Morbid NSV... and realization that this surgery has really changed my life

My old neighbor is really going though it. Her uncle (who also lived next door to us at our last house) passed away this morning. My poor friend has been a mess. Her house is full of tons of family. Her Grandmother lived there with her two uncles and her (my friend) and her son for quite a long time. Her Grandmother was diagnosed with lung cancer about 6 months ago and is dying. She is in and out of the hospital all the time and actually not doing well at the moment. She has been in the hospital for a bit with pneumonia. My friend who was raised by her Grandmother is just reeling. She had to go to the hospital and tell her Grandmother that her uncle, (her Grandmothers son) had just died. I cant even imagine having to do that. Trying to do the little I could I stopped by the house with flowers and a card. I noticed the kids were playing happily so I didn't say much, they didn't seem aware anything was wrong. I walked out back where the adults were and handed a woman the flowers and card and hugged her. Everyone looked at me confused. I looked back at each of them baffled, no one knew who I was?!?!?! We were neighbors for 3 years and talked all the time! Our kids played together! I was on the verge of tears and I didn't want to make it about me, the only way to explain who I was would mean explaining my weightloss. The last time I saw them I weighed 275 so I just said "Im a friend of Tiffanis and I wanted to leave this for her and walked out. I got in my car and was just a mess. Tiffani called and said everyone was like some girl came for you who was she??? She told them "that was Alannas mom, our old neighbor" and explained I had surgery (she is now looking into the VSG). I know I look different but I didn't think I was totally unrecognizable. Its a sad day and I cant imagine what everyone in that house is going through. Its an NSV but it doesn't feel like one. I must saying watching this man die at such a young age from liver failure (he was a drinker) while overweight and trapped in his body makes me so glad I changed my life for the better and so grateful for the people I share every it with day with. Including all of you who have helped me stay on this path and see how much a healthy life has to offer. This is the second friend I have lost in a week, the other passed away last week at 35 years old. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I am going to live every moment I have left… healthier and happier than I was seven months ago thanks in a big part to all of you.
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Hey Jenn......

I'm always impressed with your range........

frisco

 

So sorry for your recent losses Jenn, it's definitely a bittersweet NSV. It just makes us realize the wonderful gift we gave ourselves in our VSG's  and helps us appreciate all the blessings we have.
Every morning I wake up I thank God for letting me see another day that was not promised to me and I try to make the most of each day in gratitude. Keep your chin up and keep up the great job you have been doing in your journey!

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John

Bless your heart, what a very hard experience to go through.  I'm so sorry for your sadness over it but glad you see that you are healtheir and happier now than 7 months ago.  I have surgery next Tuesday and this has been one of my concerns.  I don't want the compliments as I lose weight to make me feel worse than I do about how I am now.  I am the same person in my heart and mind at  150 or where I am now at 350.  You have been an amazing inspiration to follow on here, so thank you.  Take care and hugs and prayers for your days events. 

Thanks so much, you're gonna do great on this journey and soon newbies will be saying "Wow that Percheron, I want her success"

Wow, sorry your having such a terrible go of it, Hugs to you...

To close your eyes to the presence of man is to open them to the presence of God.  Rejoice in Him and know your friend and neighbor is well taken care of. We have to  live the life He has given us to its fullest so He won't be dissappointed with what we have done with it.  Condolences and heartfelt thoughts to you Jen.
Stephanie

jen,

what a sweet thing you do for your friend.

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Patty

Sorry for your loss Jenn.  Being reminded of our own mortality sucks, but is a nice reminder to live each day to the fullest.  Cheers to living the rest of our lives as healthy as possible.