All I can do is cry today
Dearest Peaches-You had the surgery to save your life! Don't wish that life away. You are a creature of God and he doen't make junk! I too think you may be suffering from some clinical depression. If it has gottten to this stage, I think you need help forma therapist and psychiatrist for some talk therapy and medications to help get you over this period at least. All of this takes times and there is hope after the weight loss to correct the problem surgically. My prayers go out to you! Please don't be afraid to ask for help to get through this rough time! BIG HUGS TO YOU!

Peaches I am sending you hugs and kisses and prayers. Please remenber things will get better. Give it time and if you need to talk to someone please email me and I will talk and give you my phone number if you want. [email protected] Shelia
Peaches;
Everyone before me has said everything I wanted to say to you, but I do want to add one more thing.....
Problem with us is we all have such a shaky self esteem as it is, that its hard to "see the forest for all the trees" (how's that for being philosphical!)
Pretend you are the one giving a response to someone else who wrote what you are feeling....what would you say to them? Write it down and read it back to yourself out loud. I'm giving you a big "cyber" hug right now and my dog is jumping up on your chest and giving you a big sloppy doggie kiss!
You can get thru this and you will get thru this!

Jewelring
POST-OP LAP RNY JANUARY 9, 2007!
Where would my weight be today if I was on WW all this time? Not here, thats for sure!
POST-OP LAP RNY JANUARY 9, 2007!

Where would my weight be today if I was on WW all this time? Not here, thats for sure!
I wear a swimsuit with skirt attached. It hides a ton of flaws. You just started dont be so damb hard on yourself.
Look I think your a real nice lady, but sweetheart we all have set backs. Maybe you should start seeing someone about how you are feeling. I am saying this with total love and respect but with you lately its either really good , or just the depths of dispare. There has to be some middle ground or your going to drive yourself nuts.
Please feel better and by God get a swimsuit with a nice cute little frilly skirt......... love ya toots
Peaches please check you personal messages I gave you my phone number and if you dont have long distance please give me yours I promise to keep it private I am worried about you and just want to hear your voice I promise not to flame you in any way.
Dr. Clements saved me!!! Thank you Dr, Clements!!! If life deals you lemons, make lemonade. I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.
Starting weight 267/ currently 110 below goal
Starting weight 267/ currently 110 below goal
Hey, I hope you are feeling a bit better. I think most folks are right, in saying that it's probably the hormones and the after surgery depression thing... I was in the same type of place as you 6 weeks out or so. I'm also on antidepressants now (for already exsisting unrelated depression), and I'm in counceling, and both of those things are helping SO much, I highly recommend one or the other or both to everyone if you are depressed.
I hate that area of my body too. I am so embarrassed by it. My fiance doesn't seem to mind, and even when I talk about wanting surgery to fix a few things he basically says "I wont argue with you if you want it, but I'll never tell you that you need it".
Honestly, if I don't get surgery for anything else, I will probably want to fix that area.
I HATE swimsuit shopping too. I used to wear the skirty ones, which are cute, but these days I just get a cute pair of shorts to wear with the suit... or get the tankini style suit with a shorts type bottom.
Sarah Joy
Lap Band 7/2/04
280/210/140~160
Lap Band 7/2/04
280/210/140~160
Peaches,
You know, I really wanted to reach out to you when I read your post. I'm pre-op, and I am big down there as well, so I have fears of similar things. But then I was reading everyone else's posts and reading....and reading...... and reading....... and reading...... and then I realized, how could someone POSSIBLY feel bad with this many people rooting for you?! WOW your SO loved!!!! Those handful of "friends" that you "lost" compared to the numbers of true friends that you have obviously gained here cannot nearly compare!!!! And, as I was reading your profile, I came to the bottom where you gave your reason for wanting the surgery to begin with - to live, not die. All good things require good hard work, and usually has several stumbling blocks in the way before getting to the goal. You just have to hang onto that original desire and hang on tight. Life is always willing to through a wrench in the whole bunch of things, but you've made it this far and have so much to look forward to now, more than ever before. So hang in there with all of us TRUE friends, you'll be fine.
PS I've added you as a friend. Please contact me anytime if you need a shoulder. I don't live but an hour away, if you want to meet and talk.
God only knows what I'll look like if I ever really lose any of this weight! I have to say that I am looking forward to seeing what I really look like.
I don't think I have a "favorite" body part at all -- nor have I ever. Of course, I am not all that girlie, either. I don't shave (anywhere, lol). I get my hair done maybe four times a year. I don't wear makeup. I do wear dresses but they look like tents (that's not to cover up but to cover me -- I don't like how tight clothes feel).
You'll get through this, too.
Take care and know you are loved,
Lori
