Dating Challenges

I actually posted this earlier, but I thought I would make a separate thread to see if anyone else out there is facing some dating challenges.

I actually just got dumped by my really, really cute boyfriend of three months. Met him on match.com. He seemed like someone I would have never met before--fit, respectful, clean cut, Air Force guy. I'm sure my looks and the things we had in common are what attracted him to me. Always telling me I'm beautiful, sexy, etc. However, my self confidence didn't match up with my new found "hot" looks. So I acted weird, hard to take his compliments and shy. Guys don't like girls who are not self confident. Also, I never told him about the surgery so even though my skin has bounced back some, I still have body issues. BUT my secret WL surgery really affected how I was socially. In the 3 months we dated, I got so sick of eating out, awkward huge portions, nothing to drink at meal time and all his uncomfortable attention on what I was not eating/drinking. Ugh! I was hoping we would get to the point where I could share about my surgery and we could just hang out at home and eat dinner. Also, he liked to drink beer (going out for Monday Night football)--I don't drink beer or any carbonated drinks. Overall, I think he just thought I was a social freak, strange body/eating hangups and lacking in self confidence. Sniff, sniff...I was really sad he dumped me. I guess there is someone out there that will be more compatible with me.

THere are better fish in the sea my friend!  

You hit the nail on the head with your last comment.  THere is certainly someone out there that is more compatible with you.  Someone who you end up being able to share EVERYTHING with and they still love you for it.  This guy just wasn't it.

I met my hubby on match.com many years ago.  But I ran into a couple duds first.  And before I did the internet dating thing, I dated a real jerk for several years.  I almost married him.  Ugh.  So glad I didn't.

Best of luck!

I agree, you'll find someone you were truly meant to "click" with sooner or later... there really are lots of fish in the sea!

And when you do find the right one, you'll feel totally comfortable with him, even with all of your food and body image issues... and you know what? He'll support you through all of it!

Good luck to you!

Ps- you ARE hot. Keep up the awesome work, girl!

  Little_toto, every time you doubt or compare yourself to someone else, just remember that your weight loss is an amazing accomplishment.  Dating can be really hard but like silly_sweet said, you should have someone you can share everything with and make your bond with them, that much stronger.  
So dust off that rod and reel and find your perfect match in the sea.
Chris

 You are beautiful and deserve someone you can share your experience and life with. Its his lost. There are great men out there who will support you in all you do.

PS: Change your avatar. Your progress is so inspiring and you need to show it off.

Good Luck in your man hunt!!!!  Have Fun!

Thank you! I attempted to chage my avatar. It should be the picture if me in the red, skimpy outfit. Is it showing up now?

Dating or married going out to eat is awkward.   I hate the waitress coming back 4 or 5 times to ask if I am ready for a drink yet.   I used to waitress and I get it we make tips and the more the bill the bigger the tip but seriously no is no so just go away.... I don't want a drink.   And the portions well that is another story.    There are lots of fish in the sea..... and you will find someone who deserves the new you.    Don't give up but maybe try other date night activities that are not going out to dinner all the time.

 No it didnt. Keep trying It took me a few times to figure mine out.

 Get back out there. Tons of decent guys in KC.

I checked out your pics and you are a beautiful woman both before and after weight loss. 
You might consider a bit of counseling for the self confidence issue.

Good luck and never give up!