Thoroughly Annoyed.. and a question.

so much great advice has been given on this particular posts.  things i needed to hear for myself as well.  that why i love OH!!

I just want to clarify - I am able to eat food. I am not on liquids.

Mom just threw this together last minute, there is a much larger reason she is on edge (not something I think is anyones business)

I talked to my brother - he said that he doesn't care if I am there or not - his girlfriend will be coming and told me "I won't even be hanging out with the family" .. maybe I should stay just to keep an eye on those two.

This is not a permanent fix, I never said or expected it to be - its just this particular occasion.

EDIT: PPI/Antiacid? I was never given a prescription for these things? Should I have one??

Uggghhh. That is a hard situation. I agree with many of the previous posters and think this may have to be your first real test of will power.  I can see how your mom would be upset and I can see your point too.  However...you can't go hiding from every situation where food is involved because the world literally revolves around food..think about it.  How about this...could you join the party later, like after dinner when the food will be less of a temptation?  I know in your heart you really don't want to miss your brother's birthday party.  Good luck dear and whatever you decide, do what feels right to you...none of us will judge.

did'nt mean to offend....your mother's business is her own and I hope you don't feel like you have to expound on that, I wasn't asking for personal info.

If your brother is OK with it and you can live with it, then avoid it.  Your parents will be parents are will look the other way just be prepared that your mother may revisit this occassion in the future and that is what I know from personal experience...

A good number of doctors prescribe PPIs/Antacids from the get go....the excess acid that forms from an inflammed smaller stomach can mimic hunger/desire....search the forums for PPI/ antacids....prevaside, prilosec, etc....you just may need it without showing any specific signs of acid reflux.

Since you spoke to your brother and his g/f is showing up, you spoke to your mother and your brother already had a special week with his dad, then blow it if you really need to.

Look into antacids/ppis....while looking into the meds, realize that there are several script/OTC ones and that you may have to try many to find the one that works for you

 I think we've all been afraid of those events that always comes with their food temptations, but you may be surprised at how your body handles all those old favorite foods. Three weeks after my surgery, I ate some Easter candy (2-3 pieces) because I didn't feel like resisting one of my "favorites." First of all, it didn't taste very good, and secondly, it went right through me and I had to rush home to the bathroom.

Since then I have eaten many small bites of things that I didn't feel like resisting. Some things still taste as good as i remember and others didn't taste good at all. it helps to know that some kinds of cheating just are not worth it.  If you decide you just cannot live without one or two small bits of chocolate cake, go ahead and try it rather than making it an untouchable substance. You may be totally surprised at your new body's reaction. 

And the Crystal Light is a great one--something you can live with the rest of your skinny life. You will eventually learn how to deal with these kinds of social situations. 

Good luck, and enjoy yourself. Let us know how the celebration goes.

My question to you is has the sleeve helped you with feeling full and cravings? Why not go ahead and eat before the party starts and take away the craving? I would probably feel like your mother and would expect for you to be there. We're you a binge eater prior? That would be my concern for you in the future. For me, it was all about portion control. I might eat twice a day and no snacking but when I ate I ate too much. I would refer to your local support group or contact your nutritionlist and see if she or he can offer some good advice. Whatever you decide it is ulitmately your decision. Best of luck!

Go here and find a good recipe for treats that will fit your stage of the program.  She has lots.

http://theworldaccordingtoeggface.blogspot.com/

I don't have any particular cravings, other than a turkey sandwich ( I want one so bad) and no I was not a binge eater before I had surgery, I was famous for one large meal in the middle of the day and then not eating until the next big meal the following day.

I think I am going to stay for the DINNER part of the party. Granted they will have picky stuff in the beginning, but I am not a big fan of that kind of thing.. For dinner they are making salmon, which I can have small pieces of in this stage (according to my doctors plan) and then if I need to, I will leave for the cake part. The biggest temptation will be with the cake, at least that is how I see it.

Before my surgery, my biggest temptation was actually food, now after surgery it is the sweet stuff - I don't crave it unless I see it - I have no craving for it at the moment, but if I were to see a commercial for say, ice cream, I would catch a craving.

EDIT: I talked to my nutritionist the other day, and she said I am probably not eating enough. I have to force myself to eat.. I know that sounds like a contradiction, I am complaining about being around food but literally need to force feed myself, so I have been trying to eat more. Also been seeing a food psychologist for two years, and I resume sessions with her on Monday (had to stop right after surgery because I couldn't drive to her). My head is more afraid of this party then my stomach.

Well, you've been given lots of good advice, but only you know what's right for you at this point.  If you do attend, or for future gatherings, planning ahead is key.  ie- I keep RTD protein shakes and vegi burgers in the fridge/freezer at my mother in law's.  I always have a couple mix in packets in my purse, and will often bring on eof my favorite 0 cal vitamin waters or SoBe so I feel like I'm having a little something special.  Plus sipping away at something (or chewing gum if you're allowed) will keep your mouth occupied. 

I will be 3 weeks post op on Tuesday.  My 9 year old twin daughters were invited to a birthday party.  I have been a sugar addict for my whole life, and have never passed up cake and ice cream.  I took my girls to the party, which was at their friend's house.  There were soooo many goodies - lots of different chips and dips, tons of crackers/dips, but there was also cubed cheese, fruit, even boiled shrimp.  Finally cake and ice cream...chocolate cake and chocolate ice cream...my favorite.  I was stunned to learn that none of it was even tempting.  I drank a low carb slim fast on the way to the party to help fight the temptation, and it must have worked!

I definitely think you should go, but I also think you might be surprised and not be tempted at all!