WHY CAN'T I JUST STOP ?????

why cant I have so much as a small plate of cookies inmy hiouse without snatching one every time I walk by them? I have NO willpower at all. Im fine when theres nothing here, I eat great. but anything bad around, and Im like a starving rat. why? how do I stop ? I love having this sleeve and its been great so far, it is so awesome in controlling my food portions..but I still cant controll ME

Relax----give yourself a break. Some days are worst than others , just try and balance it out so you have more good ones than bad, and stop flogging yourself about the bad ones. If you keep thinking about it you will feel guilty and guilt makes us fatties eat ------SO STOP AND TAKE IT IN YOUR STRIDE----2 good one bad ____NO PROBLEM. Love, Deon.

Hi Cathy,  First off big hug to you ((((Cathy)))).  I am doing my damndest to make this a once and for all weight loss and here is what I am learning about myself....maybe this will help you: 1.  YOU ARE WORTH THIS 2.  IT IS TIME TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST 3.  YOU CAN DO THIS For so long, I have let this demon of self loathing, sabotage, and failure control me.  When I feel weak,  I physically will turn my body away from the food and do the following: 1:  Inhale deeply 2.  Whisper to myself a positive message of love and renewed hope 3.  Turn back and look at the food and say to it "you no longer own me". 4.  Smile, walk away. It seemed silly at first, but it is really helping me to feel powerful and showing me that I am stronger than the urges that have controlled me.   This VSG is your chance at a do-over.  TAKE IT! I believe in you!! Krista

Just know that you are NOT alone! I've had to resort to not even having stuff like that around the house, at all.... sorry, but my 7 yr old really doesn't need them either, even heard him talking with neighbor kids saying they had better snacks like popsicles, etc.... cracked me up.

Hang in there.... the head part is the HARDEST and SLOWEST part to change!

Remember your VSG is a tool to use, yet at the same time you have to learn to make better choices of the food you eat.  Next time you want the second cookie get something to drink or eat some protein.  You can do this and it is something we all have to overcome. Hang in there!  You can do this! Lisa

Cathy, In my Weight Connections class at Kaiser I was told not to put out a dish of candy, cookies, nuts, or whatever, as I had a tendency to take some everytime I walked by them. So, now I usually leave the bag of no-nos in the pantry behind a closed door, and have a tendency to even forget they are there! I mean I will leave out some fruit, and have an occasional piece, but not everytime I walk by it. For me, having tempting goodies out where they are visible is just inviting disaster.  But if they are out of sight, they are out of mind. HTH, Fred

Aww hun, I do not have a sleeve yet. But I wanted to tell you that we are all human.  And Old habits die hard. Try to keep the junk out of the house. That helps when I diet. Although who's to say I dont run to the mini mart to get a candy bar(S) and cupcake.

One day at a time, Cathy.  One day at a time....so take it easy on yourself and start a new day tomorrow.  Also try to think of what you can learn about your behavior.  1st can I ask why the cookies were there and out in the 1st place?  DId you have guests?  Just a suggestion....pack them up immediately and maybe even send them off with your guests to get them out of your reach:-)  It's all a big learning game and if we fall, we've got to pick ourselves up, dust off the dirt, (or cookie crumbs in this case), and move forward and follow it up with a good choice!!  YOU CAN DO THIS!!!  Just take it one day at a time.....

The surgery was on your stomach, not your head. That said, a small plate of cookies just begs to be devoured (one at a time) so should NOT be left out..... I agree with above posters...PUT IT AWAY or don't have them in the house in the first place. If you have a long running history of snacking/grazing/self-defeating behaviors (or habits) then you need to address the issues driving the behavior. And if you aren't "into" that sort of stuff then try being very deliberate about changing the habits. I find if I am home in the afternoon with nothing particular to do I tend to graze. It is less of a problem since my surgery simply because I have been more mindful/aware of the intensity of action that led me to the surgery (making myself a priority rather than tertiary in importance) BUT keeping busy works best. Now that I have a fulltime job rather than a 3/4 time I only really have to watch it between walking in the door and serving dinner. I'm up to that challenge...but on the weekends it is about being OUT OF THE KITCHEN unless I am doing something specific there.  It may be time for you to talk to some neutral party (therapist??) to get at your root issues...and I wish you the best with that. Mary Claire

thank you all so much for the wonderful words of wisdom, support and caring.. the cookies are GONE!!! sent soem home with grandkids and the rest to work with hubby. I try not to have stuff around but sweet grandaughter asked to come over and bake for papa... I cant say no :) but all is good now.. I TRY to keep nothing out except my jug od H2o as of yesterday I am minus 36 pounds and I fully intend to keep that number moving UP ^ I have a therapist, unfortunately he will be leaving here soon.. but I plan to find a new one.