend but it's too soon to know for sure.  He's not here this weekend so fingers crossed!  We are planning on laying a little brick patio for our trash cans on the side of the house where the grass won't grow.  We always have these fun little projects planned that turn into a huge mess....like the kitchen sink!!! lol  I love my new sink though!!!  Anyway, I would love to get together with you!  I could use all the strategies and recipes I can get!!!