OT: Follow-up marriage question

Have to agree.  Small wedding = family and close friends.  The people you manage will understand.

I agree. All or none. Chances are the ones you want there are the ones who would show up anyway.

You could have a separate reception. Or a party of sorts after the wedding. That way you could invite the other people that you aren't inviting to the wedding.

The way I understand it, it's ok to invite your peers or your boss, but not a good idea to invite anyone you supervise.  It's an awkward situation for them and possibly you.  If some are invited and don't go for whatever reason, they may think it will affect their review, etc.  Or they may feel obligated to buy you a nice gift and it's not really appropriate for a supervisee to buy a gift for a supervisor. 

Great points, thanks!

OMG Slimpickins!! I was going to say basically the same thing! You could have a nice intimate wedding on Thurs...and invite ONLY who YOU WANT! Then...the next weekend or so have a bash and party for friends and open it up...just a celebration evening event!

THEN...you'l have to have ANOTHER party...for the OH family of course! Let me know when your ready to take down my address!

CONGRATS TO YOU BOTH!!! You look so HAPPY!!!

~Deb

Congratulations! I understand the amount of stress you are under as I, too, will be getting married in August. There is so much involved it's mind boggling! If you can't invite all of them I wouldn't invite any as it may cause hurt feelings. I hope your special day is full of joy!!

If you supervise 12 people you will need to invite them all or none. If someone gets hurt feelings they can use it as evidence (at least try to) that you play favorites. It can get ugly. If my boss and I aren't good friends then there is no reason I should be upset that I didn't get an invite to the wedding, but some people are a bit off and think they are friends with you when they really aren't.

To go back on what I just said, if one of the employees was my best friend then I wouldn't give a **** I'm going to invite my best friend. IF that is not the case here then leave it be. None of them need to be invited.

Congrats to you both!

I agree with other posters, the work thing is tricky, and I would say invite all or none. I didn't invite anyone from work, but another thing we did to cut down the guest list was to not invite guests to bring a plus 1. The obvious exceptions would be the guests that are in committed relationships.

If you do decide to invite some people from work and not others, I would definitely suggest keeping wedding talk to a minimum at work. Actually I would probably suggest that anyway, lol. Send the invites to your coworkers homes, don't give them at work, etc.

Also, the first two things that should be done before anything else (guest list and budget) are 2 of the hardest in my opinion! Good luck :)

No coworkers. You are getting married on a Thursday! Who would be left at work?

But if you do - I think the etiquette is only people who are on the same level as you. Not your supervisor and no one you supervise.