ready to not be stared at

 I don't know if it's because I'm bigger or gay but went out on a date last night and these girls at the booth in front of us kept staring at us... like turning around and staring at us until finally we left they were lucky I was trying to make a good impression lol that's truly a first for me and it sucked I'm ready for my surgery just 3 more days

Don't worry about them honey just stay your course! In 3 dyas you will be on an amazing journey! Good luck to you and much success to you with your procedure and your future!!

i will say...it is nice when i walk into a room not to worry if my fat is appropriately hidden or if im the biggest one there and people are talking. its true.

One of the best benifits of this weight loss for me is knowing that I "look pretty normal" these days. I'm not the elephant in the room that everyone is pretending to ignore....but I will say that in the weeks before and after surgery, I was VERY aware of my size -- just like anything else, when you over focus on one thing, it's what you notice !!!

Honestly it was probably because you're gay. There is a lot of ignorant, stupid people in the world. Good for you for not reacting to them, I'm not sure I could have kept quiet if I were you. Hugs.

I have to say that is one of my favorite things so far - no staring, giggling or feeling so huge anymore. I'm still big, but when I was 355 lbs. at my largest, it was horrible to go out in public for anything. As I got older I didn't care as much, but it's nice to go out now, still fat, but I'm getting there (and seriously - screw those jerks anyway!!). :)

Good luck to you!!

Before too long you won't even wonder if your size is an issue.  You will lose weight.  I hope the girls who made you so uncomfortable gat some maturity and sensitvity. Sorry they made you leave and good for you for not lowering yourself to their level.  Good luck with your surgery.  It's such a life changer!

Just a thought: maybe they were staring because you are a nice looking guy, gay or straight.

i was thinking the same thing too, that i would be staring cause you were a cute fellow. if not, buck it....their opinion is not that important.. ours is lol :0)

Honey it could be both or neither. Don't worry because either way you are fabulous! I recently went to a concert and wanted to laugh the entire time. Every time I got up people were staring at me. One, becaue they probably couldn't believe that I could fit in my seat and then two probably because it is rare to see people my size.

They have no idea that I put my life on the line and lost a large amount of weight that it made it possible for me to even fit in that seat! I am celebrating life and I am one of those big people that always refused to be hidden! I have the right to be seen and honey I am going to be fabulous while doing it.

Who's gonna check you boo?