Having to prove I'm single...WTH???

I feel your pain!   I have been married for 4 years now and I.......only I.....had bought a house in my name ONLY.............when I was 24...................( I was 31 when I married)...............and when I sold the house soon after getting married, my new husband had to sign permission to sell also!   State of VA said it was legally 1/2 his!!!!!!!!!! I was furious...........not that he took 1/2 of the money or anything...............but damn...........that was MY house and MY money that I had worked for! I don't understand some of those laws at all. Sometimes life would be so much simplier to be single!  I think............. Try not to stress it...........I know, easier said than done............but stay focused on the prize at the end....your surgery!  :) Good luck Leslie

...are you single???? (lol).  Wishing you the best on your upcoming surgery!!!! and I know all about someone dialing the wrong number to send a fax and it ends up with you getting a phone call every three minutes or so to get the annoying buzz in your ears ... happened all day yesterday ... then I got a call saying they were sending a fax and there is something wrong with the fax machine ... I said there is nothing wrong with the fax machine - check and make sure you are dialing the right number -- annoying to say the least .... Hang in there my beautiful sista - "settle down before you stroke out" (lol) - love that one - I am going to use it on my daughter (lol)

On July 10, 2008 at 7:21 AM Pacific Time, ~Simply~ Sarahlicious wrote:

So my next surgery is suppose to be in 3 weeks....that is a whole other stressor right now...but anyway...trying to get the ducks in a row...so yesterday I fill out the online request to take money from my 401k to pay for my out-of-pocket medical expenses. And it's so irriating because the request can not be proccessed until they receive a waiver verifying either that my spouse agrees to the withdrawal or that I'm single. WTH? First of all this is MY money, none of it is even the employer contribution, I am only allowed to borrow from my contribution so it's MY money...so if I did have a hubby I'll be d****d if they would have any say over what I do with MY money. But I'm no married...I am SINGLE....so I have to prove it...how? Oh...have someone in HR sign off that I'm single...and exactly how would they know for sure. Now this wasn't a huge surprise as I've borrowed before and had the form signed etc...which annoys me even more than I have to do this again. So I take the form over to HR yesterday and leave it for the lady who needs to sign it. I left my ext. for her to call when it was signed. I left early yesterday and figured I missed the call I would just swing by on my way into work this morning. Well she's in her office with someone but the door was open so when she looks up I just ask quickly if she had the form. Yes, and I'll give you a call once it's signed. Ummm ok...1 page form, no complicated, just sign it already. But honestly it's not her I'm mad at, I'm sure there is a procedure she must do, copy it for records, etc....it's just soooo annoying that I must prove I'm single...I mean I'm creatively thinking in my head "ways" to which I could prove I'm single....lol. ETA....speaking of annoying can someone please figure out who the heck keeps trying to fax something my ext....my phone keeps ringing and ringing and I can't tell them to stop because it's just an incoming FAX.  O.k. this is when my mom would tell me to "settle" down....before I stroke out.

1)  Proving you're single can be done with a doctor's statement of virginity ... oops, my bad, wrong century!  2)  When someone tries to fax something to your phone line just "forward" it to your fax machine number. DeeDee

1)  Proving you're single can be done with a doctor's statement of virginity ... oops, my bad, wrong century!   Don't laugh...what's the length of time before it come back...lol.... 2)  When someone tries to fax something to your phone line just "forward" it to your fax machine number. Yeah, I don't have a fax in my office...I receive faxes in another office...plus...no one should be faxing me anything...lol.

Hi Cutie, That is unbelievable. I don't get it. I wanted to see you profile and it says you don't have one. I know I have been to it before. Could you tell me or add me so I can see your story. Hugs LYnn

Yep, my hubby had to sign too when I did a withdrawal from my retirement. What about providing a copy of your 2007 tax return to show that you are single?

Sarah, this requirement is due to federal law that has been around for more than 20 years.  Whenever someone takes a distribution or loan from a qualified retirment plan, they have to either prove they are single or obtain a notarized waiver from the spouse indicating he or she approves of the distribution.  This law was originally passed to protect women who were traditional homemakers and who depended on their working husbands for support in their retirement years.  The law also requires a participant in a retirement plan to provide a 50% continuation of their benefit to their spouse upon the retiree's death.  It may be a pain but the law has kept many women (particularly from my parents' generation) from living in poverty after the death of their husbands. Good luck with your upcoming surgery!  Laurie 

In regards to the form... ARGH!!! Is all I have to say about that. In regards to the fax signal, can you transfer the call to a fax number somewhere within your building? Or, can you *69 to find out the incoming number?

Fax Machines :)  How funny, As I am reading your posts (at work) the same thing just happened to me. I tried doing some of the suggestions offered here but didn't work. The phone system here is a little wierd. I think to transfer a call you have to hit a feature buttom and go through a few steps. I was thinking that you could always just forward it to someone elses main line. You know someone you don't much care for and let them deal with the annoying fax rings.  And to think, everyone around here thinks I'm just so sweet. Boy do I have them fooled. As for your situation with your money, think of it in a positive way. With this law in effect that means should you ever get married you get 1/2 of everything from him too. MARRY BIG BABY! Sandy

Yeah...I just laugh that an HR person signing a form is suppose to prove I'm single....  As for the fax...had it not been my direct extension I could forward it but I was expecting other calls ...and in between the fax calls I was getting legit calls...although I like the forward them to someone I don't like too well...lol.