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So, Bridezilla is alive and well and living in New York! It is totally unreasonable to expect anyone- especially one who had WLS- pick out a dress a year ahead of the event. Next summer is quite early enough. You should be at goal at that time.
Or, tell her you can be the matron of honor so your dress doesn't have to match. You can do your own thing closer to the date.
If you fall for this demand it will only be the beginning of a year of torture. Hold firm and refuse to participate in this particular lunacy!
Although I do like Thomas' suggestion to get sis to pay for your plastics!
Or, tell her you can be the matron of honor so your dress doesn't have to match. You can do your own thing closer to the date.
If you fall for this demand it will only be the beginning of a year of torture. Hold firm and refuse to participate in this particular lunacy!
Although I do like Thomas' suggestion to get sis to pay for your plastics!
I have maintained for one year at this point. I am steady at -120 pounds. =)
40 pounds lost pre-op
40 pounds lost pre-op
OOPS you asked for an opinion and I am a blunt ornery cusss..LOL
I would kindly tell my sister that purchasing a dress this year for a wedding for November 2009 is not proper for it will be out of stle by then...
Seriously tell little sis are you crazy! I had WLS I have no friggin idea what size I will be and btw WHY are you having a big wedding??? Gee save the dough and buy a house or a vacation...and then be the catty sister..oh wait that s me..sorry..Any way say to her sis hes been married already and it failed so why do you want to have such a big affair? maybe I am off here but a wedding a year away..who knows if they will still be together then.....
my last little thing is this..I do alterations and its hard for a seamstress to reduce a dress from like a size 16 to 10 it never truly fits correctly
I would kindly tell my sister that purchasing a dress this year for a wedding for November 2009 is not proper for it will be out of stle by then...
Seriously tell little sis are you crazy! I had WLS I have no friggin idea what size I will be and btw WHY are you having a big wedding??? Gee save the dough and buy a house or a vacation...and then be the catty sister..oh wait that s me..sorry..Any way say to her sis hes been married already and it failed so why do you want to have such a big affair? maybe I am off here but a wedding a year away..who knows if they will still be together then.....
my last little thing is this..I do alterations and its hard for a seamstress to reduce a dress from like a size 16 to 10 it never truly fits correctly
being healthy has its rewards....take the challenge and just do it
Oh Pattye --- I have expressed all the concerns you have and she just does not get it. She is the "baby" and always has gotten her way. As for the house -- she lives with my dad. The house was put into her name with the understanding that if she ever sells it the money is divided between the 3 of us, but she has never paid anything towards the house or any of the household expenses in her life -- no lie! My other sister and I are trying to convince my dad that once her new hubby moves in they should take over all the expenses and let him live scott free for a change. I doubt it will happen though!
I can totally understand this is her first marriage and she wants all the fuss and glamour that our family has always experienced at weddings (at least in NY) but I have a feeling there is going to be more laughing behind her back than she realizes and this fact I have no idea how to portray to her.
As for the dress issue -- I plan to try to explain to her one more time why buying a dress off a rack now in a store where I can't try it on will not work for me and if she still does not understand then I will tell her I can't be in her wedding party.
I can totally understand this is her first marriage and she wants all the fuss and glamour that our family has always experienced at weddings (at least in NY) but I have a feeling there is going to be more laughing behind her back than she realizes and this fact I have no idea how to portray to her.
As for the dress issue -- I plan to try to explain to her one more time why buying a dress off a rack now in a store where I can't try it on will not work for me and if she still does not understand then I will tell her I can't be in her wedding party.
NANCY it must be nice to her! I have been on my own since I was 18. To me she is gonna get a huge dose of reality soon. Just cause I am the ornery little sister that I am I would gladly give her a dose of my mouth.
I have a friend who is getting married in APril it is her and her man's second wedding. I have told her 5 times how stupid I think they are by having a "celebration" of their vows..She is spending a ton on it and to me its crazy... I would think that she would not want a big emphasis on her getting married at her age. Is she trying to say LOOK AT ME I FINALLY FOUND SOMEONE TO MARRY ME>>> I would take all that dough she is spending and put it in th bank for a raining day..but who am I...a very happy unmarried woman..laughing all the way to the bank
being healthy has its rewards....take the challenge and just do it
Nancy,
That's the direction I would go if I were you. I would just respectfully bow out. If you go along with being in the wedding party then you won't have a leg to stand on when the time for "I told you so" comes along...and it will! My girlfriends and I all did the big lavish weddings and we were all in eachothers bridal parties and there isn't a single one of us who dosn't regret spending the money and wasing the brain cells. If I had it to do over again I would have gone to the JOP and got it over with...or just not married the ***** at all. Anyway I digress, but I would just tell her that you will gladly attend and stand behind her in her decisions but that dosn't mean that her decisions have to include or directly affect you...my 2 cents.
That's the direction I would go if I were you. I would just respectfully bow out. If you go along with being in the wedding party then you won't have a leg to stand on when the time for "I told you so" comes along...and it will! My girlfriends and I all did the big lavish weddings and we were all in eachothers bridal parties and there isn't a single one of us who dosn't regret spending the money and wasing the brain cells. If I had it to do over again I would have gone to the JOP and got it over with...or just not married the ***** at all. Anyway I digress, but I would just tell her that you will gladly attend and stand behind her in her decisions but that dosn't mean that her decisions have to include or directly affect you...my 2 cents.
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