Beware Vent:Seeing family for first time since VSG..

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!  Keep your eyes above the table, Frisco!  You guys are just too funny.

Aunts in LaVerne


HOLD IT RIGHT THERE!!....  EL MERENDERO!!  ya gotta go!....right by the speedway..in LaVerne
ACCKK!!! 

Poor Jenn....much luck to ya ....to YOU
yer much too pretty outside and valuable ...to let that **** fester in ya. It'll make ya SICK...literally!

My GO-TO Keyword/s for such a visit...LIQUID MARIJUANA! lolol
                                                     

 OMG SUPER BURRITO here I come… **** I could live at that place.. and their Nachos all baked and **** That was how I spent like every weekend as a teenager… I think…most moments were hazy at that age!!! hahaah

Wow. You've gotten yourself pretty riled up. It would be much less stressful for you if you didn't bottle things up. It doesn't mean that you have to cuss out your family. Just calmly and respectively give a strong response at the moment. You know what is coming so have some answers ready. For example, "... and yet I am happy and healthy"  or "...but I look so good"  or (especially when they suggest medical problems) "that's what doctors are for." One of my favorites, "and you got your MD from__?"  Do it on the spot, and you will be much less likely to hold on to it later.

I have a friend that was super stressed about her sister coming to stay with her because her sister was a bully who always criticized my friend's decisions- including her choice for a husband. Never mind the fact that my friend and her husband are great people (her husband is a police officer instead of a highly educated white collared professional) with stable productive and happy lives- her sister kept making digs. Finally I asked her, what if I made one of those comments? I told her to stop cowering away like she was a little girl being scolded by her much older sister. I told her that she is an adult, and I never have seen her tolerate that treatment from others so stop taking it from her sister.  She did and they are in a better place now. She didn't cuss or yell. She just used her normal sarcastic response (her normal personality), then she told  her that as a guess she needed to be respectful in their home.  More importantly, she no longer gets stressed when her sister comes to town.

You can't let these people sabotage the amazing progress you've made so far by indulging in massive amounts of alcohol!! If they are so caught up in their negativity that they are going to treat you this way, the just DON'T spend time with them!! I know it's hard... OTOH, if you go to them, you can up and leave when you've had enough...

It sounds like they are toxic people. When they are getting on you, try answering every question with the same question. "Why didn't you just diet?" "Why don't YOU just diet?" Just throw what they say back at them. Good luck... hope it's relatively non-predatory!!

 In response to the negative comments, simply smile sweetly and say, "I appreciate your concern, but I have done the research, considered my options, and decided that this was the best way for me.  And the results, as you can see, speak for themselves.  And that is the last word we will have on this subject ... thank you very much."

Proverbs 25:21-22 - If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.  In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you.  

I love the visual of that - LOL!

Shari

Wow! We must be twins, lol!!! Sounds like we have the same family!!! l just got the 'l love you, and will stand by you, even though what you're doing is wrong and there are better ways'. Again. How is that unconditional? And who is to say what is 'wrong' for another?!! Insulting as **** isn't it? You definitely have a wonderful family on here, though. Don't let them steal your power!!!!!

Well, at least you know now you are not the only one with family like this. Nobody know how to push your buttons like they do. Have a great time with your Aunt and the fun people and blow off the others. If they do show up, just keep thinking "I am slim and look great and you guys look and act like s---"!!!  Gotta say there is nothing more fun than having good friends see the new you for the first time.     Drive carefully. Diane

Have a safe trip and enjoy the positive from the trip and try to be above the pettiness of the negative.  You have done fabulous and you don't need validation from anyone...you get it from your mirror everyday.  Chin up!!

Everyone else has been very helpful - here's my two cents' worth - drink what you need to - you can overcome a weekend. Keep your chin up and don't be afraid to tell them what you think of them - THEY sure aren't afraid to be "honest".