My name is Marianne and I am dying
Marianne, You are truly blessed with the wonderful ability to be resilent with all the bad stuff you face. I do commend you to be able to get up each day and still keep a positive focus on you. Sometimes that is such a tough order for people. I do hope something can be done for you to elevate the pain and suffering. I do understand what you say about knowing how you will die. I often wonder do I want to know or am I okay with poof gone one day. I am too much a control freak so if I knew my direction I would be trying to change it. This site helped me take control over my weight by giving me insight to this surgery....That I am totally grateful for! You are right about OT items that can spin you but you can choose to ignore them and move to the topics that you feel will help you to grow or you want to help that person with so they can grow. I am so glad there are so many people in this world willing to help with this journey. Its funny before I thought about surgery I thought I was the only person that was over 400 lbs. I never looked at others and I surely didn't want them looking at me. That has changed. I love looking at others and I hope they are looking at me. Continue to be positive!
Debbie
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It is the way people look at the board and use the resent post list on the home page that makes it seem like importain posts are being lost. They are not but people are schooled to look at the short cut rather than go to the topic listing. There are several forums that join auto into the general posting and not all know their side post is going to cause a major rotation. If the system here was more like say a PHPBB board you would see yes a per post list but also it would be one you can page through beyond a max of 20. The problem is this is a social board with a common theme. I would not use this board for extreamly importain issues that really should be talked about between yourself and your doctor. Yes the board is broken down to several areas but still you are looking at a large membership and that will cause a big turn over. They could break it down even more into mini boards but in general people want to keep thing simple. The only way I could think of better noting importain topics is to make a urgent posting section that was seperated from the general board listing. Yes that would be one more block on your home page in fact maybe several. I know I thought earlier I was posting on the off topic board and it turned out the post showed up in the general posts. It was a info post for those who would like to join in on National Writer's Month. OH is a huge system and yes things will fall into the cracks and not all of us will see it all. When you go to the topic listing the numbers go from 1,2,3,4,,,,200, 500, 2000... pages or more. That is a lot to weed through and often for the first 100 pages that is just posts from today. I do not in any way say it is wrong to post a hello, or good going. or keep up the good work. People need to hear it even I do once in a while from another person who understands what I am going through. The big thing is to understand this is a social board and while yes you will get answers to importain issues it might take a lot of weeding through. While I do think this site is to keep people informed I do not think it ever was intended to be anything more for the forums than a social gathering where we all could talk and communicate between each other. To tell people not to post here defeats the purpose of the board and will cause many who will need the help to turn away.
Help starts at home and while we can support and give some advice we are only strangers going through our own journies. We are not in your shoes. The only advice I can give as a person is to kick the hell out of your insurance and tell them to move their asses. And if they won't to use your local media you will be surpised how just a small newspaper or TV crew can make the wheels move. I know with just one phone call I was able to get refunds for hundreds of ex-colleage students when the legal system had not forced a colleage that had closed years earlier to fork over the refund. The money was just sitting there and the owner was waiting for the time limit so he could claim it. I and other due to just talking to a news reporter and appearing on TV received around $4,000 in refunds. I had no money to go after the colleage but the local TV got them moving. Do not think I don't feel for you. I think you have fallen through the cracks and suffered needlessly. And I understand your being upset. But I think you are viewing this board incorrectly. As for people's blogs well they can post what they wish in them. I rarely read them and you can email many on this board who might from their posts have some suggestion for you. Do they have the answers? No. Each person's answer is their own and only you can search for your own answers.



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