How do you "see" yourself?
When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila & salt and give me a call!
There have been many discussions about this issue and some people struggle with it more than others, but much of what has already been said is true. From the vantage point of someone "older" when I had this surgery, I never really thought I'd have this "beautiful" thinner body to begin with, so I guess I did not have high expectations, other than to hopefully look better with my clothes on, as heck, I wasn't looking too good with them on or off before (some humor here).
What has happened for me is, most days now, I see myself as I am, but there are times when I look in the mirror and feel repulsed by my image, or see myself as not having achieved the original weight goal I had hoped for and therefore feel the failure. Because of my background, I clearly recognize this as the "committee", negative, diseased (dis ease within my thought process) and I have mostly learned to talk my way through. Part of the way to do that is through support.
Regular attendance at support groups works well, at the very least, participation in support here helps. As we get further away from the early stages, where there is the most dramatic weightloss, we are just another person and self validation has to be a part of what you work towards. However, right now you are going through tremendous changes and as has been pointed out, it takes time for the mind to catch up with the body, for some longer than others, but try to remember that you will be healthier and better able to enjoy life and let that be a real good part of your self talk. Remember what you did this for and that you are not alone and we are here to support and help one another in this life long journey.
Hugs, Laureen
What has happened for me is, most days now, I see myself as I am, but there are times when I look in the mirror and feel repulsed by my image, or see myself as not having achieved the original weight goal I had hoped for and therefore feel the failure. Because of my background, I clearly recognize this as the "committee", negative, diseased (dis ease within my thought process) and I have mostly learned to talk my way through. Part of the way to do that is through support.
Regular attendance at support groups works well, at the very least, participation in support here helps. As we get further away from the early stages, where there is the most dramatic weightloss, we are just another person and self validation has to be a part of what you work towards. However, right now you are going through tremendous changes and as has been pointed out, it takes time for the mind to catch up with the body, for some longer than others, but try to remember that you will be healthier and better able to enjoy life and let that be a real good part of your self talk. Remember what you did this for and that you are not alone and we are here to support and help one another in this life long journey.
Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
I posted to Mary the other day about this! I have body image issues!! I look in the mirror and see a thinner me sometimes, but a soon as I blink.....I'm back to my fat self that I was pre op!! Sometimes I look and see the old me, never see the new me. I look down at my body and it looks like it sticks out. I can't see my feet!!!! You are way fat when you can't see your feet, right??!! Well, mine are gone so I must be fat. That is what goes around in my head! I see a better image of me, when I look at a picture of myself. Then it doesn't seem to change. Mirrors remind me of those fun house mirrors!
Good luck and know, you are not alone in this!!
Good luck and know, you are not alone in this!!
There are never any problems, only solutions. quoted by a dear and special friend!!!
My stats:
Starting weight 234 lbs Height 5 ft 6 in
Goal in 7 months (127 lbs)
Currently: 120-123 lbs
Tops Small Bottoms size 2!!!! UPDATED: 11/11
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