I don't fit in on WL message boards...

I have felt and often still do feel that way.

I didn't have WLS to never enjoy food again. I had it to give me some control over my portions and what I absorb. I am far from perfect - some would even say, "OMG I can't believe you re-routed your intestines to eat THAT." I re-routed my intestines to be normal, not to be on a diet for the rest of my life.

I indulge - a lot sometimes. I am well aware of my weight. I weigh myself every morning to ensure I keep my numbers in check.

I also have a bowl of Cheerios, or rice krispies with milk every night. Sometimes it is fruit loops, or cinnamon toast crunch (always have loved cereal).

I had a cinnabon the other day. Only half, but OMG - so good.
 
When Henry *** my monthly visitor) is here I rarely make it through the week without at least 2 mint musketeer bars.

I LOVE crusty bread!

Now, do I eat this EVERYDAY (besides cereal), NO.

I don't even do it every week.

Most "normal" people don't.

You have to come to grips with why you got fat in the first place. If you can win the battle over your demons, you can eat this way without fear.

All that said, the first 2 years I was vigilant about what went into my mouth. I did not eat ANYTHING I was not supposed to until I reached my goal weight and for 4 months after.

I still do at least 2 protein shakes a day. When I don't, my weight creeps up.

I drink 140 Oz's of water everyday, if I don't, my weight creeps up.

I don't exercise regularly.

Im a junk food junkie! No I have a bad sweet tooth and dont dump. Let me tell you I make my share of bad food choices. I try not to and am doing better but IM HUMAN. We all are. Ive lost 103lbs and know if i dont get my butt in gear that last 34lbs aint gonna come off. BUT IVE LOST 103LBS!! I obviously am not eating sweets like I was pre-op. I just have to learn better moderation skills. Everybody eats something they shouldnt. Dont let your "splurges" keep you from posting. We're all in this together!

It just sucks that some people take their WLS to be their new found religion.  They take it as an opportunity to pull out their "holier than thou" attitude and their soapbox and preach to the masses. OH SHUT THE F*** UP!!! Last time I knew there wasn't a "WLS Best Little Girl" award - it's like they think if they are the poster chid for WLS they get more points for being better, doing it right or whatever.

Your weight loss journey is going to be different than mine. So what?!?  I don't eat crap all the time - but I do sometimes.  Last week I had a few onion rings, this past weekend I ate about 5 potato chips, had a few bites of wedding cake and 3 cream cheese mints. The horrors!! I've also lost over 140 lbs since surgery in December.

I think people who get all crazed over what other people are eating (other than the over the top examples of pizza a week out, etc) are just as obsessive about food as they were before surgery, judgmental and very controlling.  I suspect that they are barely managing to control their own eating so they feel the need to control everyone else's food choices.  No one who is secure in their own journey and food choices needs to jump all over someone else's...I feel there is a difference between commenting about one's food choices when responding to a post and having to be judging and controlling.

Jana

Jana,

Great post. 

It cracks me up.  Flame and instigate an new post op until they are spewing right back and then start thread after thread mocking them.  I'd be spewing some venom too 3 weeks post op, in pain, scared and on pain meds.

Question everything, their intelligence, their commitment etc. 

But never question why it is that they feel the need to crawl so far up this person's arse to begin with or what it accomplishes that is productive or practical.

Oh not, lets not go there.  We are not trying to jurt anyone.  We are just trying to help!

Yeah right.

I haven't had surgery yet. But I want to let you all know that your comments here have made me less scared about going through with it.

My local real world support group is chocked full of folks who talk like their very strict daily regimens are the only way to go even after 3 or 4 years. I know they're doing what's best for them, but geeze. The woman who said she works out 4 hours a day really scared me. If I had to work out 4 hours a day, I'd only be able to get in 2 hours of sleep!

I realize if I do I have the surgery that it will be a lot of hard work to get the weight off for the first two years. But I eventually want some semblance of normal. The surgery will get me to the my daughter's wedding, but I want to be able to at least taste the cake. (She's 2 1/2 now.)

Thank you.

Patti

I know how u feel honey
((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))

I had someone reply to a post who was the meanest b*ich in the world
and other ppl supported her with her post
I felt so picked on

I don't know how ppl can be mean spirted on a support web page
I mean sometimes I pour my heart out on these pages
and a mean post can really hurt at times 
I mean I don't need kiddy gloves 
but it can hurt 

I've gotten better at taking the good 
and discarding the rest 

be who u are
there are some great ppl who will support u 
even if the mean ppl suck 
theres still good here  

I want to thank everyone for their honest responses!!  They are all great!