Gah, why do people think its ok to tell me I am TOO thin?

 I am also dealing with this..my therapist actually threatened me with "the tube" the other day becuase she didnt like the "direction" my weight loss was going and I was starting to look like a "stick figure" and "what is now 155 could slide into 120 over the next 6 months and then before you know it....."THE TUBE!" 

I almost peed myself laughing on her couch!!!

Last time she did this I practically did drop my drawers and shake my FAT ASS in her face..well rather I stood up and did a giggle jig in her office...but still I showed her I have plenty to lose!

This time I didnt have the energy to say much of anything due to other stuff going on in my life...

I just came home and Laughed  and laughed till my hardy jiggly 155 belly about hurt and told some good friends about my latest NSV...I got the threat of THE TUBE...and I am STILL medically OVERWEGHT! 

Sheesh...Some people's therapist!!!! 

Cant please all the poeple all the time...

I love the naked picture idea..hand them out like business cards..here I am naked..and still sort of lumpy. now have a nice day and mind your business!

 Whats a Tube?

A feeding tube.

Even after almost 2 years in maintenance, pregnancy weight gain, and losing 2/3 of the gain, I still get people commenting that I am "too thin". I don't get it, none of these people knew me at my highest, they did however see me go from about 190 to 125lbs so they did see some progression through the sizes. The only time I really listened to the comments is when I did get too thin. My spine was protruding through my skin without hunching over, my necks veins were gleaming through my skin and I did look "sunken in". Everyone, family, friends, husband, really started the comments at 175lbs, they progressively got worse as I kept losing down to 125lbs, and then the "slight" comments became concerned for my health when I hit 118-119lbs.

I didn't get it at first, I was hurt, and I felt the same way you do. No one dared comment on my fat ass before, no one dare say "Tiffany, put the fork down!" after 4 trips to the buffet, or while devouring my 2nd dessert. I really didn't understand any of it. But, looking back, I realize now, none of my family could remember me any smaller than 200lbs because I hadn't been smaller than an 18/20 in about 15 years. It was scary for them because they live so far away so only FB pic updates is what they were seeing. My husband was the biggest complainer. He likes fat chicks, hell he married me at 270lbs, he begged me to stop losing weight at 175lbs, 150 being my goal, and when I slipped below that number, the worry overwhelmed him, be it his insecurity, or true concern for me, he let it be loudly heard that he didn't want me to lose weight. He started to attempt to sabotage me, offering me food, became the food police again, and it was a vicious cycle. The biggest mistake I made was allow him to meet my surgeon(he was deployed when I revised), and my surgeon stressed maintenance to me and advised that I was way too far under goal. I still hear about it to this day that my surgeon believes I need to maintain at 140-150lbs. He still brings it up that the surgeon I admire, respect and hold in an extreme high regard thinks I need to weigh more than my maintenance weight of 125-130lbs. Least to say, pregnancy weight gain made my husband a happy camper, and he is ecstatic that I couldn't lose the last 10-12pounds. He loves that I'm a bit more curvy, and well here I am knocked up again, and least to say, I know I'll hear about the weight loss once I deliver this one.

For me, I honestly don't feel like I'll ever please everyone, and I have to accept that only I can control my weight. It's my body, my struggle, my happiness that matters most. Sorry for the ramble :)

I'm speaking from the "outside" as I haven't even had my surgery yet, but I have read SO many times that it takes our mind awhile to catch up with our newly shrinking bodies...is it possible that it is the same for those around us???  They see the progression, but for many of us, we have never been anything but heavy, so the huge change in our appearance may take awhile to catch up possibility... 

I received my first "concerned" question this week, too.  Not quite at the "too thin" point, but someone looked at me and commented on how thin I look and then asked, "So, how do you stop losing weight?  You look so good right now, I hope you don't get too thin."  I like this person and discuss weight with her all the time, so I took it in a good way and not a bad way...  kind of an NSV.

I reassured her that I could easily stop losing at any time now, as I've reached the point that it's more guts and intention than automatic.  I also pulled my shirt down tight against my body and showed her that I still have a good 20+ pounds of weight in my torso to lose.  I think people are kind of afraid that "the surgery" will cause us to waste away to nothing, and don't realize that we control our rate of loss and our ultimate goal weight by our behaviors, habits and will-power.  I take every opportunity to educate people about the process.

I was friends with someone who was naturally very thin, and was very self-conscious about her weight and actually did everything she could to gain.  People did actually feel free to comment on her weight all the time and tell her that she was too thin.  It was as hurtful to her as someone telling me that I was too fat. 

I think people don't think about it so much because thin is considered to be a good thing in our society, but really, everyone needs to keep their comments about others' bodies to themselves.  LOL

I have gotten that a couple of times (my MO sister is the worst) and I am still right on the borderline of overweight.

I'm curvy, I like me curvy. I don't think I look fat, but I by no stretch of the imagination look "thin". C'mon people!

One thing I do note (speaking to Brandilynn's comments) is that at certain angles my face looks a little gaunt. I understand it will probably redistribute and I'm not worried about it, but to folks who are used to my round cherubic fat-girl face it must look pretty shocking.

Whatever. That's my attitude anyway.

I got my first taste of this last night from one of my mom's bingo friends...she told me to stop losing! She thought I looked better when I was "robust." Not ****ting you. She used the word "robust." I told her I was trying to get the last 10 pounds off...which by the way would still put me at 5 pounds more than a normal BMI. She told me I shouldn't lose 10, but gain 10. WTF? I feel you!

There are already a bunch of smart, supportive comments in this thread.  Thus, I'm just going to park this here:

 YAY!~ Girl fight! I want to rock a pair of those plether pants with my hooker boots. 

You would think they would make them cut their nails. Scary!