Message from "The VSG princess". Serious Rant.

No matter, we can cheer together. Like I said somewhere before, I refuse to beat up on someone and I don't think a momentary lapse of judgement (or a planned choice) is a reason to run around acting like chicken little. The sky is not falling, they won't gain back all 100 pounds they lost. Life WILL resume. Somehow.

Exactly Candy, I do agree.

 People refer to you as a cheerleader in a bad way???  Who would do that?  Want me to kick them in the shins for you?  (I can't get much higher - you've seen how short I am).

You are awesome Jenn - and always supportive.   I have been inspired by you since coming to OH.

No worries gurl, I misunderstood Rob is all.  He's a great guy.  I have been referred as a cheerleader as far as cheering on people's success but I took his post out of context and thought maybe... just maybe he could have been talking about me but he wasnt.

Thanks for offering though; I will keep that in mind for next time!!!  I'll do the same for you, k? 
MUAH!!! 
:-)

Jenn, you are totally awesome and we all love you.  We all need each other and I love reading your posts.  We all struggle with our own demons around food.  That's what we are here for, all us need the support.

I WAS NOT talking about you!  Jenn!  I love ya gurl!  And since I saw this post you know its not you I blocked - LOL.

 

When I say cheerleaders, its not about admitting we slip - We all do, I sure do.  I struggle every day with eating choices.  It would be lovely to dip into a bag of oreoes or the big bowl of mashed potatoes DH made after practicing his knife skills, or the pecan pralines I made him as a surprise the other night. When I have those moments, i try to use my tools to overcome them.  Sometimes I give in.

Last night was such a moment.  Got home late, was tired, and didn't want to fix something big.  I had a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.  It was walden farms peanut butter, and low sugar jelly.  IT was still more carbs than I needed, and for the first time in a long time didn't break 90 g of protein for the day.  I didn't come close to exceeding my calorie goal, but I didn't make my nutritional goals either.

Do I say so what?  Not even close.  I recognize I didn't make the best choices during the day.  I don't let myself think I am a bad person or feel too guilty about making bad choices.  I look for how I could have made better choices?  Always have my protein bars made and a stash in the freezer.  I also recognize that I probably made an emotional choice as well, I was stressed out about money.

The cheerleaders are the crowd that immediately follows the slip, offering support for eating off plan and no advice for controlling it.  The cheerleaders are the crowd who show up preaching "moderation" without realizing how that concept can be too easily misused without proper mental tools to back it up.

Had I written a post this morning about how delicious my PB&J was - the cheerleaders would have shown up telling me so what, it happens.  Which is true.  Not one would have encouraged me to look at my motives or develop a strategy for dealing with that the next time.  Support does not mean commiseration or absolution in my book.  Support means trying to help with making that lifelong change.

 P.s.  I will add this since the gummy bear post was brought up both above and below  - I did not jump all over that guys case.  What I recommended to him was to work on his strategy for dealing with the gummy bears and temptation.  I did not congratulate him for eating 140 calories of crap.  I did tell one other poster that I thought their response was dangerous for congratulating him, and she and I have worked that out in PMs subsequent.

The person I blocked may think I'm a know it all and that my posts are crap.  She is free to think whatever she likes, just as I am.  I blocked her not out of spitefulness or thinking I am better than her, but because I really do not ever see any value in her posts and think that often her advice is dangerous to newbies.  Since neither of us seems to see any value in the others posts - best to just not be bothered by them.

 I get it now.  I saw the word "cheerleader" & thought you could have meant me.  No biggie though.

i would just like to say I totally appreciate all you vets and your advise. You've been there, done that, and know what works and what doesn't. you've been the success stories that I hope to be. I LOVE the brutal honesty. what's the point in sugar coating things? Continue to say it as it is! the good the bad and ugly! and if us newbies are smart we'll listen and be more prepared for the journey ahead! thank you!!

Thank you.  I really needed to hear this today.  You help me tremendously by sharing an alternate point of view.  It really means a great deal to me, really, it does.

Thanks for the laugh, biker chick!

Two things:
One day in the office someone said to me, "that's your opinion".  And I simply responded, "of course it is, why would I tell you yours?"

In my 'wise beyond my years' phase, a professor told me how offended he was about a comment that another student made to me. The comment wasn't about him so I said, "I would be offended too if I thought everything was about me."