Moms to little ones, help me...
help me justify this. I know the why that I am doing this. I know at this point I am unable to lose the weight on my own.....but please help me know that what I am doing justifies the risk. How did you convince yourself of this??
As much as I love my husband, God knows, I would be terrified to know that he had to raise my son as a single parent. He is just absentminded......
I am sooo scared to leave them. I am praying that all goes well, but I know it is major surgery with risk...and I am just having anxiety and panic.
As much as I love my husband, God knows, I would be terrified to know that he had to raise my son as a single parent. He is just absentminded......
I am sooo scared to leave them. I am praying that all goes well, but I know it is major surgery with risk...and I am just having anxiety and panic.
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start weight-288 pre-op -5lbs month 1-23lbs month2-14lbs month 3-minus 13lbs month4-minus 12lbs month5-13lbs month 6-8lbs GOAL-21months out after having a post-WLS baby!
Aloha Paige,
I have a six year old daughter and I, too, was very nervous about surgery and the what ifs. I did not want her to be raised by my ex-husband (there's many reasons why he is an "ex") but knowing that if I did not do anything about my weight I would still be running that risk due to the future co-morbidities that were awaiting me on that path.
I really felt I had done my research, was ready for the surgery and I had to "let it go" and trust in my surgeon and have some faith. I had VSG on 7/27/11 and here at six weeks out I am so happy that I trusted and believed that everything was going to work out and it HAS.
I wish you all the best and will think positive thoughts for you.
Lulu
I have a six year old daughter and I, too, was very nervous about surgery and the what ifs. I did not want her to be raised by my ex-husband (there's many reasons why he is an "ex") but knowing that if I did not do anything about my weight I would still be running that risk due to the future co-morbidities that were awaiting me on that path.
I really felt I had done my research, was ready for the surgery and I had to "let it go" and trust in my surgeon and have some faith. I had VSG on 7/27/11 and here at six weeks out I am so happy that I trusted and believed that everything was going to work out and it HAS.
I wish you all the best and will think positive thoughts for you.
Lulu
Enjoying the journey......
On September 7, 2011 at 7:19 PM Pacific Time, KauaiLulu wrote:
Aloha Paige,I have a six year old daughter and I, too, was very nervous about surgery and the what ifs. I did not want her to be raised by my ex-husband (there's many reasons why he is an "ex") but knowing that if I did not do anything about my weight I would still be running that risk due to the future co-morbidities that were awaiting me on that path.
I really felt I had done my research, was ready for the surgery and I had to "let it go" and trust in my surgeon and have some faith. I had VSG on 7/27/11 and here at six weeks out I am so happy that I trusted and believed that everything was going to work out and it HAS.
I wish you all the best and will think positive thoughts for you.
Lulu
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Your doing it for yourself and your family......
I'm not a mom...but I've read many posts on how WL has made them a better mom and wife......
It's pretty common knowledge now days.....the data is in..... Obese people don't live as long a normal weight people......
frisco
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On September 7, 2011 at 7:24 PM Pacific Time, frisco wrote:
Your doing it for yourself and your family......
I'm not a mom...but I've read many posts on how WL has made them a better mom and wife......
It's pretty common knowledge now days.....the data is in..... Obese people don't live as long a normal weight people......
frisco
visit my blog at www.thenursemommy.com!
start weight-288 pre-op -5lbs month 1-23lbs month2-14lbs month 3-minus 13lbs month4-minus 12lbs month5-13lbs month 6-8lbs GOAL-21months out after having a post-WLS baby!
Hi Paige,
I went through the same thing. I have a 4 year old son and 21 month old daughter.
I was scared and changed my mind several times before surgery. But i had to remind myself that one of the reasons I chose to have this surgery was to be a healther mom for them. I am a older Mom and I was tired all of the time. i did not have any energy. Since I had my surgery I have a lot more energy and i'm not tired all of the time.I want to live a long life to spend with them and i knew that if I did not have this surgery I might not see them grow up.
I went through the same thing. I have a 4 year old son and 21 month old daughter.
I was scared and changed my mind several times before surgery. But i had to remind myself that one of the reasons I chose to have this surgery was to be a healther mom for them. I am a older Mom and I was tired all of the time. i did not have any energy. Since I had my surgery I have a lot more energy and i'm not tired all of the time.I want to live a long life to spend with them and i knew that if I did not have this surgery I might not see them grow up.
Hang in there, I'm right there with you. I have two kids, five and nine. My way of dealing with the risk is finding a good surgeon, realizing without the surgery I will have more health issues taking me away from my kids early and that I can't really do it on my own. I have tried for years and get down about 20 or 30 pounds and then put it all back on over the next six months. I even delayed my surgery by six months and gave it one more go, did the same thing.
Is it a risk, yes! Am I and my kids worth it YES!
Is it a risk, yes! Am I and my kids worth it YES!
I have five little ones. I'm taking the risk because I know right now I'm not the best mom that I can be because my weight gets in my way. What I also know is that I'm on track for an early death and my health is only going to get worse along the way. The risk of surgery is small and I feel I have to take that chance to change what i know my future holds if I continue down this path.
I know it's scary but i think maybe it's best not to think too deeply about the what ifs at this point. Some people go the other extreme and write letters to family that they can read if things don't go as planned. Thats not how I live my life but maybe this works for some. I will pray for you an uneventful sleeving and quick recovery.
I know it's scary but i think maybe it's best not to think too deeply about the what ifs at this point. Some people go the other extreme and write letters to family that they can read if things don't go as planned. Thats not how I live my life but maybe this works for some. I will pray for you an uneventful sleeving and quick recovery.
I was in the same place as you on April 14th, but here I am almost 5 months later. I am 67lbs lighter and off all my high blood pressure meds. I know go outside and ride bikes with my boys. I feel like I am a better mother to my boys than I was before. YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS, and be a better you for it. God bless you and your family.
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When the fleeting thought enters my mind, I remind myself that I'm much more likely to die in a car wreck on the way to work than from a routine surgery.
I know you're a nurse, too. I work at a major trauma center, and way more people die in car accidents than from surgical complications. Crazy things happen, but not frequently. It will be okay.
I know you're a nurse, too. I work at a major trauma center, and way more people die in car accidents than from surgical complications. Crazy things happen, but not frequently. It will be okay.
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