NSV's & insecurities

Hi all, I'm not posting this to get assurance; I have to love myself first and foremost.  One of my resolutions was to be more confident & stop self loathing myself and how I look.  I guess my lesson for today was if you put yourself down others will too."  But hey my boots fit so there's that.  Hope you're all having a great Sunday.  Still working on getting to goal, weight jumping from 193-195 but I'm still working on it.  "How I feel about myself is more important than how I look- feeling confident, being comfortable in your skin- that's what really makes you beautiful." Bobbi Brown -makeup artist

My blog link about today http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/csbsteph/blog/2015/02/08/N SVs-uncertainties/

One of the things I'm really trying to work on is to talk about myself (and treat myself) as though I'm someone I actually like.  I'd never in a million years make a negative comment about flappy skin on a friend, so why do I talk that way to myself?  I don't know.. I'm working through this with therapy.  It's hard.  :/  

Awesome boots.  I don't see a double chin. 

Gwen - very good point. Another thing I didn't think of today or a year out - if I wouldn't say it to someone else, then why would I say it to myself. Something to chew on....no pun intended :)

It sort of makes me think of the golden rule - do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Really I need to do unto me as I would do unto others!  :D

Thanks Gwen, it's so hard to not be my own worst enemy.  I will look at it from that point of view I would never ever say the mean things to others that I say about myself so I shouldn't say them about myself to myself. 

I can relate to the self deprecating remarks. I get it. It's hard to openly take pride in our accomplishments when we feel we still are so far removed from our ideals. So here's my thought for the day for you: learn to accept that you will never be swim suit model perfect. You know that logically, but you've got to know it in your depths - in that place that only you and God can see. Look at those flappy arms and take pride in the fact that they flap because they are no longer filled with fat. Your tummy wrinkles and fallen boobs are testaments to your hard work and the fact that you have committed to a new and healthier life. As for your double chin, BS! Sure you've got a little extra there (though I can't see it in either of the pics!), but I bet you did when you were skinny kid, too. You have a round, youthful face. (BTW, your daughter has the exact same thing going on in the pic with her chin! LOL - she just doesn't see it yet and don't ever tell her!)

You have done great and have a lot of which to be proud. You just keep going and keep eating low carb and low cal and you'll get to goal. And remember, vanity is not a sin. You just need to do the very best with what you have every day and be grateful for what you do have, not resentful or wistful about what you don't.

Thank you for this Kairk.  I looked at my flappy arms differently yesterday on the treadmill and took pride in my jiggly tummy.  Thank you for the very very kind, honest & helpful reply.