it's more than the weight... ;(

 so I'm almost 6 months out from surgery I've lost 90lbs 140lbs in a year.. and I've been trying to put myself out there for a relationship with a guy... yes I'm gay... lol but have yet to find literally anyone that is truley interested and it's so frustrating I feel like I'm ready and finally look good enough to get the guy I want and everyone ends up hurting my feelings it's not like we are boyfriends yet but just a second date would be nice idk maybe I'm dating the wrong types... I just haven't had my feelings hurt this many times ever.... lol maybe I just need to stick to the rule never kiss... lol any advice would be great 

Are you meeting guys in da clubs? 'Cause that can be a problem right there. Basically meat markets, don't you agree?
Well, I dont know where you are meeting these "wrong" guys. I know you are ready but sounds like you just became ready. It might take some time. I know it's frustrating though. You are a good looking guy. I'm sure you will find the right guy when the time is right. Good luck!

 yeah I'm from such a small town that the only place ally friends met there spouses were either from bars or high school but I have been trying to volunteer more at LGBT events and be more active in the community here... I know he's out there somewhere but damn lol... 

 yeah I've been thinking romeo will come up buy me a drink ad. we'll live happily ever after... lol and they're all either married or just looking for a good time.... I have sstarted to be more active in the community hopefully theres more people there

Well, you know what they say... You might find the right person when you least expect it. Sucks to wait, I know!
Try to start enjoying your new healthy life. You look pretty young & have your whole life ahead of you. Maybe just enjoy "life" for a bit & then maybe he will come along soon than you think?
Yeah, dont we all want the fairy tale ending? Damn, I want that too!!!

LOL Love it... I have been so bad about that! I mean, at the clubs theyre so hot and just throwing drinks at me. They love it when I dance in the cage... but those ***** are mega douchy... Try an online service maybe? I always hated when people said the right guy would come along when I wasnt looking but maybe try walking around with your eyes shut and some hottie will come tap you on the should and be like "hey baby..." I kid I kid... But really I do feel for you, been there done that and it blows!!! Where are you located? Is there much to do to meet people? I know my ex who is now gay had a hella time when he was younger looking for a serious committed relationship. ( and no damn jen you turned him gay jokes, he was always gay... as evil as I am you cant turn someone gay.. my family has never let me forget its probably my fault) He always told me... which I dont know if it is true or not that finding someone wanting to commit at a young age in the gay community can be hard. He is now almost 40 and has been living with his boyfriend for a few years. He swears gay men age slower so they needed time to grow up.... I personally think he just took forever to grow up. Either way.... hope it gets better and know you deserve the best and when it shows up your skinny ass will be ready! Until then have fun looking at hot men online... it keeps me busy... if ya know what I mean

 I truly believe you have to be happy with yourself before you find that perfect mate.

Perhaps working on being the very best YOU will attract a great mate? (and by the best you I mean emotionally, psychologically, etc. NOT how your shell looks!)

Congrats on your losses, there is some perfect guy out there for you!!

Good luck!

 You might have to learn to be truly happy alone (and with all the changes you have been through in a year, you probably still need more time).  
Then, as stated above, look at where you are meeting men.  Bars and nightclubs are hard places to find a decent mate.  Maybe ask friends for recommendations.  :)

 yeah I've never been in a relationship yet either... lol it's just kinda frustrating to think your ready even though u have no idea... kinda like before surgery... lol

Have you tried to find local LGBT scenes?  Organizations where you can do some good?  If there aren't many where you live, look online.  Not only can you do something good, but you can develop relationships and friendships that can help you find the one you are searching for.  :)