I NEED TO VENT ABOUT MY MIL AND DH!!!

Ms. Mardi.   You realllly need a vacation.  I would not like to do the back to back either.    Some people do this all the time, but I just feel the energy sap out of me thinking about it.  I also had one of those MIL.    She is gone now these last 15 years, so things have been a lot calmer.    We actually moved 1200 miles away from her to get let DH get rid of the guilt that he wasn't at her beck and call anymore.   Then when she was ill with cancer, I financed DH and DD to move back to an apartment near her so he could take care of her and salve his own consience for the years he spent so far away from her.  Ah, sweetie.  I wish you good luck with Tom.   It's a tough one to break.   Tink

thank you so much tink, i'm so upset right now. it's just too much for me to do in too short of a time frame. i just can't handle it. i'm just waiting for one hr. and about 15 min. to pass so i can get this over with. actually she's such an early bird, i could just call her myself and be done with the problem. and my step-mil is an angel. mardi

Don't miss Lexington Mardi, that would be cutting off your nose to spite your face. I can't make it but soooo many people are waiting to meet you. My daughter told me that the smartest thing I have ever done was to marry an ORPHAN the second time around. I agree. Good luck, get your own way with this problem. Try to remember , "you get more flies with honey than with vinegar". That's what my mother always told me. Annette

Ok so 1st I though what I want to know was when my hubbys mom slept around Cause i'm telling you my hubby and yours must have the same moma but then you said she was nice and sweet LOL they are definatly not related. However we do get along better now after *drum roll* the incident as I call it. (all urdywords will be ***** seeing how I was not in church at the time) Heres what happend I go to help my hubby  at an auction when we 1st got married now up to this point I only seen my inlaws like 2 time one  when we got married and now i now why, he was affraid hes momma would run me off. well im setting taking up money and here she comes up to the table with about 20 people milling  about and says real hateful. "the only reason you mrried my son was for his money" to which I reply not to nicely "if i wanted to marry some one for money I'd have picked a ***** millionaire not someone on a $493 disability check!" everyone around just died she swelled up like a possum and stormed out and low and behold my chicken of a hubby comes up he was hiding outside because he knew what she was gonna do.  I told him under not certain terms would i ever set foot  in her home and he was married to me and he better start taking up for me when she was like that. well after almost a year i see her at the hospital and she gives me a hug (I about dropped dead from shock) and says shes sorry that she was afraid i wouldnt take care of steve because none of his other wives did and she knows better now and invited me to christmas. I said i was sorry to that i was just upset because they did not give me a chance. I went to christmas ok now a funny ting after dinner i get up and start washing dishes she looks at me strange and says what are you doing I  said well you cooked the least I could do is wash things up she looks shocked then looks over at my SIL and says Well patrica never did that. I about died she was talking to  patrica who hopped up and started cleaning  with a vengencenow we get along better I dont think anyone ever stood up to her before. *rockie them starts playing * sorry so long i ramble myself.

that's quite a story. wow. i get to see her on thanksgiving and have her here for x-mas. i don't know if it's my bipolar but i feel like she's being shoved down my throat the longer that we're married. mardi

Hiya Mardi I know you feel a lot better now!!!! Letting of the steam is very important and if you can not do it come her and we all have a enough shoulders and backs where you can let it out. Thats what i do if i have to. Keep going you will win trust me. Hugssssssssssss God Bless Sabine

thank you sabine, for listening. i did have to let it all out. we just got back and i have to looking forward to driving there for thanksgiving again and then her here for x-mas. mardi

Marty, Lets see if I understand this, your husband is giving up sleep to drive you to your doctors appts and see his family then turn around and come home and then take off more time and take you to Lexington so you can meet all of us?  And you aren't kissing this man and kneeling at his feet and telling him what a god he is?  Hes making the sacrifice not you, he wants to do something nice for you and and see his family.  The guys a peach dont give him **** over it.  Gesh. Hugs Heidi P.S. You better come to Lexington I wanna meet you so badly and this wonderful man of yours.

heidi, he is a very sweet man and treats me so good but these appts. could easily have been changed. he needed to see 'momma', that's how i see it. and when after driving all the way to see his mom and go to my appts., i felt the appts. were useless. the dietician was brand new, out of school and all she told me was that i was buying too good of vitamins (i order the same ones as 'tooter'. and to get more of my proteins from my food, other than shakes. there was no dr. appt. it was a gay, male nurse practitoner(i do  not mind gay people at all), who just asked how i felt and prescribed a bowel softener for me. never looked at my belly or anything. he said that there is never any bloodwor****il the yr. checkup. HE DID GIVE ME PERMISSION TO HAVE A COUPLE OF DRINKS IN LEX though. and sat. was spent listening to my adopted korean 3 and 4 yr. niece and nephew be sassy and loud and naughty at his mom's condo. tom's brother asked mikayla if  she'd like to have nice, long, curly, red hair like aunt marty and she started screaming and crying. i suppose that to ask that to a little asian girl with sleek, straight, black hair was a shocker for her. and we go back for thanksgiving. and then have mil  here for x-mas. i am not a happy camper at all even if  dh  is a sweetheart. i am freshly home and so burnt out with the worse headache and we just picked up the dogs from the kennel, which was over $50 oh, we're going to lex. i want to meet all of you too but i need to calm down from this stupid, unnecessary trip to mn. sorry to be still bit**ing. i guess i just need a nap. and will be in lex.  plus have 39 emails to answer about this and don't and can't even begin. i probably won't bother. mardi

Darlin, WELCOME to the wonderful world of MOTHER IN LAWS