Hearing all this negativity...15 hrs prior to surgery

Good Luck Ashley!! I will be joining you tomorrow My surgery is at 12:30!!

P.S. I haven't told anyone and I am glad I didn't!! (well my hubby, kids, sister and mom, but no one else) Good luck!!!!

 Your hearing negativity .. and that sucks .. but if you read on here for any length of time .. you will have a hard time finding many people who are not happy with their decision.

Am I happy I've lost 100 lbs .. yes I am!
I'm happy I've lost 10 sizes in my pants too.
I'm happy I used to wear a 4XL shirt and yesterday at my grandson's birthday party I had on a XL shirt.
I'm happy that I feel a lot better and can move easier.
I'm happy that I can sit in the movie theater seats without getting stuck or at the baseball game that I worked at a week or two ago.
I'm happy my feet are not so swollen that it's hard to even get my work boots on.
I'm happy that everybody notices me and says "wow you've lost weight!"
I'm happy that I have more energy and don't always ask my daughter to do things around the house all the time like I used to.
I'm happy because when my Fire Supply Coordinator that handles the uniforms for the Fire Dept I work for gave me ones that actually fit now and he held my old size 58 pants up in the air spreading them out and said, "God D*MN BOY!" and looked at me smiling, I knew that I would never be in those again.
I'm happy that the seat in my cars are not pushed as far back as humanly possible just so I can squeeze in there and still have my belly rubbing against the steering wheel.
I'm happy that I now have the willpower to not eat a whole pizza, a half pizza or ANY pizza at all and haven't for 5 months.
I'm happy that I have to keep punching holes in my belt to make it tighter and tighter so I don't have to spend $30 on a new belt every month from the Big and Tall shop.

Hey, I could keep going all night ... but my fingers are getting tired!

Listen to the negativity if you want to .. but there .. I gave you some positive to think about.

I was getting negative feedback from the anesthesiologist IN THE PRE-OP PREP ROOM, so I appreciate how this last-minute negativity can throw you. With the coworkers and family member, you just have to ignore it (aka screw 'em). I told my NUT about the anesthesiologist AND the post-op nurse who was asking me didn't I think I could do it myself since I did well on the pre-op diet, and his response is to get used to it, because there will always be ignorant people saying, oh you weren't heavy enough to do that, and oh, now you're too skinny, or oh, you took the easy way out. You know (as I explained to that nurse) how easy it is for our weight to bounce right back up after trying crazy liquid or other diets. Surgery is the ONLY solution to have long-term success rates. I am on day 13 post-op, and yes, I'm a little tired of pureed food, but I'm down 23 pounds since I started the pre-op diet, and I walked almost 2 miles today and felt GREAT!!! Good luck doing this wonderful thing to make a healthy change in your life!

My surgery is on Wednesday, the 27th. I haven't told anyone besides my 3 sons and daughter in law. I have done almost every diet in the book. My biggest concern when I met with the surgeon was the fear of failure.I am tired of failure, and was afraid that this will be another means to fail. I have been overweight all my life. I see the effect of obesity in my mother. I don't want to have congestive heart failure, shortness of breath, bad knees, arthritis. I've always taken the pictures in the family, because I never wanted my picture to be taken. I was too fat. It was as if my kids never had a mother. I was never in the pictures. I am looking forward to my surgery now. It is something for me. I want to be able to be a grandmother for my 5-day old granddaughter that can run and play, and get up and down from the floor. I want to be in photos with her.

My husband and kids are with me, and I am with me. This time is for me.

Perhaps you are having "pre-surgery jitters"?   Ibid, I'll see you on the loser's bench.

 I am guessing that these people haven't struggled with weight their entire lives.  Very few people understand that it takes more tha will power to achieve a lifetime weight loss.  These kinds of comments, as unsettling as they can be, can be a chance for you to educate people about what a lifetime struggle weight can be.

Unfortunately popular culture still thinks we "take the easy way out" by having weight loss surgery.  It ****** me off as well every time I hear that.  I really want to tell those people that they need to walk a mile in my fat pants and see what its like.  

Ultimately what you are doing tomorrow is taking your life back.  You are doing this so that you can spend a lifetime with the people you love.  They ultimately will see that.

You will make mistakes on the way.  Hopefully you will also learn to give up on guilt, and see each bad choice as a lesson on how to make a better choice tomorrow.  The true struggle we have is working on our issues with food.  The surgery give us time to work on those issues.  No one is perfect.  We all struggle every day.  The surgery won't change that.  The surgery is our commitment to make those changes and to be mindful of our choices and our motives.

Best of luck tomorrow.  We will be saving you a place on the losers bench.

Wishing you good thoughts and prayers tomorrow.  You need to do this for YOU to be the healthiest, best you, you can be!!!

Wishing you a smooth surgery tomorrow as you begin your journey!!