What do you say when....

on 10/20/06 1:04 am
on 10/20/06 1:38 am - oklahoma city, OK
Lap Band 7/2/04
280/210/140~160
I'm generally a very nasty person when it comes to someone attcking my principals. especially when it comes to something as serious as my WLS.
I've been down this road a couple of times and the conversation takes a bad turn right after I set my heals and take a big breath,,,,,
"I appreciate your concern for my moral fibre. However, after agonizing over this decision for nearly a year I decided to risk my life and have the surgery. I would rather die on my own terms. Now I know everything has come easy for you and you can't possibly understand that if I don't lose the weight and I mean right now, I will be dead before my youngest gets out of elementary school. Sorry, I'm bent on being a pain in the ass to both my kids when they are adults and I have retired. So if you feel the need to offer me any other advice on my life feel just as free to keep it. If you want to support me while I go through it thank you. I doubt you have the gumption to do that because it would be easier to ignore me on the way down as you did on the way up and that is after all what we are talking about,,,, the easy way out. Right?" That is a conglomeration of the four times I have had that remark thrown my way. Each one was a little nastier than the one before. Two were actually after I had the WLS. I think they meant well but,,,,,Lucky for me they were of no significance to me so when they disappeared and "took the easy way out" of our relationship it was a win win situation. Now, that's just me. I am a take no prisoners kind of person. Good luck with your dilema. It's a tough one. kp