My name is Marianne and I am dying

(deactivated member)
on 11/3/06 7:41 pm - NC
Thanks Jeanne.  I tried to keep my grip on the life preserver.  It gets kind of slippery, though!   You have a good Saturday, too.  I'm going back to bed! Marianne
dcox94
on 11/3/06 8:09 pm - North Wilmington, DE

Marianne, You are truly blessed with the wonderful ability to be resilent with all the bad stuff you face.  I do commend you to be able to get up each day and still keep a positive focus on you.  Sometimes that is such a tough order for people.  I do hope something can be done for you to elevate the pain and suffering.  I do understand what you say about knowing how you will die.  I often wonder do I want to know or am I okay with poof gone one day.  I am too much a control freak so if I knew my direction I would be trying to change it.  This site helped me take control over my weight by giving me insight to this surgery....That I am totally grateful for!  You are right about OT items that can spin you but you can choose to ignore them and move to the topics that you feel will help you to grow or you want to help that person with so they can grow.  I am so glad there are so many people in this world willing to help with this journey.  Its funny before I thought about surgery I thought I was the only person that was over 400 lbs.  I never looked at others and I surely didn't want them looking at me.  That has changed.  I love looking at others and I hope they are looking at me.  Continue to be positive!

 

Debbie

Life is too short to eat lousy food!

Hugs and Fleece Blankets

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chastity allen
on 11/3/06 9:17 pm - goose creek, SC
OMG! I had NO idea. I am so sorry.  I had complications after my surgery (my pouch did not work at all). I thought I was going to do and leave my 3 little ones here all alone. My hubby was in Iraq (again) and I had to depend on my family to help with the kids. It was the worst 3 months of my life.  What my family could not help me with was understanding what it is like to be Super Morbidly Obese, that is where I turned to my OH family. Guess what? They carried me through it. They told me that I was going to be OK and it was ok to look for attention here. We all need it at some point in time or another.  Whether it is a bad day....a bad hair day....or you have a TRUE emergency. I have always found that there is someone on here who wants to pray for you and who wants you to know that you are as important to them as the sister who lives down the street. My husband frequently tours Iraq and Afghanistan and this is one of the few places I turn to for support. The support I get here is as tangeble (sp) as a hug, and some days it is the only thing that keeps my head above the water.  What type of outlook has your doctor given you? I hope that if you EVER need anything....well, email me privately and I will try to talk to you. I am praying for you right now and I know God will shine His awesome light on you! Take care and now your OH family love you!

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***AlyCat ***
on 11/3/06 9:26 pm - Panama City, FL

I am so sorry to hear of your illness this must be a really hard time for you and your family. You will be in my prayers Marianne. I hope you get the medic treatment you need ASAP!! We will all be here fore you whenever you need us! I hope you feel better real soon!

 

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And the people who matter don’t mind! 
    

Princess T.
on 11/3/06 9:30 pm - Licking County, OH
Everyone is facing battles, some are fiercer than others...sounds like you got a bad one.  But you shouldn't take the lack of response, or the overwhelming response to an OT as a sign of people not caring about your battle.  Sometimes we just don't know how to respond other than to say we're sorry....the OT posts, I like them.  It helps keep things from being so serious here all the time.  I know it is hard for you....but to dwell in negativitiy won't help (and I'm not saying you are - you obviously are trying hard to keep your spirits UP)...my point is this... If you don't get the attention you need on the boards - repost - and repost and repost until you get what you need.  Everyone here cares and will do what they can when they can. Hang in there.  I'll pray for you and better health.  I'll pray for us all to have better health.



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Jazelle Hall
on 11/3/06 9:52 pm, edited 11/3/06 9:57 pm - Orange Park, FL
RNY on 08/07/06 with

It is the way people look at the board and use the resent post list on the home page that makes it seem like importain posts are being lost. They are not but people are schooled to look at the short cut rather than go to the topic listing. There are several forums that join auto into the general posting and not all know their side post is going to cause a major rotation. If the system here was more like say a PHPBB board you would see yes a per post list but also it would be one you can page through beyond a max of 20.  The problem is this is a social board with a common theme. I would not use this board for extreamly importain issues that really should be talked about between yourself and your doctor. Yes the board is broken down to several areas but still you are looking at a large membership and that will cause a big turn over. They could break it down even more into mini boards but in general people want to keep thing simple. The only way I could think of better noting importain topics is to make a urgent posting section that was seperated from the general board listing. Yes that would be one more block on your home page in fact maybe several. I know I thought earlier I was posting on the off topic board and it turned out the post showed up in the general posts. It was a info post for those who would like to join in on National Writer's Month.  OH is a huge system and yes things will fall into the cracks and not all of us will see it all. When you go to the topic listing the numbers go from 1,2,3,4,,,,200, 500, 2000... pages or more. That is a lot to weed through and often for the first 100 pages that is just posts from today. I do not in any way say it is wrong to post a hello, or good going. or keep up the good work. People need to hear it even I do once in a while from another person who understands what I am going through.  The big thing is to understand this is a social board and while yes you will get answers to importain issues it might take a lot of weeding through. While I do think this site is to keep people informed I do not think it ever was intended to be anything more for the forums than a social gathering where we all could talk and communicate between each other. To tell people not to post here defeats the purpose of the board and will cause many who will need the help to turn away.

Help starts at home and while we can support and give some advice we are only strangers going through our own journies. We are not in your shoes. The only advice I can give as a person is to kick the hell out of your insurance and tell them to move their asses. And if they won't to use your local media you will be surpised how just a small newspaper or TV crew can make the wheels move.  I know with just one phone call I was able to get refunds for hundreds of ex-colleage students when the legal system had not forced a colleage that had closed years earlier to fork over the refund. The money was just sitting there and the owner was waiting for the time limit so he could claim it. I and other due to just talking to a news reporter and appearing on TV received around $4,000 in refunds. I had no money to go after the colleage but the local TV got them moving. Do not think I don't feel for you. I think you have fallen through the cracks and suffered needlessly. And I understand your being upset. But I think you are viewing this board incorrectly. As for people's blogs well they can post what they wish in them. I rarely read them and you can email many on this board who might from their posts have some suggestion for you. Do they have the answers? No. Each person's answer is their own and only you can search for your own answers.

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(deactivated member)
on 11/3/06 9:57 pm - Reston, VA
RNY on 08/29/06 with
Again, I am sorry if I added to your pain yesterday.  Your situation is the scariest thing I have ever heard.  I hope you get the treatment you need soon. Kelli
Amy Williams
on 11/4/06 1:02 am
Marianne, Yes when something like yesterday happens it does take away from the support, but it's also a sounding board to express feelings that members are feeling.  We want our members to be able to talk in an open fashion as long as it stays within reason.  Unfortunately not for everyone did it stay in a conversation type format and feelings got hurt in some threads.  We try very hard to let people express how they really feel and work it out together.  We are glad for the most part it was worked out and feeling got to be expressed and worked out.  When we designed the "friends" listing it was not to isolate people, it was to help them stay in connect with members they felt a connection with, and give members some privacy, some wanted to be able to limit who can few photos and blogs, this gives them that option.  Yes there are people and always will be people who are closer than others, if the correct term is a cliche then I guess that's the term.  This happens in all walks of our lives.  This is not something we can change,  we can't change who people like/dislike/ignore/ etc.  We just want a place for members to get support, build some friendships.  There will be members who get more replies, have more friends, but most of them have been here literally for years.  You have to give support to get support.  I have been there.  Over 4 years ago, I knew NO ONE.  I just stepped in gave support and here I am still giving support 4 years later.  I love this community.  Everyone here to me is my friend and many people feel that same way.  If you want or need a friend, all you have to do is ask.  There are tons of people here, ready, willing and wanting friends too.  We are here for you! (((HUGS)))


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peacefuldaizy
on 11/4/06 1:31 am - South of Buffalo, NY
I am definitely sorry to hear about your problems, and I wish you the very best!  I personally enjoy the sillier posts and ones that are OT.  My life is serious enough as it is.   And, yes, there is a certain amount of "cliques" here ... Often it just takes making a lot of posts, etc. for people to get to "know" you.   Hugs, Annette
lorisb
on 11/4/06 6:46 am - Vancouver, WA
I don't understand why insurance hasn't been willing/able to pay for your surgery (non-wls related, if necessary) before.  I am so confused.  I have a feeling you are, too (on top of angry, frustrated, disappointed and all those others I can't even imagine). I just see your condition as being an emergency situation -- not something to take a wait and see approach.  What happens if things were to get dramatically worse quickly?  Would insurance even pay? Oh, well.  I can't do anything about that.  I just want to wish you all the best and hope you get your approval SOON!!! Take care, Lori
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