To wed or wait?

See, I'm hearing the semi serious comment and the other "wouldn't have married her husband at all".....I would wait until doubts are gone.  Marriage isn't about how you look in a dress, so maybe your mind is trying to tell you to hold on for a little bit.

I mean, do you WANT to marry this guy?  If you do, then do, but if you are not sure, then don't.

 

Edited to add:  Forgot to mention I'm terrible at relationship stuff.

You've gotten wonderful advice here. I say if it's right there's no need to wait. I dated my DH for 2 years before we got married because he wouldn't marry me until I finished college beause he didn't want to be the reason I didn't finish. Smart man, though at the time I was frustrated. We celebrated 23 years married on June 1, and we've been together for 25. I can't imagine doing this being single. All you single gals are amazing.

My DH is my best friend and my best support. My DS is also wonderful.

I say marry the guy if you're sure he's the one. I was a size 16 when I met DH and a size 20 altered to fit me when we married. He'd only seen this size in pictures. I put more weight on having his babies, too. As he said, he loves me regardless of my size. He loves me, not my body, but he does enjoy that too! LOL

Sounds like you might have a keeper, but if you have any doubts don't rush into anything. Remember, the real marriage starts after you leave the church and the dress behind.

Contrary to everyone's advice here.....I would NOT get married until later.....That is coming from someone who was married for 41 years and who visited Dr. Keller yesterday!  He talked about how this surgery can affect relationships and not always for the good. There will be so many changes in you after the surgery, that who knows how he will feel, or you. I think I read here that you have not dated that long, but have been marrIed before. So you do know how hard it is....I would not even consider marriage again having not dated long.  I am not sure of your age here, but the way I see things is this....Do your surgery, see how things work after that. There is no rush into marriage!!!!! NONE! Love is patient is what the Bible says. I see so many who are so in love...only to discovrer it isn't love at all but more of a dream of love...a Fairy Tale dream. Many marry because all of their friends are getting married requardless of if it's a first or 2nd or third.... It becomes pressure to do it too...Your life is about to change. You may discover a whole new you. Give your new life a chance before you do something so drastic as becoming married
again. Date for awhile....a long while....Then decide what you want to do!  Also, I have a friend who had the RNY and has lost 100 lbs since Easter so it's not always a year before you lose your weight. You begin losing right away and it will depend on how much you need to lose. So you asked for advice...mine would be to wait to marry but not on the surgery!
Honestly, I haven't seen to much stress in the ones one here after the surgery.....I see happy changed lives within a few weeks! If your boyfriend can't help take care of you NOT being married...then he wouldn't only get worse after, so give that a chance that way.  Sherry

Oh goodness, I am certainly not the one to ask a question about marriage. My advise would be to wait since you are only semi-seriously involved. Marriage is something that there is no need to get in a hurry for. As long as you are together there is no need to rush the marriage thingy.  IMAO everything goes great and then you get married and it all goes to hell in a hand basket. WLS and marriage are two huge changes to take on at the same time. You have to do what you feel is the best for you though. Best of luck to you, Rita

WELL I LOOOOVE MY HUSBAND AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 10 YEARS....BUT I WOULD WAIT!!! I WOULD WANT TO LOOK CUTE IN THE PICS, AND GETTING MARRIED IS A BIG DEAL!!! GOOD LUCK     MORGAN