This very moment will change for the rest of my life

DrHollywood
on 9/26/11 3:30 pm, edited 9/26/11 3:31 pm - Harbor City, CA

What the heck am I doing with this situation. I am chasing a man who is not even interested in me.
the story is long and let me cut to the chase. My moment sucks. This will pass and i deserve better. I deserve effection and attention. I am the man in this relationship and it sucks.
If I want sex... then dammit give it to me! If I want to hold hands...then give it to me. if I want my car door open than dam give it to me. If i want to talk to him dam listen to me.

This too shall pass. I have an addictive personality and its no wonder I attract the men I do.
Ughhhhhh I know I am in no business being in a relationship and we are not.... but I am the
one who is chasing him. I am the one who is acting like the man and giving and giving and making plans... etc etcetc.... i am exhausted and frankly his lack of attention hurts my feelings.... I just want out...i think... the instant gratification isnt working anymore. the pain consequeces is harder to deal with.

Boy this makes me want to eat... I wont...but let me tell you... i feel like eating.

I know and have faith this will pass... just know my moment is a little sucky.

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                         "Keeping The Faith!"   "Slim by Summer!"
                                    HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140


1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6  (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)


                                  Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011   (199.7)

                                  "Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)

                                  "Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)

                                   "Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)

                                    " HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)

                                       " CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)

                        "Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6

                                 "AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                              "Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                                ' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"

Two Year Surgiversary!!!"

(deactivated member)
on 9/26/11 3:43 pm

I just went through a very similar thing just before my surgery. It is just not worth the kick in the gut to your self esteem. You'll miss the chase for awhile but it fades.

I can be around him now and it doesn't hurt, finally after about 3 months.

Let him go, you don't deserve that!

DrHollywood
on 9/27/11 3:28 pm - Harbor City, CA

VSG on 02/01/11

thank you..... I deserve to meet someone who is into me right? and chase me a little right?

                      ✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
                         "Keeping The Faith!"   "Slim by Summer!"
                                    HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140


1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6  (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)


                                  Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011   (199.7)

                                  "Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)

                                  "Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)

                                   "Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)

                                    " HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)

                                       " CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)

                        "Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6

                                 "AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                              "Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                                ' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"

Two Year Surgiversary!!!"

(deactivated member)
on 9/27/11 4:14 pm

Absolutely, no question, fact!

susanpalmer
on 9/26/11 9:09 pm - annapolis county, Canada

Let him go! You deserve to be treated the way you want WE ALL DO. There is someone out there that will cherish you and appreciate you but you can not find him holding on to the other. Good luck.

susan palmer
highest weight 280 current weight 186

DrHollywood
on 9/27/11 3:29 pm - Harbor City, CA

VSG on 02/01/11

awww thank you. and often I think this man has to have gone through WLS like I did.
I am starting not to like the normies out there. they dont understand...but this has nothing
to do with my issue recently.

                      ✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
                         "Keeping The Faith!"   "Slim by Summer!"
                                    HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140


1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6  (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)


                                  Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011   (199.7)

                                  "Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)

                                  "Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)

                                   "Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)

                                    " HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)

                                       " CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)

                        "Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6

                                 "AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                              "Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                                ' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"

Two Year Surgiversary!!!"

SassyItalian
on 9/26/11 9:34 pm - Basseterre, St. Kitts and Nevis

VSG on 12/21/10

why do we women do the things we do? i think most of us are guilty of it- settling for less than we are worth, dealing with bs we shouldnt, chasing, ignoring the warning signs of bad relationships.
i guess sometimes its all more appealing when they dont reciprocate...

its good that at least you know that its a situation you arent ok with...changing it and stopping is a little harder i think.

i decided that the next person i date is going to be someone that i have chosen, not someone that i date because they show interest first. its going to be someone who piques my curiosity and with qualities that i am attracted to. basically, i will do the picking next time. ill let you know how that goes.

                      HW: 258lbs  SW: 240   CW: 140 I am 5 foot 7 and 30 years old
                 VSG 12/21/10  Plastics: Tummy tuck, breast lift, and augmentation 11/3/11
                                             Soon to be veterinarian!! xoxo

Mr-Smith
on 9/26/11 10:17 pm - Hillsdale, MI

VSG on 09/14/11

Man I wish I knew the answer to that! In my dating days, my heart was broken by more then a few gals who kept chasing after guys who treated them bad. I could never figure it out why they wanted a loser who treated them poorly or were even abusive when I was available...

I don't miss those days and have no words of advice either.

DarleneR
on 9/27/11 5:34 am

VSG on 09/29/10

Well said! I too have been guilty of only dating men who showed interest in me but at nearly 300 pounds I thought I better take what I could get when I could get it. The worst part is, I met an amazing guy a few weeks before my surgery last year and now that I'm 120 pounds lighter than I was when we met he says he's no longer attracted to me. Damned if you do...damned if you don't but oh well. I feel good about me for the first time in a long time and that's all that matters.

HW/SW/GW/CW
296/277/180/185.6

DrHollywood
on 9/27/11 3:30 pm - Harbor City, CA

VSG on 02/01/11

Bingo Sassy,
I think you hit it spot on. settling for less. I think it is me...
really, thanks for sharing.

                      ✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
                         "Keeping The Faith!"   "Slim by Summer!"
                                    HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140


1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6  (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)


                                  Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011   (199.7)

                                  "Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)

                                  "Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)

                                   "Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)

                                    " HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)

                                       " CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)

                        "Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6

                                 "AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                              "Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)

                                ' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"

Two Year Surgiversary!!!"

This very moment will change for the rest of my life

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