it's more than the weight... ;(

Dating is tough period! Give yourself a break, you will meet the right guy eventually, some of us just have a longer path to the perfect one! You have to kiss a bunch of frogs before you find...

 I have been a yo yo for my entire adult life, I know what you mean about losing the weight, and finally feeling confident enough to put yourself out there, only to be hurt. 
I think you are on the right track when you say that maybe you are dating the wrong types.  
I have been there, done that, and bought the tshirt (it doesn't fit anymore though). 
I sat down one day and actually made a list for myself of things that I wanted and was looking for, and things that I absolutley would not tolerate. I stuck to my list and actually found a man who loves me for who I am, and accepts me, even though I have put on so much weight since we met and got married.  He supports this surgery, and my choice, but said that he still loves me however I am. 

ps.. I am a woman, so I know it's a little bit different, but the same applies.  If you are looking for a man to love and have him love you for who you are, make a list. . it's the best thing I EVER did! 

Hope this helps, and good luck in your search for a man who will treat you like you deserve. 

 thank you I will make a list I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish when is lt this
surgery so I'll make one now!!! all my friends say the most important thing is to not settle... ;)

 you have smart friends! 

Oh man...tell me about it. Guys are....okay, I'll be nice. I find that the guys that I'm attracted to are soooo not into me, and i"m not settling, sooooo, I'll fly solo for a while. Kind of sucks, but this is ME time, my life, my happiness, time to discover who I am and what I want in life.

Sometimes I get side tracked and think dating should be my top priority but it doesnt last long. It shouldn't be our top priority - we will find a good person when it's meant to be.

 yes gurl.. it's hard not to get side tracked... I work at a huge casino so I see tons of people every day that ccould pick out of the crowd and say maybe yes no never defiantly.... ect... and the when u lose all the weight they smile at you say hi wanna hangout ect... it's so crazy hhow different customers and employees treat you when you lose weight... but I have my fun when I want too but I know that's not
gonna lead anywhere it just disheartens me sometimes... but I have found myself to be kinda shallow now too... but I am confident eventally I'll find myself a husband 

 oh man this is so me right here. guys that i like dont like me and i wont settle either!!

Sometimes I feel like wls is kind of like AA- no relationships for the first year.  There is just too much going on for me just taking care of myself.  I don't even know where I want to buy clothes, never mind find a man!  I just feel like when it is time it will happen.  I just hope it's before I qualify for AARP.

Hi dailey,  I'm one of those that thinks there is no rules in love.  Still don't ru****'ll happen.  Take your time and put yourself first.  You don't want to end up with a loser.  Take time to get to know someone.  It will pay off in the long run.  I mean really that was my biggest mistake....don't rush!!! You'll regret it.  Be selective VERY selective!  People lie and don't show you who they really are...that takes time.  It will save you a whole lot of heart break.

 thnx girl I understand... it sux waiting but I kknow it's for the better..: living in a college town now doesn't help but if I find someone as mature as me iI'm sinking my claws in if I tthink they're as Mature as me... lol of not they can handle my friends and family themselves...