All I can do is cry today

Autumn's Mom
on 10/19/06 4:11 am - Fairport, NY
Sweetie believe me we all have body issues.  My thighs are so bad - they fell down to my knees and there are so many wrinkles.  When I look in the mirror I focus on that part of my body because it's what I think looks bad (used to be my boodie).  In reality, it's probably not as noticeable as you think.  When others look at you they are focused on your face not your pubis area or my thighs.  Think about it - is there anything as bad as not wanting to get out of bed because everything hurts?  I'll take wrinkled thighs sitting on my knees over that anyday!   Maybe you're depressed, I know I was at your stage.   If you can't focus on a part of yourself your happier with, how about your inner beauty, I read all of your posts and that my sweetie you do have!

micha  288/130 below goal
this is my neice ~ please pray her cancer stays in remission!!
nuniandjj.jpg picture by michamros

***AlyCat ***
on 10/19/06 4:23 am, edited 10/19/06 4:31 am - Panama City, FL

Dee , sending you a    for you. It will get better!  You just got started and there are a lot of good things that await you. I am so sorry your feeling this way I wish I know just want to say to make you feel better! Please know we are all here for you and will help you through this! Maybe you should talk with you Doc about how you are feeling!  

 

 

 

Always be yourself 
Because the people who mind don’t matter 
And the people who matter don’t mind! 
    

SH
on 10/19/06 4:24 am - Staten Island, NY
RNY on 08/10/05 with
Hang in there Dee.  Everyone loses weight differently.  Myself...........I lost from the top down.....and after about 8-10 months, by bottom half began to catch up to my top half and I am now more in proportion.  You too will get there pal.............just keep the faith.   S

SH
265/145/130? ( I never really set a goal)  

(deactivated member)
on 10/19/06 4:27 am - Somewhere Else
I know how you feel, not for the same reasons...but I still know how you feel.... I hope things get better for you Hugsss
Con Con
on 10/19/06 4:32 am - Coastal, MS
Aww, Dee...  I am so sorry you are feeling this way right now. I believe it will pass and you will feel better. I am especially sorry you have lost friends due to having surgery... that just goes to show the character of those ppl, and maybe it is better they were weeded out now... so you can find friends who truely love you for who you are, not whether you are big or small... You are still losing... don't give up hope with certain areas of your body. You are a blessing to me and I am glad that you are here... You have done a very good job so far, and you have so much farther to go... I am sending you a great big ((((((((((HUG)))))))))) Connie
soxy_lady
on 10/19/06 4:34 am, edited 10/19/06 7:34 am - TX
UGH!!  That was my first response to your post, so that's what I typed.  And no, it wasn't to be mean, it was just a response, because I see so much potential in you.  We always fail to see the potential in ourselves.  I'm at fault in this area as well. You are a beautiful, fun, vibrant woman.  I can't think of a single person here who doesn't like you, and doesn't look forward to seeing you here.  You provide so much more than you realize, not only to us, but to your family as well.  Yes, our bodies can be very exasperating, and sometimes I hate it also.  But remember... you are so much more than just a body.  You're a beautiful soul, that God put on this earth for a very special reason. You're doing wonderfully with your weight loss, and soon, you'll get to where you want to be.  Like with any good thing, it takes time. P.S.  Don't be fooled by the date I joined on my profile.  I'm an old timer who left and returned.  I've been here for years, so yes... I do know you from previous posts.  You'll be ok.  Honest!!
anewbecboo
on 10/19/06 4:36 am - Ellensburg, WA
Dee, I had to post again. I went to your profile and looked at your weight loss so far.  45 lbs in one month, WOW!!!! That is a whole lot to be thankful for. And take a look at your face in the picture of your 10th wed. ann. compared to now, you have to see the difference. I'm sure there is huge change in the rest of your body that you haven't shown us yet too. You already have so much to be thankful for, just try to focus on that sweetie.  I just sent you a friend invite.  Big HUGS,  Becky


Surgery was RNY 5/21/07...I can be found on Facebook: anewbecboo or Becky Reddick 
 
            
  

 


                                                  
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

GeekGirl
on 10/19/06 4:56 am - Billings, MT
After you're done with your weight loss, I know you can have plastics done to that area. I've seen several plastic surgery shows where skinny women even have it done. One girl even had one part of her labia pulled up because it drooped a little bit. Of course, she weighed about 110lbs and still wanted liposuction. She was a little weird. But you will be able to have that fixed if you so desire after your weight stabilizes!
240 / 120 / 99 / 5'4"
Starting / Goal / Current / Height

4/20/08 - Tummy Tuck & Mini Arm Lift
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KimMM
on 10/19/06 4:57 am - APO, NY
Dee, I've never written you before---but I always follow you. I always look to see how you're doing, check and see what you've posted, etc. It's making me sad to see you so down...but I think it's all normal...we've been through so much, and our systems are still so haywire, never mind the emotional/psychological things we're going thru. I know I want it to all be done yesterday! Instead, I'm living day by day, trying to learn how to eat again...trying not to feel like a failure when I feel like crap...etc. Hang in there...remember this too will pass...and remember that you're an inspriation to a lot of people on here, me included ((((((((((((((((((Dee))))))))))))))))))) Take care and be gentle with yourself... Kim
Kristi H.
on 10/19/06 4:59 am - wildomar, CA
I am so glad you posted this.  Too many hide when they feel like you are.  You are going to help some people today.  Now to help you.  You are at 7 weeks out, guess what, that is the time most say "Whay did I do and why did I do this"  The depression hits because of many things, hormones being released from the fat you are loosing, morning of food again, it just isn't the same as before, the weightloss is slower than we thought, even though we knew it would take time. So it is very normal to feel this way this way.  As for things not fitting, that is going to be something to deal with for awhile I am afraid.  We all loose different, but one thing seems to be the same, we don't loose proportionately.  But in the end, it all works out.  I just posted how I see a thin person on top and a fat person on the bottom.  This isn't real, I wear a 14 top and 14 bottom.  But that is not what I see. Now as to a bathing suit.  How many stores did you go to?  Each brand is going to fit differently.  Try the Just my Size, or go to Lane Bryant.  Try many suits, each is cut different, even by colors of the same brand will be cut different. But it will get better.  I promise.  Put this post in your profile, you will want to remember it in a year when You know it was all worth it.  I promise you.  This will help others too to see that it is all normal, that you can get thru it. If the depression keeps up, please get some meds to help.  Alot of people need them for a month after major surgery, not just WLS. HUGGGSSSS!!!!

264/134/150/138
pre/now/Dr.G/My Goal
AT GOAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
BB!!

18 years out and still at a weight I love.

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